Saturday 6 February 2016
Crane collapse at New York City
7 Signs You Will Be A Good Father
There are characteristics and personal traits that can empower you as an excellent father,so here they are:
1. You can prioritize your Time Decisively
As a working father, the ability to prioritize is a key weapon to have in your armory. This will enable you to optimize your use of time in the workplace, which in turn means that you can return home in a relaxed and focused mood. Without the need to constantly check emails or handle professional calls, you will be able to prioritize time with your child and make the most of those precious moments before they are put down to sleep. Time is the greatest gift you can give your child as a father, so those with excellent prioritization and organisation skills are likely to be excellent fathers.
2. You are Playful and Spontaneous
The demands of nine-to-five work can alter your personality over time, gradually eroding your playfulness and instinctive sense of spontaneity. This can lead to work place stress and anxiety, which can permeate every area of your life and impact negatively on your child. If you have managed to retain your sense of fun, however, you find it easy to engage your child through play and enjoy meaningful, spontaneous interaction. This will help you to bond with your child and fulfill your all-consuming role as a father.3. You are Nurturing
Whether you assume the role of a mother or a father, a good parent is nurturing and is selfless by nature. When a child is sick or injured, he or she becomes extremely vulnerable and needs their parents to provide unconditional support until they have recovered. If you have these character traits and are able to place the needs of others before your own, you have the core skills required to become a loved and influential father.4. You Understand the Need to set an Example
While it is possible to hone sensory development and teach children through words alone, infants learn most effectively when they observe others. This is especially true with regards to relationships and interpersonal interaction, so parents play a significant role in teaching best practice by setting a positive example. If you already grasp this and understand the importance of your how your behavior may be perceived, you will be an effective father and role-model to your child.5. You are Patient
Lets’ face facts; being a parent is arguably the single biggest test of your emotional control and patience. Younger children do not understand the principles of reasoning, for example, while they may also be slower at completing certain tasks until their cognitive development reaches an advanced stage. This can be extremely frustrating (especially for highly skilled or intelligent individuals), but those with the potential to be great fathers are able to control these negative emotions and manage similar situations with genuine grace. They can also strike a compromise with other and communicate calmly, even during times of stress or duress.6. You are Financially Responsible
We have already touched on the importance of setting a good positive example, but this extends beyond everyday interactions. It is also crucial that all fathers are fiscally responsible and actively teach their child about the importance of frugality, especially with the threat of a global recession looming large for 2016. Good fathers have a desire to financially support their family and reinforce good money management principles, so it is important that you are able to prioritize saving and frugal responsibility at all times.7 You understand the value of Teamwork
It is easy to become pigeon-holed in our everyday relationships, as we become increasingly rigid when ensuring that each individual fulfills their household chores and responsibilities. There is an occasional need for flexibility, however, where we must work as a team with our loved ones or Assume additional responsibilities for a brief period of time. This is especially true for new parents, as the addition of a child can create considerable pressure and consume a huge amount of your time. If you understand this, the need of teamwork and its value to a successful relationship, you can use this to your advantage and emerge as a productive father figure.
Written by Lewis Humphries
Lewis is a freelancer writer, blogger and researcher who works for Shift Insurance and He specializes in the fields of finance, business, digital marketing and technology. He also has a passion for healthy living and exercise.
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How to Stop Yelling at Your Kids
That's why i am offering up 10 tips to help break us all of this very bad habit. Try them out.
1. Stack the odds. Does it drive you crazy that your kids likes to dump every foodstuff known to man on the floor? Chances are, if he can't reach the cereal and rice boxes, he can't pour them out. Basic babyproofing is a real sanity saver; the more intact your sanity, the less you'll yell.
2. Tune in to yourself. Make note of when you're most likely to lose it and troubleshoot accordingly. Is it first thing in the morning before you've had your coffee? Then get your husband to play with your child while you savor that first cup of the day. Or buy a coffeemaker with a timer that starts brewing before you wake up.
3. Lower your expectations. If you find yourself yelling at your kids all the time, you may simply be expecting too much of them. There's only so long a baby can sit crammed into a car seat or a toddler can walk in a mall. Acquaint yourself with what's developmentally appropriate and then tweak your actions; one hour-long trip to the supermarket rather than hours of errands will reduce whining, and by association, yelling.
4. Just whisper. It sounds weird, we know. But if your child has to strain to hear you, he's less likely to tune you out. And it's nearly impossible to sound angry (and scary) when you're speaking softly.
5. Be strategic. Find ways to accomplish stressful tasks without your children in tow. If all of you lose it in the grocery store, shop for groceries online after they're in bed -- or even head out to the store after nine, when it's empty and you can shop quickly and efficiently.
6. Adopt a mantra. Find a word or phrase to distract yourself from yelling and remind you that your child isn't trying to drive you nuts -- he's just a little kid after all. "He's only 1, he's only 1," is one example. Repeat it to yourself several times when you feel like you're about to explode.
7. Try the big squeeze. Squeezable stress toys, such as balls and dolls, are designed to keep executives from blowing their stacks. There's no reason why they can't work for moms, too!
8. Get physical. For some, yelling offers a form of physical release. Jogging in place or doing a jumping jack or two can distract you and give you the outlet you need when you feel like yelling. You probably won't want to do this in public, of course, but at home anything goes. Who knows? You may lose a few pounds!
9. Ask for help. Taking care of young children can be exhausting to say the least. And yelling is a definite sign of stress and fatigue, which means you need (and deserve) a break! Have your husband or a trusted babysitter step in for half a day so you can get some much-needed time to rejuvenate.
10. Beat it. If you know you're going to lose it and you're on your very last nerve, put your baby or toddler in a safe spot, such as his playpen or crib, and walk away for a few minutes. Tense and release your muscles, or count to 10 to help calm yourself down before you go back to baby.
Written by Isadora Fox
7 jailable traffic offences in Lagos
Below are the seven offences that offenders can either be fined, imprisoned or both.
+Driving an unlicensed vehicle
+Driving with a fake number plate
+Driving a vehicle with an unauthorized or defective number plate
+Driving with a forged driver’s licence
+Neglect of traffic directions
+Driving motorcycle without approved crash element by driver and passenger
+Operating vehicle within restricted routes or beyond official hours
Full Text of Traffic Law
The state government last Friday inaugurated five Mobile Court buses for road traffic offenders, with a pledge to end impunity on the roads.
The Chief Judge of the State, Justice Olufunmilayo Atilade and the State’s Attorney General, Kazeem Adeniji, restated their commitments to ridding Lagos of recklessness and impunity on the roads at the inauguration.
German spy says ISIS sending fighters disguised as refugees
Hans-Georg Maassen said the terrorist attacks in Paris last November had shown that Islamic State was deliberately planting terrorists among the refugees flowing into Europe.
"Then we have repeatedly seen that terrorists ... have slipped in camouflaged or disguised as refugees. This is a fact that the security agencies are facing," Maassen told reporters.
"We are trying to recognize and identify whether there are still more IS fighters or terrorists from IS that have slipped in," he added.
BREAKING:Veteran Actor critically ill at Uch
Olumide Bakare
According to reports, Olumide Bakare,A veteran Nigerian actor has been hospitalized at UCH, Ibadan since January 2nd after he was diagnosed of an undisclosed heart and lungs disease.
He
also reportedly needs several millions of naira for his treatment and
his colleagues are doing their part to spread the message and get more
people involved.
A Facebook post by Babajide Moronfolu, an ace radio/TV presenter and voice-over artiste, also revealed that veteran actor,Olumide Bakare, who has been on admission at UCH, Ibadan, will need some money to stay alive.
The post reads: ‘This
is Olumide Bakare on his sick bed at UCH, Ibadan diagnosed of
heart/Lungs disease, in his words to me ” Jide Omo Moronfolu, agbara mi o
ka mo o, ba mi be a
won Omo Nigeria mi won ran mi lowo pelu owo ati adura” Orisun TV has
taken the lead, pls join in raising funds for this great fantastic
actor, Chief Koko of Koko close,Olumide Bakare. A/C No. 3872003592. OLUMIDE BAKARE. ECOBANK.’
Steps to Break free from Generational Curses
- RECOGNIZE THE CURSE. In order to get set free and stay free, you have to admit you have a problem. That sounds simple, but we live in a day and age of denial. No matter what has happened to us in our lives, each of us are responsible for the choices and decisions we make. If you really want to be free, you will accept that responsibility.
- BREAK THE CURSE. As we apply God's Word and power to our lives, and as we choose to walk in righteousness and obedience to God, the chains of bondage will be broken. There are three steps to breaking a generational curse:
- (1) Give your life to Jesus; the blood of Jesus removes our sin; (2) Fight the battle with spiritual weapons (such as the Word of God and the armor of God); and (3) Regain control over the power of your will. When Jesus shed His blood, he bought back our willpower. Through the blood of Jesus, we can say no.
- REVERSE THE CURSE. There are three keys you can use to reverse the curse and live in victory: (1) Recognize your enemy. We battle not with flesh and blood. Our enemy is Satan, and the battle is spiritual. (2) Forgive people who have hurt you. (3) Treat causes, not symptoms (for example, insecurity, jealousy or fear).
- RELEASE THE POWER OF LOVE. To become people whose lives are transformed by the love of God, we must not only get rid of what holds us captive and keeps us in bondage, but we must also be filled up with love--for God, for self and for others. Unconditional love will release blessing. To know more of the love of God in your life, love those who have hurt you, those who have opposed you and those who have sinned against you.
- DEVELOP A GODLY ATTITUDE. A good attitude does not make everything go perfectly all the time. Matthew 5:45 tells us that God sends the rain on the just and the unjust. But our attitude determines whether the rain will water the seeds of our harvest or wash those seeds away. Get serious about where you are going with God by getting your attitude lined up with His Word, having faith and trusting in Him.
- ALIGN YOUR WORDS WITH GOD'S WORDS. Your words give evidence of your faith, and they should reflect God's good purposes for you. Exchange your negative words for positive words, exchange your negative thoughts for positive thoughts, and exchange your negative actions for positive actions.
- ACCEPT GOD'S ACCEPTANCE. Jesus didn't come to condemn us or punish us. He came to give us hope that our lives really can be different. We don't have to live under the burdens of pain, hurt, shame or sorrow. All the power in heaven is available to you to set you free from every chain that binds you. Corrie ten Boom said, "There is no pit so deep that God's love is not deeper still."
- WALK IN OBEDIENCE. In order to break free from the curses and walk in freedom, you must learn to walk in obedience to God's ways. We don't have to be perfect or without mistakes, but our hearts need to be surrendered and pliable toward God. We need to be moving forward in the things of God every day of our lives. Today's decisions determine our tomorrows. There is a miracle on the other side of your obedience.
You are the Prophet of Your Own Life!
Everything that you have, you have gotten by your own confessions, by your own words fueled by emotions, and the seen circumstances and situations of life. I Am saying to you today, if you will only line your words, and your confessions up with Mine, there will be supernatural changes in the things that you are receiving, and the harvest that you are having, and the things that are being produced in your life.
Then by the power of My Words in your mouth, you can uproot every wicked seed, every weed that has been planted in your garden. Everything that is growing up that you don’t want, that you say you don’t want will be planted with good, continue to say the same thing that I say and not let your emotions rule and dominant.
So I Am saying to you, line up your mouth completely with Mine. Today begin to decree, even as it was spoken you, speak to the chains, you speak to the bondages, you speak to those generational curses, you speak to the weaknesses and the iniquities seen and found in your life, and in your body, and in your heart, and in your finances, and in all of your affairs.
You speak to them, and then you will see a direct change by the power of your word that lines up with My Word, and supernatural things will begin to happen, your circumstances are temporary, My Word is not. Look not at the things that are seen, but at My Word.
I have been waiting on your words to line up with Mine so that together we can accomplish what I have called you to do and say by my words. So today, line yourself up, begin to decree every chain broken that has bound you up, freedom over everything that hinders you, loosening over everything that captures your heart, every idle god.
Then line yourself up with Me and you will see, says the Lord, I Am faithful to My Word. I Am Faithful to everything that I have promised, I will do and I will keep my promises to you.
I Am not like man, I will not lie, and if you will hold fast to every promise I have given you, and you will see them come to pass in your life.”
“So shall
my word be that goeth forth out of my mouth: it shall not return unto me
void, but it shall accomplish that which I please, and it shall prosper
in the thing whereto I sent it” Isaiah 55:11.
“God is not a man, that he should
lie; neither the son of man, that he should repent: hath he said, and
shall he not do it? or hath he spoken, and shall he not make it good?”
Numbers 23:19.
“We
having the same spirit of faith, according as it is written, I
believed, and therefore have I spoken; we also believe, and therefore
speak” 2 Corinthians 4:13.
Written by Debra Lowe
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