Monday 29 February 2016

Trump’s bigotry is creatng a new generaton of racist


Former KKK leader David Duke endorsed Trump and said anyone who doesn’t vote for him is betraying their white heritage.
White supremacists and racists love the guy and say he has caused a resurgence in their ranks.

Now, in Iowa, we see that Trump’s bigotry is spreading to high school basketball games. It’s ugly and infuriating.
Dallas Center-Grimes High School in Des Moines is predominantly white. After their basketball team, which appeared also to be predominantly white, lost to Perry High School, fans began chanting “Trump, Trump, Trump, Trump” at the opposing players — many of who were Latino.
 The coach confirmed that almost all of his Latino players were actually born right there in Iowa.
 Of course, the students were disturbed by it. Staff from Perry High School said the chants, which have actually happened before, were demoralizing.
Players from Perry said they regularly are forced to endure bigotry from opposing teams before, during and after the games.
What’s wild is that to the white students from Dallas Center-Grimes High School even chanting the name, the single word “Trump,” was an intimidating insult. They knew exactly how simply the word “Trump” would make other kids feel.

This is not 1936 or 1966, but here we are, in February 2016, with a leading Republican candidate so closely identified with bigotry that kids know saying his name will unsettle students of color.
This is what happened to Jackie Robinson as he broke the color line. Now, the color lines are fully broken, but the same old ugliness is filling sports arenas and white children feel fully empowered to be public bigots.
Hell, if Trump can do it, why can’t they?
As it turns out, what happened in Iowa is not an isolated incident of white students using Trump to intimidate others.
In Indiana, whte hgh shool students held a cutout f Trump and yelled "Build the wall" at opposing students and fans.
What this confirms for all of us is that racism and bigotry aren’t dying with previous generations. They are being gleefully passed from one generation to the next and Donald Trump is absolutely energizing this process.What a shame.

Compiled by Shaun King

The Lagos Social Media Anti-Corruption Summit

THEME: Lagos against corruption
The Lagos Social Media Anti-Corruption Summit is of relevance not only because it brings to the fore the role of social media in curbing corruption in Nigeria but it also identifies the obstacles being faced by on-line and traditional media in fight against corruption.
When the media are working well to prevent corruption, they employ investigative journalism to reveal inequities, and violations and, in an educational sense, reinforce social values that reduce the incidence of corruption in government and business. Relying on freedom of speech, the media perform their watchdog function in society as they curb and expose social injustice.
A critical element of a country’s anti-corruption program is an effective media.Join CITIZEN ANTI-CORRUPTION VOLUNTEER CORPS NIGERIA at the Lagos Social Media Anti-Corruption Summit on:
Saturday 12th March 2016, DUBAN INT’L HOTEL, Oja Bus-Stop Ogba-Ikeja, Lagos.
IN ATTENDANCE: On-line news operators,Professional bloggers, social media users, Anti-corruption crusaders, Civil Society Organizations, NGOs, Relevant Govt Agencies.Seasoned Journalists & Broadcast Organizations.
Expected Guest of Honour:
Commissioner of Information & Strategy, Lagos State Government.
Be our special guest!
COMR EZE AMB. HARRIS CHUMA(AGG)
CHAIRMAN
CITIZEN ANTI-CORRUPTION VOLUNTEER CORPS NIGERIA(CACVC)
08034413206, anticrimecorrruptionunit@gmail.com

5 Ways To Be a Better Grandparent


We all want to do the things that will keep our grandchildren happy and help them become the best kids they can be. So how do we do this? These five steps are a good way to start:

 1. Don't break the rules (at least not the big ones)
If you undermine the rules your kids have set for your grandkids, you'll end up with confused grandchildren and outraged parents. If the kids aren't allowed to swim in the deep end of the pool, or ride their bikes in the street, it's not for you to say they can, even when they're at your house. But little rules are okay to bend, so let them stay up a bit late or have a second helping of dessert. You’re a grandparent, for heaven’s sake; spoil them a little!

2. Praise them (but in the right way)
First, a confession: I did not have a happy childhood. That's why I swore that no child of mine would grow up with my insecurities. At every opportunity, I told my son how smart and talented he was. He turned out pretty well, so I figured I'd treat my granddaughter the same way. Imagine my surprise, then, when 16-month-old Maggie recently pointed out everybody's belly button, I told her she was soooo smart, and my son and daughter-in-law told me that was the wrong way to praise her. Instead, they said, I should compliment her for specific accomplishments or good efforts, and not  indiscriminately tell her how wonderful she is — because when she doesn't do something exceptionally well, and she doesn't feel especially smart, she’ll feel like a failure. What I should have said was something like, "What a good job you did looking for belly buttons!" (As it happens,today's parenting experts agree.) Live and learn.

3. Stay connected (even from far away)
Don't live nearby? Of course, you visit as often as you can, but between trips, there's always e-mail, phone calls, and even snail mail. Remember that kids love consistency and they love to feel special, so consider making a ritual of reaching out. Allen Davis, 71, a grandfather of three in Deerfield Beach, Fla., has talked on the phone with his 13-year-old granddaughter, Hannah, who lives in Rhode Island, at 7pm every Sunday since she was a toddler. It gives her a real sense of connection and continuity.

4. Keep a secret (within reason)

Trust is a fragile thing in any relationship, even between a grandparent and a grandchild. So don't blow it. Once the kids reach school age, if they want to tell you all about, well, anything at all, all you have to do is listen. But if your older grandchildren trust you enough to confide in you, they're showing you that they think you're a terrific grandparent. And if they tell you not to tell anyone — not even their parents — then don't, unless, of course, they tell you about a situation that has put them in danger. What's at stake? Plenty. "The single best predictor of resilience in adults," says Karen Romine, a licensed marriage and family therapist in Seattle, "is whether, as children, they had an adult they could talk to who would listen, hold their confidence, and treat them with respect." If that happens to be you, take the responsibility seriously.

5. Make your home a comfortable place to visit (even if they trash it)
Murphy's Law says that the neatest grandparents get the messiest grandkids. That's just the way it is. So when your grandchildren come to visit, try to relax and not follow them around with a Dustbuster. Send the message that at your place, it's okay to make themselves at home. Do the little ones want to finger paint? Great. Spread plastic on the dining room table and let them go at it. Do they want to take out every toy in your toy box? Fine, just watch where you’re walking, and clean up the clutter in the morning. Do they want to help you in the kitchen? Fantastic. Go bake cupcakes. And if they make a mess? Hey, that's half the fun, and at least half the memories. Let go of your worries, and you’ll enjoy it, too.

 Written by Susan Davis Sherwin



10 THINGS YOUR WIFE NEEDS FROM YOU

After being married for six years now, I have learned that men think a lot differently than women. In my fairly tale love story, my husband and I would walk hand in hand as we go on a shopping spree and then out to a nice dinner. In my husband’s fairy tale love story, he would like to stay home and watch a football game while eating Chipotle. Can you relate?
Today I wanted to share with you a few things your wife needs from you.
 These are things your wife needs from her better half… the man by her side…her sugar daddy…. her arm candy….her sweetheart… yes, these are things she needs from YOU.

1. SUPPORT: When you put that ring on her finger, you immediately became a team. Your goals, dreams and wishes all of the sudden become BOTH of your goals, dreams and wishes. Support her and give her strength. Let her know you are proud of her and believe in her. This also means to help her achieve her goals. Be there for her when she has a hard day. Be that shoulder to cry on and those wings to make her fly.

 2. COMPLIMENTS: Even if you think she already knows that she is pretty – TELL HER. Even if you think she already knows that she looks amazing in her new outfit – TELL HER. Even if she doesn’t have time to get ready and looks like a hot mess when you get home from work – TELL HER she still looks amazing to you. Women LOVE, no not just love, they NEED to hear things like this. We are always comparing our bodies, hair, nails and clothes with other women around us. It is always nice to hear from the man of our dreams how good we look! As her husband, you have the opportunity to make her confidence boost 100%.

3. RECOGNITION: Every woman likes to hear that you recognize everything she has done. Say thank you when she cleans the house or puts your clothes away. Tell her what a great job she did at work or what a fun mom she is for your children. Let her know that you notice all of the little {and big} things that she does.

4. A LISTENER: Bad days will come – so let me tell you a little secret about ladies. Sometimes they just want to TALK! They just want to tell you all about their day and the drama and the crazy things that happened. Sit there and listen. Let them vent. Often times my husband will come home and I will talk for 30 minutes and then I stop and say, “So. How are you?” and he looks at me and smiles. That is when I realize that I talked WAY too much. But listen. And don’t only listen with your ears – listen with your whole body. Show her you are interested in what she is saying by not being on your phone or watching a basketball game.

 5. TO BE A PRIORITY: We completely understand that you are human and you are a man with a LOT on your plate. But we also like to be on the top of your list of “importance.” Things will come up, work meetings will happen, games will be on – and that is TOTALLY fine, but make sure she knows that nothing is more important than her.

 6. COMMUNICATION: You know how I said that often times ladies just like to talk?! We also like when you talk back. Ask your wife questions and what her opinion on things are. And when she asks you questions and asks for your opinion, be open and have a discussion.Communication is key to a successful marriage.

7. A HOT DATE: Your relationship with your spouse probably began as friends and then she probably became your girlfriend and then she became your fiance and now she is your wife – correct? {Or in my case, you began as enemies and then became friends… but that is another story.} At any rate – throughout the process of building your relationship to marriage, DATING probably played a big part in your lives. Well men, once you tie the knot,dating doesn't end.Your wife would LOVE for you to take her out to a nice dinner. She would LOVE for you to take her to a fun activity.

 8. A BEST FRIEND: We ALL want a best friend – men and women! That person you can tell EVERYTHING to. That person you can laugh until you cry with. That person you can call just to say hi. That person you can rely on. That person that will always make you feel better. So BE that for her.

 9. AN EXAMPLE: You always want to marry someone that brings out the very best in you. A person that makes you become better, stronger and happier. Believe it or not, us women look up to YOU – the men of our households. We notice the way you live, the way you treat our children, the way you work hard, the way you pray, the way you spend your free time {if you ever have any!}. Always do what is right and help lead your family on the right path to happiness in this life.

 10. LOVE: Last, but probably the most important thing your wife needs from you is LOVE. She needs to hear it. She needs to see it. She needs to feel it. Just saying the words "I LOVE YOU" is so important and taking it a step further by SHOWING it is even better.

Written by Danielle Davies
 Danielle Davies is the owner of Today's the Best Day. She strives to provide creative and uplifting content in order to enrich the parenting experience for women everywhere. Danielle hopes to help you and your family to make every day the best day.she can be reached through www.todaysthebestday.com

The Husband and Father's Role

When a man enters into a covenant relationship with his bride, he commits to the responsibilities of loving, honoring and cherishing her. As a husband, the strength you need in order to carry out these responsibilities ultimately flows out of your relationship with God. It requires a moment-by-moment dependence on God's Spirit. It takes time and discipline to maintain, especially with the many obstacles that cross your path – in your case, raising a child with special needs.
The vows you shared included "for better or worse, in sickness and in health." There was never a thought about the possibility of having a special needs child, nor any discussion of how much stress and strain such a situation would put on your marriage. And in the midst of life's challenges is another: being the husband and father God calls us to be.
We can't let the obstacles of life get in the way of building a strong marriage. When we fail to sacrificially love our wife as Christ loved the Church (Ephesians 5:25), we begin to compromise this most cherished relationship. As a husband, and as the father of a special needs adult child, it's a daily challenge to stay focused when the challenges of caregiving collide with the needs of my wife and other children.
Raising a child with special needs, while at the same time nurturing my relationship with my wife, requires that I make time to communicate with my wife every day. What I need to communicate most is my love. In our situation, I went off to work while my wife stayed home and cared for our children. When one or more of children have special needs, you can be certain that a wife's daily responsibilities have been full and challenging. Recognizing that fact was the first step toward realizing that no matter what kind of day I had, my wife "had a day," too!
When our children were small, it was great when she gave me a bit of time to regroup from my day. We had dinner together as a family, and then I would give her a break from the children. I'd take the kids for walks in nice weather or play in the backyard. As the kids grew, my time with them might include helping with homework, playing video games or just talking. Cindi appreciated this time alone without worrying about the needs of the children; time alone to think without the noise and commotion that she'd endured all day long; time for an evening out with friends to simply "get away." Taking care of the kids was a way for me to serve my wife, letting her know that I was committed to her and cherished her. As a result, we were able to demonstrate God's unconditional love and grace to each other and to the children, and become an example to those around us.
In addition to my role as a husband, one of my greatest titles is "Dad." Fathers are to sacrificially love our children. We demonstrate to our children that we care for them by making them a priority. Cultivating relationships with each child requires time, discipline and intentionality. When so much time is spent caring for the child(ren) with special needs, it's easy to lose track of our other children's needs. It is a challenge to spend both quality and quantity time with the other children. Each one needs to know with absolute certainty that we love them. Spending time with them goes a long way toward making them feel protected and loved.
I was intentional about "dating" my two girls. Our regular dates included restaurants, local events and festivals, the zoo, walks, jogs, movies, ice cream and other fun things. Our dates were also opportunities to talk, ask questions, and sometimes just to listen to them. These are some of my fondest memories of their childhoods, and we continue to enjoy our special times together (even with one daughter married and the other in college).
We invested time in teaching all of our children God's Word. We'd discuss current topics of interest to each and used these opportunities to guide them. These teaching moments may not have connected with Joey in the same way they did for the girls, but we included him as much as we could. Without question, Joey required a different kind of time and attention.
As a dad, I once dreamed of playing sports with a son – maybe even coaching – but because that wasn't to be, I found other ways to "connect" with Joey. He spent a lot of time doing repetitive therapies in his early years, but as he grew older, he and I began to connect playing video games. We have learned to play sports together … through video! He excels at baseball and my forte' is football, but we still connect and have fun together!
Yes, it takes time. But if we want to pass on our faith and impact future generations for Christ, we must spend quality and quantity time with each of our children. When we leave a godly legacy, we can look back with great satisfaction.
It's been my observation that many men are overwhelmed by the responsibility of being the husbands and fathers God has called them to be. Yet we have this assurance: that "nothing is impossible with God" (Luke 1:37). As we ask God to empower us as men, we can give our children not just an inheritance, but a heritage. And we can give our wife what she needs most – to be loved, honored and cherished.
Written by Joe Ferini

Legendary Nigerian actor dies at 83

The legend himself, Joseph Abiodun Adu popularly known as JAB Adu has died. Family sources say he died after a brief illness on Sunday morning February 28th. He was aged 83. JAB is well known for his role as Bassey Okon in the now rested Village Headmaster. He is survived by his wife and children. May his soul rest in peace Amen.

Oh, Kenyans, who has bewitched us?

1. When you see Kikuyus to be hardworking you say they are thieves.
2. When you see Luos are confident you say they are full of pride.
3. When you see Kamba ladies are very romantic you say they are cheap sexually.
4. When you see Kikuyu ladies are so industrious you say they love money and are prostitutes.
5. When you see Mijikendas are so peaceful and hospitable you think they are cowards.
6. When you see Luhyas are so strong you think its because they are gluttons and love eating huge ugali and chicken.
7. When you see Kisiis and Merus are outspoken and forthright you say they have high temper.
8. When you see Kalenjins are very brave you think they are warlike tribe.
9. When you see Taitas are so cool and brotherly you say they are stupid and cunning.
10. When you see Wahindi are successful entrepreneurs you say they are stingy.
11. When you see Swahili ladies making excellent wives you think they have love potions and charms.
12. When you see tribe x is… you say it is because…
My question: Why can’t we just focus on the positive differences of our ethnic and cultural diversity and stop trying to pull each other down with negative ethnicity?
Truth is, every tribe in Kenya has what it takes to be that tribe, cultures, norms, virtues, beliefs, values. Some tribes naturally make:
1. Good intellectuals
2. Good entrepreneurs
3. Good lovers
4. Good peace makers
5. Good sportsmen
6. Good spokesmen and so on.
When you meet someone of different tribe, try to learn something positive from them. In this way, learning from each other, we can make the most powerful nation and society not only in Africa but the whole world.
Kenya has been such a blessed nation, well, until someone bewitched us!

Written by Joseph Abdalla

Africa should be recolonized – Donald Trump

                                                        Donald Trump

American business mogul Donald Trump has said that Africa needs to be recolonized. This time around he has directed his anger to African leaders who according to Trump, have failed to exercise leadership and are keeping their people in worse conditions.
Speaking in Nebraska, Trump said that Africans are slaves living like slaves in their own land yet they claim they are independent.

“It is shameful for African leaders to seek exit from ICC. In my view, these leaders want to have all the freedom to oppress their poor people without anyone asking them a question. I think there is no shortcut to maturity and in my view, Africa should be recolonized because Africans are still under slavery. Look at how those African leaders change constitutions in their favour so that they can be live presidents. They are all greedy and do not care about the common people” Said Trump.
“When I saw them gang up against ICC yet they can’t even find an amicable solution for the ongoing quandary in Burundi, I thought to myself these people lack discipline and humane heart. They can’t lead by example. The only thing they are interested in is accumulating wealth from poor tax payers. Before they think of exiting from ICC, they should first restore peace in Burundi and other war-tone countries rather than gathering like hyenas with the aim of finishing the poor people” Added Trump.

Expose on the sabotage- Dasuki,Badeh,Amosu and their co-travellers

We hear some are returning monies already but the weight of what the Dasuki’s and Badeh’s of this world are accused of is far more reaching ,and with “domino” akin effects, as  it is a direct blow that strikes at the heart of the nations Military/Defence architecture.
“The Ex-Defence Chief, Alex Badeh, in an interview granted to Channels TV after his exit from office claimed that he was aware that there were fifth columnists within the Nigerian Armed forces who sought to destroy from within by working and collaborating with Boko Haram”. 
Officers and men who refused to fight without adequate arms or were just plain fed up by the apathy of the authorities to appropriately arm them before sending them into harm’s way were summarily hauled up before court martials and sentenced.
“Little did we know that the most debilitating and foul fifth columnists were actually the principal persecutors. Little did we know that the men who were called to serve their fatherland and lead valiant troops where themselves the saboteurs”.

There is no greater sabotage, no perpetuation of sub-rosa ;“fifth columnist activities”, that can trump the deliberate, heartless and insensitive actions of Sambo Dasuki, Alex Badeh and their ilk. By fraudulently usurping and “chopping” monies meant to outfit troops theirs was a crime with rippling and devastating repercussions.
Excerpts from the audit report of the committee set up the the President to probe military procurement activities of the military are revealing.
The audit report states: “in spite of this huge financial intervention, there has not been significant improvement in the capacity and capability of the Armed Forces.”
“Additionally, some of the award letters contained misleading delivery dates that indicated fraudulent intention in the award process. The observed discrepancies are in clear contravention of extant procurement regulations”.
” In particular, the committee “particularly noted the issue of procurement of two Mi-24 helicopters through SEI Nigeria Ltd that were deployed to the North East Operations in unserviceable condition which resulted in the unfortunate death of the late Group Captain U.N. Akpan and Master Warrant Officer Zabesan H”.
“The audit uncovered a series of suspicious transfers of funds through the CBN. The committee stated that, between September 17, 2012 and March 9, 2015, former National Security Adviser, retired Colonel Sambo Dasuki, and ONSA’s former Director of Finance and Administration, Mr. S.A. Salisu, ordered the CBN to transfer various sums of money totaling more than €9.9 million. The funds were transferred to “various accounts in Nigeria, Niger Republic and UK for unascertained purposes.”
Various war correspondents in the North-east theatre have reported soldiers with malfunctioning jamming guns, deployment of unserviceable and unusable weaponry amongst other ills.”These are direct “domino” effects of the actions of a few ogas”.
Any “Warrior”, from the beginning of time knows that the efficacy of his sword, his gun – can be the difference between life and death. How many of our soldiers you wonder, have died directly from malfunctioning, unserviceable guns and equipment? Like the late Group Captain U.N. Akpan and Master Warrant Officer Zabesan H; how many of our “warriors”, have we lost needlessly because of the corruption of a few individuals.
In a nation where its ranking civil and public servants are regarded as failures if they are not at the least multi-millionaires in dollars, it has become the norm to see these category of persons, military men inclusive living in such high estate that fabled book story Sheiks with lavish harems will marvel  at.
Alas, the choices of the nation allowing corruption to fester within its military sphere are stark. It is a choice between improvement in the capacity and capability of the Armed Forces  or the decline of military effectiveness and its attendant waste of the lives of troops.
A strong message must be sent. All military officers found culpable of thieving should be put before a  court martial of their own. Those who are retired should be recalled and also court martialed, afterall the malaise caused by their thieving conduct is directly manifested in the death and negative performance of troops and hence can be categorized as war crimes. 
I say, let them face the judgement of those “few”,  “those brothers in arms”, “the band of brothers” that they have betrayed.
Written by Victor Ikhatalor
Founder of "The MyTribeNigeria Initiative"
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