I AM FINISHED!! MY HUSBAND IS GAY

We are going to be bringing in on issues of matters of the heart.i recieved a mail this morning and i thought of it.the blog will now become more of an interactive and more of a solution provider so i want you to like our facebook page.
A Lady sent me a story of what happened to her so she wants advice of what to do.i read her story and im shocked.For security reasons,her name will not be mentioned on this platform .

I fell in love with Dotun during my university days at The University of Lagos. We met at a campus fellowship organized by one of the school fellowships in Unilag and quickly, we became inseparable, because Dotun was tall, muscular and sexy. we never had sex,but I knew he was the will of God for me, but now,im very wrong, he is not the will of God for me, and I think I  have made my greatest mistake, but I thought I knew what it meant for me to be loved: He would be my real, only true love. I love my husband, but when I am getting to realize who he is now, im afraid of those words we got married at the church (for better for worse). I am a married lady in my late 20s.i got married to my husband 5 years ago, and it has been wonderful. We have two Kids, and about 5 months ago Dotun was behaving odd. We make love all the time, sometimes sex but all of a sudden, the worst started to happen. Every day, my husband will come home very late and this is not helping our relationship.Suddenly, he started bringing some of his friends that I don’t know, and its not normal for me to see men who behave like women in our house. Sometimes I feel embarrassed when I get back home from work to see this same  girlish man in the kitchen cooking for my husband, it is irritating  because I am his wife, and I am the only one to cook for him. i have not had sex at all for five months now, and its still killing me, but that is not what bothers me..What bothers me is that he likes to watch gay shows in his laptop with this girlish man. Sometimes i catch him on the Internet in gay chat rooms but I never say a word about it. But last month was the straw that broke the camel’s back,A very good friend of ours came out to us last month,And during our discussions I mentioned that I have problems with my husband,and I told him what has been happening,and he said my husband is gay.i never believed it because I love my husband,and I wouldn’t want to end my marriage because of my children.

Now,the worst has happened,my husband came home with this girlish man,only for him to tell me that he is sorry that he will broke my heart.

Dotun confessed to me that he is gay and that effeminate man that comes to our house is his boyfriend, but I still never believed it until I came back from fellowship only for me to enter our matrimonial bed and see my own husband,Dotun to be having sex with this man.Dotun was actually penetrating the anus of this man from the back,and when they saw me,they stopped.

I am confused and am disappointed.Hell has broken loose upon me and my marriage.i don’t know what to do.

Should I end this marriage or I should file for a divorce?i need help seriously

Federal Govt of Nigeria and Lagos state trains unemployed youths on ICT

The Federal Ministry of Communication Technology, in collaboration with the Lagos State Ministry of Science and Technology, and the Rockefeller Foundation has trained about 1000 unemployed youths in Lagos State on IT Digital Entepreneurship Skills.
 
A statement signed by Mr. Olufemi Odubiyi, Lagos State Commissioner for Science and Technology, in Lagos on Tuesday urged the youths to utilise the privilege to become self-employed by improving their skills and become fully committed to micro-working.
According to the statement, the workshop should not be seen as mere propaganda, but a commitment from government to curb unemployment, urging the participants to get the best out of the workshop, by joining in the new phase of work and moving online.
It noted that the commissioner appealed to the participants, who were drawn from all over the state, to ensure that they internalized the new opportunity offered them to become employers of labour.
“The training session which was held in five batches of 200 participants each, was meant for Ordinary National Diploma (OND) graduates with basic computer knowledge on how to expand their knowledge about online work, which will serve as a source of income for the job seekers,’’ it said.

Job offer now at Channels Television,Kano state,Nigeria

JOB TITLE:   News Editor(Kano)
REQUIREMENTS
• Planning for stories for the week, supervision of various beats in the Newsroom.
• Dispatching reporters for assignments and supervising stories for update.
• Checking scripts for typographical, spelling, semantic and synthetic errors, reporting and editing and producing news bulletins.
QUALIFICATIONS/SKILLS REQUIRED
• Must hold a BSc in Mass Communication or qualification in an associated field
• Must have graduated with an option of First Class or Second Class Upper Division.
• Post Graduate Degree is an added advantage.
• Minimum of 10 years work experience in this field.
• Must have completed the National Youth Service Corps (NYSC) or hold a Certificate of Exemption.
• Must be experienced in television broadcast.
• Must have a perfect understanding of how the News Department runs.
• Strong professional ability, dexterity and agility.
• Must have the ability to work under pressure and deadlines.
• Must be able to work any scheduled time, including nights, weekends and holidays to support 24×7 on-air broadcasts.
QUALITIES
Age range between 30 and 40 years.
Hard working and strong abilities to deliver on the job.
Exceptional communication, writing, reporting and editing skills.
Good verbal and written communication skills.
Possess strong intelligence and skills to achieve results.
Savvy and experience in use of IT.
Able to add value and drive change.
Results oriented and proactive attitude.
Ability to work with deadlines and without close supervision.
How to Apply
Eligible candidates applying for this position must be resident in Kano State Nigeria or be able to live and work from this location for a minimum fixed term of one year or more.
Qualified candidates should please send CV and credentials detailing your skills, experience and interests, and a show reel or portfolio of your work with a covering letter outlining your suitability for this position tojobs@channelstv.com
Only qualified candidates will be shortlisted and contacted.
Application Deadline December 18th, 2015

What Would Jesus Post? Six Ways Jesus Would Engage on Social Media!

 Written by frank powell

It’s a hot, dry afternoon in Jerusalem. Jesus strolls through a busy marketplace. All of sudden, he reaches under his robe, grabs his phone and snaps a pic of the crowd. #beautifulday. A few minutes later, Jesus tweets where he will speak next. The moment he posts, a Pharisee comments, calling Jesus a heretic. Jesus favorites the Pharisee’s comment.
As crowds gather on a hillside, Peter opens his camera app. He shows a few disciples a video where Jesus casts a demon out of a man. Andrew responds, “Dude, you have to put that on YouTube. It will have a million views tonight.”
Thomas looks at Andrew and says, “I’ll believe it when I see it.”


Here are six ways Jesus would engage social media.

1.) Jesus would engage social media with a purpose, not as a means to pass the time.

You can disagree with me on whether Jesus would be on social media. But here’s what you can’t disagree with. If Jesus were on social media, he would have a purpose. He wouldn’t troll around Facebook or Twitter. He wouldn’t use social media to pass the time. He wouldn’t inject his thoughts on the President or the state of the church.
When Jesus opened Facebook, Twitter or SnapChat, he would have one goal: to point people to God.
“But Frank. I’m too old to keep up with all the new technology. Frank, I don’t have anything to add.”
To be honest, those excuses aren’t good enough. Social media shapes culture, ignites movements and informs millions of people.
The world is on social media. Christians should be there. With a purpose.
Send someone an encouraging message. Tweet a Bible verse. Tell someone you are praying for them. Post a resource that helps others.
This is a stewardship issue. Yes, I believe God will hold us accountable for how we use this huge platform.
Are you stewarding your time on social media well? Are you using it for selfish reasons? Are you building your platform or using your platform to point people to God? Are you a social media glutton, scrolling through feeds but never adding anything?
Jesus would engage social media with a purpose. You should too.

2.) Jesus would follow, share and retweet a lot of people who aren’t Christians.

Jesus ate dinner with prostitutes and tax collectors. He was intentional about extending his circle beyond his 12 disciples. He came to call the sinners, not the righteous.
So, if Jesus were on social media, he would like, share and retweet comments that would leave many “righteous” Christians shaking their heads in disgust.
“Can you believe Jesus shared Barack Obama’s post? I thought all Christians were Republican?”
“Did you see where Jesus liked that gay couple’s post?”
“OMG?! Jill, come here. Jesus just retweeted … Rob Bell!! How can he be the son of God?”
I love Rob Bell, just for the record.
Here’s the deal. In my conversations with Christians about social media, many of them talk about “un-friending” someone who curses or drinks. Unfortunately, the perspective of many Christians on social media is strikingly similar to the one they have toward the world. If it’s evil or nasty, get it away.
Jesus came to affirm all people, not stroke the egos of the religious elite. He came to engage darkness, not run from it. How will Christians impact those who don’t know about Jesus if we “unfriend” someone every time they don’t act like a “churchy” Christian?
Maybe it’s time to reconsider who we engage on social media and why. I think Jesus would.

3.) Jesus would intentionally disengage from social media to engage with his Father. 

Jesus spent nights alone. He woke up early in the morning to engage with his Father. Let’s not assume Jesus would be any different with social media. He wouldn’t feel obligated to respond to every post or comment “promptly.” He wouldn’t allow his presence online to distract him from the presence of God.
You see, where you spend your time shapes how you respond to the world. Why did Jesus allow the Pharisees to spit in his face when he could have turned them into salt? He didn’t have anything to prove to them. His goal was to draw the world to himself, not show the Pharisees who their daddy was (literally). What you allow into your heart determines who you become.
If you’re more eager to check a social media status than spend time alone with God, there is a problem. If your first instinct is to reach for your phone after the alarm clock sounds, a red flag should go up. I will admit. This is an issue for me. And I plan to be more intentional about disengaging from social media.
Jesus wouldn’t allow social media to control him. He wouldn’t compare his life to others. You shouldn’t either.

4.) Jesus would use social media to complement personal relationships, not replace them.

Jesus would not allow social media to replace the messiness of face-to-face relationships. Jesus knew his mission depended on other people. The mission was huge. It required courage and faith. To prepare these men, he needed to be with them. He needed to build their trust. He had to develop intimacy with them. These are difficult to nurture online.
Social media presents a dangerous temptation, especially to a younger generation. The temptation is to believe a bunch of shallow relationships are more important than a few deep, meaningful ones.
Remember. Jesus didn’t rely on large crowds to spread his message. He relied on 12 men.
Are intimate relationships hard work? Is it easier to build friends online? Yes and yes. But God didn’t create you for shallow relationships. He created you to go deep with people. He designed you to share the burdens of other people.

I love my online community. They encourage me. They challenge me. But my online community will never replace my real life community. My local community cries with me. I cry with them. They know my heart.

You need people in your life who know the real you. You can have a huge social media following, but your life will feel empty if you don’t have people in your life who know your heart.

5.) Jesus would fill his social media profiles with more than Bible verses.

Would Jesus post Bible verses? Sure. But Jesus wouldn’t limit his social media profiles to Scripture alone. Jesus would use his platform to show the world a complete picture of God. Jesus would post pics of wedding celebrations, funny moments and thought-provoking questions.
It’s unfortunate that most Christians paint a picture of God that is narrow and incomplete. Most Christians paint God with a suit-and-tie, grey hair (with a slightly receding hairline) and someone who makes it his goal to single-handedly squash out anything that looks like fun.
Here’s the truth about God. He has a sense of humor. He used a donkey’s rear-end to get a man’s attention.  … That’s hilarious. God celebrates. He parties. Jesus performed his first miracle at a party, turning water into wine … that’s the kind of dude I want to party with.
If you’re a Christian, by all means, post Bible verses. But don’t be lame. Show the world a bigger picture of God. Post pics of you having fun with friends. When you celebrate a milestone, let the world know. #celebratingwithmyboy.

6.) Jesus would NOT post his most intimate moments on social media. 

Jesus might use social media to inform people about his next stop. He might post pics with his disciples. But you would not find his most intimate moments on social media. I can imagine Jesus instructing his disciples to leave their iPhones at the door as they prepared to take the Passover. When Jesus washed his disciples’ feet, that moment wouldn’t be for the world.
Social media is slowly destroying the mystery and privacy of our lives. And this is important because intimacy dies as privacy and mystery die. God is mysterious. And, being created in his image, there is a layer of mystery and privacy required to maintain a healthy relationship with ourselves, God and others.

8 Tips on Creating an Inspiring Office Culture

If finding and retaining the best talent is a pain point for your company,you may want to take a look at your culture. That's according to Aydin Acar, co founder and CEO of influenster, a New York City-based product discovery and reviews platform. He's not worried about plans to grow his company from 34 employees to 50 by March because of the time, attention and money he and his cofounder, Elizabeth Scherle, have invested in creating an inspiring office culture. Here's his advice on how to do it.

 1. Flatten your organization.
Before launching Influenster Acar worked at a large bureaucratic company where he said he and coworkers were not happy. As a result, he and Scherle intentionally designed their workspace as an open environment where the few offices have glass doors to encourage transparency.  "Everybody is involved in decisions that we're making," he says. "I want to make sure that employees feel like if they have an idea even an intern can come to me and say 'Hey, we can do it this way' and we will definitely listen."

2. Empower the smart people you've hired. 

You hired them because you believe they can do the job, so trust them to do it. Acar's previous employer disallowed employees from interacting with clients directly until they had worked for the company for at least three years. He takes a different tack with his own company and hires people right out of college and connects them to brand managers or marketing directors from Fortune 500 companies. "A lot of people that we hired two or three years ago right out of college are now managing teams," he says. "We gave that responsibility to them instead of hiring [outside] managers because they take more ownership and know that as the company scales they will grow as well."

3. Provide ongoing training and development.

Not only does Influenster hold frequent "lunch and learn" sessions depending on employee interests, the company pays for any kind of online or offline class someone wants to take. "If they want to go to General Assembly or anything like that we encourage them to do that on a daily basis, and we pay for it," he says.

 4. Foster a sense of community.
Get people hanging out together on non-work activities, whether for happy hour, bowling or a volleyball game. "A lot of people go to gym together and hang out because of these social activities that we do together," he says.

 5. Make work comfortable and fun.
If you're trying to hire and retain anyone under the age of 35, you need to know that millenials want to do work hat matters, but they appreciate a casual environment. At Influenster this means employees can bring their dogs to work, play ping pong whenever they want and take advantage of a stocked bar any time after 2 p.m. any day of the week. And instead of sitting at a desk they often camp out in a lounge area with a laptop to crank out work. Everyone also contributes to a Spotify playlist playing in the office at all times, as well. The company also provides themed lunches such as sushi on Mondays or tacos on Tuesdays. "The talent pool we're going after in New York City--really smart people--this is the kind of environment you have to create to be competitive," he says.  

6. Do not micromanage.

Nothing is more demoralizing than this kind of behavior. How do you know people are doing good work? Set goals and expect people to meet them. "As long as they're hitting their quotas I don't care about what they're doing on a daily basis," he says. "Ninety percent of the time we hit our goals, but if there is a team that is underperforming and not meeting its goals, next quarter they will probably overcompensate and do really well."

Written by Christina Desmarais