Sunday 13 November 2016

The Seven Deadly Sins and the Path to Virtuous Character



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Historically, the church has focused on seven deadly sins as root vices, leading to a living death—rather than shalom and human flourishing—and ultimately to eternal death. These sins are divided into two groupings: corporal or bodily sins of lust, gluttony, sloth, and greed; and spiritual sins of pride, envy, and anger. To counteract these sins, the church has emphasized the pursuit of seven virtues, which can likewise be grouped into two. First are the cardinal or pagan virtues of wisdom (prudence), courage, self-control, and justice (fairness); Greeks and Romans highlighted them, and New Testament writers included them in their “virtue lists” (cf. 2 Cor. 5:6–8; Gal. 5:22–23; Phil. 4:8; James 3:17–18; 2 Pet. 1:3–9). Also, Christians have recognized three theological virtues rooted in Christ’s life, death, resurrection, and promised second coming: namely, faith (trust) in Christ’s cross-work and salvation through Him alone; love inspired by the sacrificial death of Christ; and hope (confidence) in Christ’s return to fully establish a new creation and His unshakable kingdom (Rom. 5:1–5; 1 Cor. 13:13; 1 Thess. 1:3). While the former virtues reflect God’s “common grace” that could be evident among the pagans, the latter reflect God’s “special grace” through the Spirit’s working in those who are in Christ.

SEVEN DEADLY SINS

Though there are many other sins that could be addressed in addition to these specific sins, we will briefly address the seven deadly sins here along with Scripture that addresses each sin.

Lust

Although the Greek word epithymia (“strong desire”) can be positive—desiring, say, to be a church overseer (1 Tim. 3:1)—it is commonly negative; it is a strong desire or craving we are not justified in satisfying (James 1:14–15; 1 John 2:17). Most often, the church has associated this desire with sexual impurity, and even coarse joking about sexual matters can “defile” a person (2 Cor. 6:14–18; Eph. 5:3–4; 1 Thess. 4:3–7).

Gluttony

Gluttony and drunkenness are two vices of intemperance that go hand in hand during every meal—and in between. Overeating is identified as sin in both Testaments (Deut. 21:20; Prov. 23:21; Luke 21:34). Given Scripture’s sparse mention of it, one wonders why the medieval church catalogued this with the seven deadly sins. Another vice of excessive intake is drunkenness, and Scripture has plenty to say about this. While not condemning alcohol—indeed Scripture in places even celebrates drinking (Deut. 14:26; 32:18; Isa. 25:6; John 2:6–11)—it condemns drunkenness and highlights its dangers (e.g., Prov. 20:1; 23:20, 29–35).

Sloth

While God made our bodies to require rest, even the blessing of sleep and rest can be abused. Proverbs strongly denounces sloth, urging the sluggard to learn lessons from the diligent, hard-working ant (6:6–11). One ought not to love sleep (Prov. 13:11; 20:13). What’s more, work itself is a gift from God and is not the result of the fall. The “Proverbs 31 woman” is industrious, hard-working, and resourceful. Paul himself taught and modeled a strong work ethic: laboring with one’s own hands so as not to be a burden to anyone; working if one is to eat; providing for oneself and others through hard work (Col. 3:23–24; 2 Thess. 3:10–12; 4:12; 2 Thess. 3:12; 1 Tim. 5:8; Eph. 4:28). God, with His Son, is the model Worker (John 5:17).

Greed

Scripture clearly prohibits greed/coveting (cf. Exod. 20:17; Deut. 5:21; Micah 2:2; Rom. 13:9). In the New Testament, covetousness or greed (pleonexia) gets significant mention (Luke 12:15; Rom. 1:29; Eph. 5:3; Col. 3:5; 1 Thess. 2:5; 2 Pet. 2:3, 14). Paul calls it “idolatry” (Col. 3:5; cf. Eph. 5:5) because material things become a substitute for God and thus warrant divine judgment (Col. 3:5–6). No wonder a person cannot serve God and money (Matt. 6:24). To covet can involve both desiring and seeking for something, someone, some position, some recognition, or some pleasure not in the will of God.

Pride

Humility involves a realistic assessment of both weaknesses and strengths—strengths that are themselves to be acknowledged as God’s gifts—whereas pride involves a kind of self-advertising campaign that distorts the truth about oneself. It is the result of thinking of ourselves more highly than we ought to think (Rom. 12:3).

Envy

Envy and its cousin jealousy desire what they do not have. As one writer put it, we envy those who aren’t a threat to us—perhaps a celebrity’s looks or talents—nor do they cause us pain; they just happen to have what we want. Jealousy, by contrast, is an idolatrous (over)protectiveness of someone because we are threatened by a third party or some thing (work, sports, studies) that threatens us or disrupts what we desire in a relationship, and this can move us toward resentment and anger.

Anger

Anger itself is not wrong (Eph. 4:26); indeed, never being angry reflects a defect—a moral passivity and an indifference toward injustice. God Himself is slow to anger (Exod. 34:6), as is the wise person (James 1:19). The viciously angry or hot-tempered person “stirs up strife” and “abounds in transgression” (Prov. 29:22; cf. 37:8). The angry person causes dissension and finds it difficult to maintain genuine friendships.

CULTIVATING VIRTUE

Oscar Wilde wrote about his tragic life. In his pursuit of pleasure, he became indifferent to others and destroyed his inner moral fiber: “I forgot that every little action of the common day makes or unmakes character, I ceased to be lord over myself. I was no longer the captain of my soul, and did not know it. I allowed pleasure to dominate me. I ended in horrible disgrace.”2

Wilde’s life reminds us to guard our hearts diligently (Prov. 4:23). This is precisely where character transformation begins. Although we can’t go into detail here on cultivating virtue,3 we’ll briefly discuss the path away from vice and toward virtue.

1. The properly oriented virtuous life begins with a relationship with God in Christ. This first point is critical, lest we slip into a graceless moralism or a life-sapping legalism. John wrote, “We love, because He [God] first loved us” (1 John 4:19). Personally knowing God’s love in Christ has the capacity to inspire in us love and forgiveness (Eph. 4:32; 1 John 3:16). And just as being a good spouse is not a matter of checking off a to-do list, neither is being a follower of Christ. The Christian faith is a religion of gratitude, and our pursuit of virtue flows from our knowing God’s reconciling grace; this grace instructs us to repudiate what is displeasing to God and to live godly lives (Titus 2:11–13). If we have personally known God’s love, won’t we make sacrifices and choices that reflect our love for Him? These in turn will shape our character.

2. Distinguish between being accepted by God and being pleasing to Him. This point is connected to the first. As we engage in character-shaping practices, we must always keep in mind the distinction between being accepted by God and being pleasing to Him. In any deep personal relationship, we are always looking for ways to please, say, a loving spouse or a parent. We don’t try to earn acceptance—as though the relationship is in jeopardy if we don’t “perform.” Likewise, as children of God, we have already been accepted by God through Christ (Rom. 14:3; 15:7), but in the pursuit of Christlikeness, we seek to please God: we “have as our ambition…to be pleasing to Him” (2 Cor. 5:9). Recognizing God’s acceptance of us in Christ removes a performance mentality and frees us up to live lives pleasing in His sight without fear of condemnation (1 John 4:18).

3. Concrete choices and everyday actions can make—or unmake—us. Have you tried to learn to play an instrument or to speak a second language? It’s all so clumsy and awkward at first. Likewise, obedience to God can be stilted and perfunctory at first. But we find that virtue is cultivated through our choices and character-shaping actions—it is called the fruit of the Spirit, after all. And when we take these specific and practical steps of obedience, we will purify our souls (1 Pet. 1:22). As we daily submit to the Spirit’s rule and empowerment—being “filled with the Spirit” (Eph. 5:18)—He will continue to transform our character so that obedience increasingly becomes second nature to us. Writing from prison, Paul said he had learned the secret of being content—a process learned through intentionally focusing on how Christ was sufficient in any and every circumstance, whether positive or negative (Phil. 4:10–13).

In the Sermon on the Mount (Matt. 5–7), Jesus gives concrete transforming initiatives to break vicious cycles of attitudes and behavior patterns. Instead of being angry and bitter when problems arise in relationships, we should take specific steps to be reconciled to others: “Leave your offering at the altar and go; first be reconciled” (5:23–24). Instead of the vicious cycle of lust, Jesus commands His followers to counteract the sources of temptation and to take constructive—and ruthless—action to combat this: “If your right eye makes you stumble, tear it out and throw it from you”; the same goes with your hand: “cut it off and throw it from you” (5:29–30). And if you just love those who love you, you’ll only perpetuate relational barriers and never turn enemies into friends; as Jesus’ disciples, we are to break the negative patterns of relating (or not relating at all) by engaging in a transforming initiative to love and pray for our enemies; in doing so, we will have a perfect love just as our enemy-loving God does, who sends rain and sunshine on His enemies, not just His friends (5:44–48).

Likewise, if we want to break our pride and become more humble, we should remember that we have been saved by God’s grace—not our own merits (Eph. 2:8–9); we should engage in acts of service to others; we should express gratitude to God, the giver of any good thing we’ve received (1 Cor. 4:7; James 1:17); we should put away what draws attention to ourselves—for instance, taking “selfies” and uploading them to Facebook for all to see and approve and then measuring our worth by the “likes” we receive. If we want to address the problem of greed, we should renounce a clutching attitude toward our possessions and hold them lightly, since they are gifts from God (1 Tim. 6:17–19); we should be generous with those in need; we should be content in all our circumstances because Christ enables us to face them all—whether we have much or little (Phil. 4:9–13). To break the hold of gluttony, the spiritual discipline of fasting can remind us just how attached we are to food in the pursuit of contentment and well-being; in fasting, we focus on God—illustrating that a human being “does not live by bread alone” (Mt. 4:4)—and that our bodies should be our slaves rather than our masters (1 Cor. 6:13; 9:27).

4. We mustn’t simply avoid what is evil, but constructively replace it with what is good. As God’s people, we participate in a new creation (2 Cor. 5:17) and a new covenant community. Christ died to make us a “kingdom of priests” and a “holy nation” (1 Pet. 2:9; Rev. 1:6; 5:10; cf. Exod. 19:6)—true worshipers of God as priests and co-rulers with God over His creation. So we are a renewed humanity in Christ, the second Adam; we are part of the new exodus, having been led out of slavery to sin, death, and the law (Rom. 5–8) through the obedient Son that ancient Israel failed to be. So we are not only a new creation (2 Cor. 5:17; Gal. 6:15) but also the new Israel—the true people of God (Rom. 2:26–27; Phil. 3:3). Now that we are “in Christ,” we are given the resources to reflect increasingly the character qualities of the new Adam—the archetypal human.

Notice that we are commanded not only to put off, like we would a garment, that life associated with fallen humanity and the lifestyle of the seven deadly sins. We are also to put on the virtues of Christ Himself—love, humility, righteousness, kindness, faithfulness, and so on (Rom. 13:12–14; Eph. 4:22–24; 6:11–16; Col. 3:9–14; 1 Thess. 5:8). We cannot simply avoid vice (putting off) but must constructively engage in transformational habits (putting on). We should not only abhor what is evil but also cling to what is good (Rom. 12:9). We are not only to flee but also to pursue (1 Tim. 6:11).

No wonder the late author Dallas Willard referred to the life-shaping importance of the spiritual disciplines in terms of engagement and abstinence. Disciplines of engagement include study, prayer, meditation, celebration, service, submission, worship, confession, and fellowship; disciplines of abstinence include fasting, silence, solitude, frugality, chastity, secrecy, and sacrifice.4 This is part of “working out” our salvation. But remember this salvation has already been “worked in” to us, and this process requires relying on God’s grace and power, because “it is God who is at work in you, both to will and to work for His good pleasure” (Phil. 2:12–13).

How would this apply to battling lust? “Putting off” at a very basic level has to do with rejecting a false way of looking at the world and adopting a different—and correct—mindset and then acting in accordance with that new vision. One obvious way to “put off” lust is to flee in the face of sexual temptation (2 Tim. 2:22). But we can also think about how God is our ultimate hope and satisfaction beyond all earthly pleasures (Ps. 73:25–26). Even beyond this, rather than looking at a person as a sexual object, the believer can view this person as someone who bears the image of God, as the son or daughter of a mother and father, as someone with a story filled with hurts and damage, as someone loved by God, and as a person for whom Christ died. The believer should personalize rather than objectify another, including praying for that person. Another part of seeing God’s reality more clearly involves reflecting on the negative consequences that sexual impurity brings—damaged relationships with God and humans, guilt and shame, corrupted character, dishonor when facing an all-knowing Judge one day—which can help deter such actions.

Beyond this, “putting off” involves taking serious action (“gouge it out/cut it off/throw it from you”): be honest with yourself, with God, and with others; keep a guard on your thoughts and redirect them to appropriate, God-honoring pathways; make yourself accountable to another for TV- and movie-watching habits; install a filter on the computer to avoid junk on the Internet; check a place like Pluggedin.com to review movies and TV shows ahead of time for any sexual content, among other things; avoid going to places of inevitable temptation; maintain high standards concerning physical contact while dating and engaged. “Putting on” will involve praying, reading and memorizing Scripture, and even channeling your energies into reading, athletics, creative pursuits, or Christian fellowship.

5. Corporate body life and worship enhance our growth in Christian virtue. We need not only God’s Spirit to cultivate virtue but also deep relationships within the body of Christ, by which we can grow in virtue and diminish the hold of sin in our lives. Did you know that, except for self-control, every virtue in the “fruit of the Spirit” list (Gal. 5:22–23) is corporate, not individual? Thus we ought to attend to those reciprocal (“one another”) commands, since deep body life helps us grow in virtue. Furthermore, by truly worshiping together, we become spiritually and emotionally mature; we move beyond our own self-defined interests to concern for the larger common good in Christ. Our emotions are shaped by what we care about, and a deepened commitment to one another will help develop a deepened character.5

6. Our emotions do not define us, but they must be directed by other, more important factors: our status in Christ, right choices, commitments, and promises. Our culture celebrates “authenticity.” We’re told that it’s hypocritical to “go through the motions” of prayer and worship or showing kindness and expressing gratitude even though we don’t feel like doing these things. But emotions are very unstable and are only part of who we are. And what about our will and our choices and the commitments we have made? What about character formation? I may not presently feel the love God has for me—or maybe I don’t feel it to the same degree all the time—but that doesn’t change the objective love God has for me and how He has displayed this in the cross of Christ and adopted me as His child (John 3:16; 1 John 3:1, 16). I must trust God’s promise to me. And emotions often follow when we “step into” making the right choices, keeping our commitments, reminding ourselves of God’s love. In fact, we are called to cultivate a frame of mind that is shaped by God’s Word and the cross of Christ so that we will choose to give thanks (1 Thess. 5:18) even when we may not feel thankful; that we will choose to rejoice in Christ despite negative circumstances (Phil. 4:4, 9–13; cf. Hab. 3:17–19); that we will set our hope on God and take courage in the Lord and His enduring kingdom when the world seems to be crumbling all around us and evil prevailing (Ps. 27:4; 42:5, 11; 43:5; 6:1–2; cf. 71:14; John 16:33). You see, these are not only commanded for us but also are to be enacted by us.6 We have a duty to be hopeful, joyful, thankful, and courageous, and we must intentionally cultivate a frame of mind that doesn’t despair or give way to grumbling: “Prepare your minds for action, keep sober in spirit, fix your hope completely on the grace to be brought to you at the revelation of Jesus Christ” (1 Pet. 1:13). We must take control of our thinking and acknowledge (“reckon”) the reality of certain things even when we can’t feel them (Rom. 6:11).

Although some Christians think they shouldn’t act until they feel a sense of delight about doing it, duty has its place. It is much like teaching manners and politeness to children; while it may be perfunctory and mechanical at the outset, children can grow to take pleasure in being polite and bringing blessing to others because it has become habitual—second nature—in their lives. Likewise, godly character is not automatic; we are colaborers with God, who is at work within us (1 Cor. 3:7–8; Phil. 2:12). Paul commands Timothy to “discipline yourself for the purpose of godliness” (1 Tim. 4:7–8).

If you want to overcome the seven deadly sins in your life, this guidance from Scripture can steer us toward the path toward Christ-likeness so that Christ might be formed in us (Gal. 4:19).

Written by Paul Copan
 Paul Copan is the Pledger Family Chair of Philosophy and Ethics at Palm Beach Atlantic University (FL). He is the coauthor of An Introduction to Biblical Ethics: Walking in the Way of Wisdom (IVP Academic, 2014).

The Art of Loving Unlovable People



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Life is full of people who rub us the wrong way. Whether it's within our family, workplace, church, or community, we've all encountered at least one person who drives us absolutely crazy. Maybe they say sly insults, tell bad jokes, or invade our personal space. Whatever their annoying or hurtful habits are, our spirits are dampened and flustered by their presence in our lives.
As Christians, how do we cope with difficult people? Christ calls us to love selflessly and ceaselessly. So are we just supposed to force a smile and fake a laugh, while inside we're cringing or crying or wanting to flee? How can we possibly be genuine with all these negative emotions broiling just beneath the surface?
So are we just supposed to force a smile and fake a laugh, while inside we're cringing or crying or wanting to flee?
We can't do it on our own. Our broken, sinful hearts aren't capable of scraping together nearly enough love to cover the foibles and flaws of our fellow humans. We occasionally have trouble loving even those who are dearest to us. So often, our feeble, fleeting attempts at love fall flat and our patience runs dry.

The only true source of compassion, strength, and love is God. If we embrace and rely completely on God's love and forgiveness for us, we can then draw from his infinite provision and begin to love others more fervently and sincerely.

I've found that there are 12 key steps we take to help us build greater compassion, empathy, and love for our neighbors—even the ones who have caused us pain, anger, or frustration. It is critical, though, to understand that these tools are best used in the hands of those who have deeply acknowledged their own sin and their need for Christ's grace and direction in their lives.

1. Pray for the Holy Spirit's intervention. If you know you're about to enter into an interaction with a difficult person, appeal to the Holy Spirit for strength, compassion, and patience. Through him, you have the power to represent Christ—even in the most trying of circumstances. Our calling as Christians is difficult, but we don't have to do it alone. Remember that your kindness could portray the gospel to someone who desperately needs it.

2. Consult God's Word. Scripture is a treasure trove of practical advice about how to interact with people. Sometimes we may feel as though the Bible is distant and unrelated to today's culture, but upon closer inspection, we can see that human nature hasn't really changed. The wisdom that the Word provides is still relevant to our lives.
3. You don't know their whole story. Knowing the hardships in someone's life can give you an entirely new perspective and understanding of their personality. Dealing out judgment comes so easily to us, especially when we are leveling it at someone who makes our lives miserable. But if we remember that they, too, have felt the sting of injustice, the burden of anxiety, and the ache of emptiness, perhaps we won't be so quick to feel anger and annoyance.

4. It's always possible to establish common ground. It's amazing how finding something in common with a person you take issue with can begin to bridge the chasm between you. It could be something as simple as a similar childhood experience, a shared hobby, or a book you both enjoyed. These tiny tendrils of connection may seem meaningless, but they could gradually improve your interactions.
These tiny tendrils of connection may seem meaningless, but they could gradually improve your interactions.

5. Silence is golden, so think before you speak. Sometimes our words stumble out of our mouths before we have a chance to censor them. It can be easy to lash out in anger or make condescending comments. But words, once they're said, are irreversible and hold incredible weight. Pray for self-control and the wisdom to speak only what is encouraging, considerate, and kind.

6. Don't take yourself too seriously. An important life skill is learning how to laugh at yourself. We can become so caught up in proving a point or keeping our pride intact that we start to forget that we are as human as everyone else. A humble attitude admits to faults and views others as equals instead of inferiors. Carrying out God's work is what should be taken seriously.

7. Be open to criticism—there could be some truth in it. None of us enjoy being criticized, especially when we feel it is undeserved. But even if the criticism is riddled with untruth or mean-spiritedness, it's possible that there could be a grain of truth in it. In order to grow, we must look inward with honest, objective eyes and prayerfully search our motives and actions for faults. Although the process may sting, we will emerge from it stronger and more self-aware.

8. Don't conspire against them with others. There's nothing more tempting than blowing off steam with a group of understanding friends after an encounter with an obnoxious coworker or acquaintance. We want their feedback and sympathy or maybe we just want to talk it out. This is natural and often helpful for our peace of mind. But we must be careful not to indulge in slander or malicious gossip. Venting should be about healing our wounds and being encouraged, not about dragging the offender's name through the mud in order to feel superior to them.
9. Pray for discernment about whether to confront an issue or let it go. It's difficult to know when we should call out an offense or drop it. We don't want to seem upset or ruffled all the time, but we also don't want to bottle up all our frustrations until they erupt. When should we lovingly confront the person about her wrongdoing? Unfortunately, there is usually never a perfectly clear answer to this question. The best thing to do is pray for guidance. If the offender's actions are destroying the relationship or making interaction difficult, it may be time to communicate your feelings in a gentle, considerate manner.

10. Don't go looking for trouble. There can be something oddly satisfying about keeping an account of our enemies' sins. Maybe we sniff out offenses like a bloodhound, looking for more fuel to feed our dislike. By focusing on their dirt, we begin to feel better about our own. But this mentality leaves us bitter and allows no room for grace. Shed the attitude of hypersensitivity and instead adopt one of patience and forgiveness.

11. Remember, they are God's precious creation. Just as you have been created in God's image, so has your intrusive neighbor or your over-bearing boss. God knit them lovingly in the womb, numbered the hairs on their heads, and has guided their footsteps. When we extend love to them despite our differences, we are exhibiting the depth of our love for God.

12. Love because you are loved. Forgive because you have been forgiven. Ephesians 4:32 puts it best: "Be kind to each another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you." When you feel the need to hold a grudge or keep your love from someone, remember the abundance of grace that is available to you through Jesus, despite your great sin. He is the reason we can each love deeply, joyfully, and freely.

Who are the people in your life who are the most difficult to interact with? Christ has taught us to not only outwardly treat them with kindness and respect, but to also view them through his eyes—with understanding and compassion. His example and transforming power in our lives will equip us to go out and love as he loved.

 Written by Hillary McMullen