Wednesday 5 October 2016

Peter Obi’s Viral Speech: A Case Of Hypocrisy And Political Pandering

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Political hypocrisy in Nigeria is so pervasive that it calls to mind the 1664 classic play Tartuffe which is centered on a hypocritical priest who, after giving great speeches of piety and self-sacrifice, is found to be stealing his benefactor’s fortune and trying to seduce his benefactor’s wife.
 Such political hypocrisy could be seen in Ayo Fayose (making empty noise against Buhari’ anticorruption crusade even when he pocketed billions through corrupt means); our President (preaching anticorruption but failing woefully to rein in on his corrupt aides); Ben Bruce (the commonsense crusader without commonsense) and now Peter Obi (the saint that sinned). They are all stealing our fortunes while camouflaging as the voice of the poor masses. This piece is on Peter Obi - an archetypical case of hypocrisy and his recent political pandering.
I strongly believe that in politics when someone calls someone else a hypocrite, he will have to provide a flaw between public assertion and equally public practice. Peter Obi’s hypocrisy summarized here therefore, involves the outward expression of a virtue concurrently with the practice of a correlative vice.
Peter Obi’s recent hypocritical talk that went viral paints a picture of an actor who portrays one persona for an audience, which clearly differs from his behavior when he wines and dines with his new political friends in Anambra State that include the likes of Andy Ubah and Stella Oduah. Stella Oduah bought bullet proof cars worth billions. Peter eulogized her as a model for Ndigbo. A man that championed Stella Oduah only to turn around and lecture us about wastefulness in the purchase of colorful cars by public office holders is a hypocrite. Full Stop. I need not talk about the conflicting ethical questions relating to his disturbing “love affair” with Andy Ubah.
Peter Obi is a hypocrite! A man that campaigned for the reelection of the most careless and the most dangerously corrupt government in the history of Nigeria is deceiving the gullible. We had a National Security Adviser that turned himself into a Father Christmas, but instead of giving the kids, he gave the fire-breathing monsters that plundered the national wealth. The same monsters Peter Obi vigorously campaigned to re-elect in 2015. Peter’s hypocrisy thus reminds me of politicians who according to Adlai Stevenson would cut down a redwood tree, then mount the stump and make a speech for conservation.
Peter is a Political panderer! How I wish Peter taught Oga Jona his wonderful epistle on fiscal conservatism. I wish Peter had given this wonderful speech against corruption and wastefulness as a former Deputy Director General of the Goodluck Jonathan presidential campaign organization. I wish he had talked about the need to scrap the office of the first lady in the face of Dame Patience in one of those their political campaign tours.
Here is a man who supervised the dissemination of finances across southeast and south-south to the extent of bribing resident electoral commissioners preaching about corruption. A man that supervised the bullying and financial inducement of the electorate and INEC officials during the 2015 presidential election has no moral authority to preach anti-corruption to Nigerians. Period!
Where was Peter when his colleagues in the Governors Forum insisted that we must squander every Kobo in the National Treasury? I wonder what the panderer Peter told his colleagues in Southeast that grew the size of their stomachs and pockets while Enugu-Onitsha expressway turned to gully erosion site.
Talking about spending for growth; the people of Anambra State has not forgotten how saint-emperor Peter made caricature of governance during his second tenure by “dashing” millions of Naira to amorphous groups while displaying bigger than life cheques. Please, go and listen again to Emperor Peter in the viral epistle. All you will hear is “I”, “I...” “I...” never “we”, never “my administration”, never “my commissioner”. No, he was the alpha and omega with all the state and local government federal allocations at his pleasure and mercy. Eh m, what is corruption again? Is that the standard of democracy and transparency we should be promoting?
Peter was a dictator that ruled Anambra State for 8 good years, without transforming or reforming a single government agency or ministry in the state. Worst still no single interest or investment to develop human capital in the state. An embodiment of selfishness?
I hope by now you agree with me that Peter Obi’s recent pandering is a classical definition of hypocrisy and political pandering. Tattered and battered by his prolonged battle with Victor Umeh and his estranged godson Obiano (after betraying APGA), he is now seeking redemption by riding under the economic downturn in the country to pander. So, don't let him deceive you that he is championing your cause. He is only repositioning himself.
Don’t get me wrong, I am against corruption and reckless spending. Campaign for fiscal conservatism with regards to lower levels of public spending is not however new in Nigeria. Many consistent political commentators and Editorial Boards of many national dallies have been advocating for that from Obasanjo’s era, through Yar’Adua, Jonathan and now Buhari. What is new is that the political jingoism in Nigeria has been so super-hyped that Nigerians who still believe the goat and the yam belong to the barn are swept off their feet by frivolities.
In 1st Thessalonians Chapter 5 verse 22, the apostle Paul gave some very a good advice to the Thessalonians on how to avoid becoming hypocrites, "Abstain from all appearance of evil". For me to take Saint Peter Obi serious, he MUST abstain from whatever is wrong starting with disassociating himself from the likes of Dame Patience, Stella Oduah and Andy Ubah.
But, why do voters give hypocrites a pass? Why do fans of Buhari fail to point at his hypocrisy when he is saying one thing on corruption and doing another on acts of corruption under his watch? Why are Fayose’s fans eulogizing his ‘purity’, yet, conscious of his corrupt acts? Why are some Nigerians eulogizing the fraudulent pretense in Peter Obi’s “saying” element at the same time ignoring the “doing” element of hypocrisy in his behavior? Why are we not coming up with the same conclusion that is straightforward? – these politicians are hypocrites.
If you have been clapping to the pandering of a hypocrite Peter Obi, pretending he said what you don’t already know or have never heard in your political life, then my advice to go look in the mirror. Are you all hypocrites? Yes. Please help Nigeria make the number one less. 

Wrtten By Churchill Okonkwo

Russia denies drugging US diplomats

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A top Russian official strongly denied Wednesday a report that Moscow may have been behind the alleged drugging of two US diplomats in St. Petersburg and suggested instead that the pair may simply have been drunk.
"We are outraged," Russian Deputy Foreign Minister Sergey Ryabkov said in a statement posted on the Russian Foreign Ministry website, adding the claim may have been the work of the US State Department seeking "revenge" for the collapse of talks between the two counties to address the situation in Syria.
Russia's denial came after a report two days ago by Radio Free Europe/Radio Liberty that the diplomats -- a man and a woman who were not senior officials -- allegedly had their drinks spiked with a date-rape drug while attending a United Nations convention on corruption last November. The report, attributed to anonymous sources, said the State Department quietly protested the incident to Russian officials.
The story also said one of the diplomats had been treated at a "Western medical clinic" - which Russia said was not true.
"A probe conducted by Russia revealed that at the time no Americans had sought treatment at any St. Petersburg medical institutions," Ryabkov said. "If, alternatively, they had just been boozing at a hotel bar, they have only themselves to blame."
He added that Russian investigators at the time responded "promptly" to information from the US Embassy, but that when they asked for "more specificity to their complaints" the Americans did not respond, not even to provide the names of the "victims." 
 While the State Department has declined to comment on the report, US officials have expressed concern generally over the treatment of American diplomats in Russia.

Pakistan accuses India of sponsoring terrorism at Brussels conference

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Sartaj Aziz while speaking at the European Institute of Asian Studies in Brussels accused India of sponsoring terrorist campaigns in Pakistan. 

Just hours ahead of being in the same room as Indian Minister of State For External Affairs,MJ Akbar for the Brussels conference on Afghanistan, Advisor to the Pakistan PM on Foreign Affairs Sartaj Aziz accused India of sponsoring terrorism in his country.

Aziz was speaking at the European Institute of Asian Studies in Brussels. He accused India of 'sponsoring terrorist campaigns in Pakistan to foment separatist movements' as well as of 'ceasefire violations'. He added that "India opposes the China-Pakistan Economic Corridor for no apparent reason than to obstruct the economic development of Pakistan."

A press release by the Pakistan Information Department further added, "Mr. Aziz pointed out that India also maintained direct military pressure on Pakistan through deployment of advance weapons systems, offensive troops positioning and exercises along the border to refine the capacity of a surprise attack, as envisaged in its Cold Start Doctrine."
The Brussels conference takes forward the global efforts of re-building war torn Afghanistan.

 

Buhari Sells Nigeria's Two Presidential Jets

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President Muhammadu Buhari,the President of the Fedeal Republic of Nigeria has ordered the sale of two presidential aircraft, a Falcon 7x executive jet and Hawker 4000.
It is not clear whether the economic recession in the country may have informed the decision to sell both aircraft but a statement by Senior Special Assistant to the President on Media and Publicity, Garba Shehu, indicated that the sale of the aircraft was to reduce waste.
A national daily was purported to have ran an advertorial on the sale of the aircraft, prompting speculations as to the authenticity of the sale.
But Shehu disclosed to State House correspondents in a terse statement that the information was true.
According to the presidency, “The newspaper advertisements for the sale of two presidential aircraft, a Falcon 7x executive jet and Hawker 4000 were duly authorised by the president.
“This is in line with the directive of President Muhammadu Buhari that aircraft in the presidential air fleet be reduced to cut down on waste.
“When he campaigned to be president, the then All Progressives Congress (APC) candidate Muhammadu Buhari, if you recall, promised to look at the presidential air fleet with a view to cutting down on waste.
“His directive to a government committee on this assignment is that he liked to see a compact and reliable aircraft for the safe airlift of the president, the vice president and other government officials that go on special missions.
“This exercise is by no means complete. I am sure the commander of the presidential air fleet will any time from now call you to a ceremony at which he will hand over some other aircraft to the Air Force for their operations”.
According to a source at the presidency, the presidential air fleet comprises of 10 aircraft. These are Boeing Business Jet (Boeing 737-800 or Air Force One); one Gulfstream 550, one Gulfstream V (Gulfstream 500), two Falcons 7x, one Hawker Sidley 4000, two Agusta Westland AW 139 helicopters and two Agusta Westland AW 101 helicopters.

ECOWAS Court fines Nigeria

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The Economic Community of West Africa State (ECOWAS) Court has imposed a fine of N15 000 000 against Nigeria as compensation for former National Security Adviser, Colonel Muhammadu Sambo Dasuki, whose release it has ordered.
The regional court held that the detention of Dasuki violated both national and international laws on the right of persons and citizens to freedom of liberty.
In a judgment that lasted over one hour, the regional court dismissed the allegations of unlawful possession of firearms and economic crimes allegedly committed by Dasuki adding that the Nigeria government missed the track because the applicant applied before the court for the enforcement of his breached and contravention of fundamental right.

6 blunders of Mike Pence US Vice presidential debate last night

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Tim Kaine came into the vice presidential debate with a clear goal: make Mike Pence own all of Trump’s most controversial moments.
But Kaine was unable, with Pence successfully parrying his attacks as the debate dissolved into a string of interruptions and contradictions with each of the candidates peppering the other with rhetoric but neither landing a knockout. After, Pence was lauded for his debating acumen, and on efficacy, the strategy scores high.
Scored on accuracy, however, Pence fares far worse. The main tenet of his strategy was to deny that Trump ever said these things to begin with — despite the fact that many of the statements were both real and a part of the public record.
Here are six Trump statements that Pence attempted to tweak, massage or erase all together.

1. Tax Returns. Tim Kaine said: “Donald Trump started this campaign in 2014 and he said, if I run for president, I will absolutely release my taxes. He's broken his first promise.”
Mike Pence said: “He hasn’t broken his promise.”
What Trump’s actually said: In 2014, while sitting down with an Irish television station, Donald Trump said, “If I decide to run for office, I will release my tax returns. Absolutely.” Adding, “I would love to do that.” While saying he will release his tax returns when a federal audit is complete, Trump’s surrogates,including his son, have implied that won’t actually happen. Trump also has said that only the media cares about his tax returns. "As far as my taxes are concerned, the only one that cares is the press, I will tell you,” Trump said in September. And even the press, I tell you, it's not a big deal."

2. Social Security. Tim Kaine said: “Donald Trump wrote a book and he said Social Security is a Ponzi scheme and privatization would be good for all of us.”
Mike Pence said: “All Donald Trump and I have said about social security is we're going to meet our obligations to our seniors. That's it.”
What Trump actually said: While describing Social Security in his 2000 book “The America We Deserve” Trump said of Social Security, “Does the name Ponzi all of a sudden come to mind?”

3. Insults. Tim Kaine said: “Donald Trump during his campaign has called Mexicans rapists and criminals. He's called women slobs, pigs, dogs, disgusting ... He attacked an Indiana-born federal judge and said he was unqualified to hear a federal lawsuit because his parents were Mexican. He went after John McCain, a P.O.W., and said he wasn’t a hero because he'd been captured.”
Mike Pence said: “To be honest with you, if Donald Trump had said all the things that you said he said in the way you said he said them, he still wouldn't have a fraction of the insults that Hillary Clinton leveled when she said that half of of our supporters were a basket of deplorables.”
What Trump actually said: Trump called “some” Mexican illegal immigrants “rapists” and “criminals,” and some, he assumed, “good people.” He has used a variety of insults for women. Trump came under fire earlier this year for claiming an Indiana-born federal judge’s Mexican ancestry made him unable to fairly hear a case about Trump. And regarding John McCain, Trump said: “He’s not a war hero … He was a war hero because he was captured. I like people who weren’t captured.”

4. Putin. Tim Kaine said: “You've got to be tough on Russia. So let’s start with not praising Vladimir Putin as a great leader. Donald Trump and Mike Pence have said he's a great leader.”
Mike Pence said: “No, we haven't.”
What Trump actually said: Trump has repeatedly praised Putin’s strength and has called him “a leader, far more than our president has been.” Pence also said he thought it was “inarguable that Vladimir Putin has been a stronger leader in his country than Barack Obama has been in this country."

5. Nuclear weapons. What Tim Kaine said: “Donald Trump's idea that more nations should get nuclear weapons, Saudi Arabia, Japan, South Korea.” He also claimed Trump had said “more nations should get nuclear weapons.”
What Pence said: “Well, he never said that, Senator.”
What Trump actually said: In a March interview with The New York Times and subsequent Republican town hall, Trump suggested it would be good for Japan and South Korea to have nuclear weapons. “I think maybe it’s not so bad to have Japan — if Japan had that nuclear threat, I’m not sure that would be a bad thing for us,” Trump said. Trump stopped short of promoting nuclear weapons for Saudi Arabia, but he did say it was inevitable and that the country needed to be able to defend itself.

6. Abortion. What Tim Kaine said Donald has said “women should be punished ... for making the decision to have an abortion.”
What Pence said: “Donald Trump and I would never support legislation that punished women who made the heart-breaking choice to end a pregnancy.”
What Trump actually said: Trump in March said abortion “is a very serious problem, and it’s a problem we have to decide on …There has to be some form of punishment.” But he quickly walked that statement back saying, “This issue is unclear and should be put back into the states for determination.”


10 Reasons Why I Will Never Vote for Hillary Clinton

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Under normal circumstances, a Republican wouldn’t feel compelled to explain why he wouldn’t vote for Hillary Clinton. But 2016 is a year like no other. And in this year like no other, it has become an article of faith among supporters of Donald Trump that a refusal to vote for their man is a vote for Hillary Clinton. This is utter nonsense. Such logic implies that Trump is entitled to our vote without earning it. While it is true that some Republicans who object to Trump will vote for Hillary, I will not be among them.
Here are my list of 10 reasons why I could never vote for Hillary Clinton during the United States Presidential election: 
Those Damn E-Mails
Hillary Clinton’s conduct in setting up a private e-mail server which transmitted top secret information and the FBI declining to recommend criminal charges demonstrates that she is above the law. Worse, Hillary acts like there is one law for her and her family and one law for everyone else. Oh, she takes “full responsibility” for her e-mails while saying other Secretaries of State have done the same. So when Hillary takes full responsibility for something, she is really taking no responsibility at all. This is a very dangerous quality for someone who seeks the office of President of the United States to possess.

Benghazi Any government official who feels the need to ask, “At this point what does difference does it make?” where it concerns the deaths of four Americans including our Ambassador to Libya is unfit to be President of the United States. Mind you she asked this question after publicly blaming an internet video for the attack on the consulate, an attack that just happened to occur on the 11th anniversary of the September 11th attacks. Of course, her e-mail correspondence with daughter Chelsea on the attack indicated it was carried out by an "al Qaeda like group".Again, Hillary takes full responsibility,but as she told Scott Pelley on 60 Minuites, “It was not my ball to carry.” We’ve come a long way from “The Buck stops here” to “It was not my ball to carry.” In this case, a long way isn’t a good way.

        The Clinton Foundation Is Donald Trump correct to say that Hillary Clinton turned the State Department into her family's personal hedge fund by using Clinton Foundation to sell access to foreign governments, many of which have dubious human rights records? Well, Trump ought to know. He helped fund the Clinton Foundation. At the very minimum, there is the appearance of impropriety. At worst, there’s enough corruption to put the UN to shame.
        Russian Reset Hillary Clinton has got Russia wrong from the moment she gave Russian Foreign Minister Sergey Lavrov a red button that was supposed to say reset in Russian. But instead of saying 'Perezagrukza',it read 'peregruzka which means overcharged. It is nevertheless somehow fitting. Hillary may be the only person who actually believes the Russian reset worked. She claimed this because it brought the Russians around on sanctions again Iran.Well, where are those sanctions now? Also the people of Ukraine and Crimea might disagree with that assessment. Oh, things have been reset all right when a 3 star Russian general can walk into the U.S Embassy in Iraq and tell our military to get the hell of the sky.
Let’s put it another way. How well has the Russian reset worked if Hillary’s surrogates are blaming Russia for the leak of the DNC e-mails in order to help Trump?

She Doesn’t Possess an Ounce of Conviction (Although a Conviction is Certainly in Order)
 If there’s a position, Hillary Clinton has held it. She’s been for the War in Iraq and she has been against it. She has been against gay marriage and she has been for it. She was pro-Israel, then anti-Israel, and now she’s pro-Israel again. She was for TPP and then along came Bernie Sanders and now she’s against it. Ditto for the Keystone Pipeline. Hillary has wrapped herself in the Second Amendment and has praised Australia’s gun confiscation program. Now Hillary Clinton isn’t the first politician to flip-flop and she won’t be the last, but she has turned flip-flopping into her default position. Combine this with her propensity for lying, there’s no reason anyone should believe a word that traverses her lips. 

Her Contempt for Working People (Coal Miners in Particular)
During a Democrat Town Hall meeting last March, Hillary said, “We’re going to put a lot of coal miners and coal companies out of business.”
This did not amuse Bo Copley, a laid off coal miner from West Virginia,who had the rare opportunity to publicity take her to task during a round table discussion in early May. Fighting back tears, Copley asked, “I just want to know how you can say you’re going to put a lot of coal miners out of, out of jobs, and then come in here and tell us how you’re going to be our friend, because those people out there don’t see you as a friend.”
Hillary’s response was typically self-serving. She told Copley:
I don’t know how to explain it other than what I said was totally out of context from what I meant, because I’ve been talking about helping coal country for a very long time. And it was a misstatement, because what I was saying is that the way things are going now, we will continue to lose job.
Well, when people hear someone use the word “we’re,” that means Hillary intends to actively put coal miners out of business. Coal miners don’t need her kind of help. Hillary’s contempt for working people is plain to see as is her eagerness to insult people’s intelligence.

Calling Assad a Reformer
In February 2011, while appearing on CBS’s Face the Nation then hosted by Bob Schieffer,she incredulously claimed that Syrian dictator Bashar al-Assas was a 'reformer'.As soon as she made that claim, Schieffer reminded her that his father had killed tens of thousands of people. Hillary countered the younger Assad was “a different leader.” An estimated 400,000 people have died during the Syrian Civil War. Some difference. 

The Obama Administration’s Designated Yeller at Benjamin Netanyahu
Hillary’s treatment of Assad contrasts with that of Israeli Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu. In July 2014.she oasted in an interview with CNN's Fareed Zakaria that she was the Obama Administrations's designated yeller.Most of this yelling came over the question of settlements. It’s too bad she couldn’t have the Administration’s designated yeller at Assad (or for that matter the Iranian Mullahs) for murdering their own people. Put the pressure where it belongs.

Republicans & The NRA Are My Enemies
In her 60 Minutes interview alongside Tim Kaine, she boasted about her success in working with Republicans. Yet last October when Anderson Cooper asked which enemy she was proudest of making,She listed Republicans and the NRA (along with the drug and health insurance companies) alongside Iran. Say what you will about Republicans, the NRA or the drug/health insurance companies, but I don’t recall any of them chanting “Death to America!!!”

Sniper Fire in Bosnia
During her first White House bid in 2008, Hillary told a tall tale about being under sniper file with daughter Chelsea in Bosnia in 1996. Although she was criticized for it at the time, it didn’t force her to withdraw from the race. Let’s remember that it was only last year that Brian Williams was suspended for six months and lost his position as NBC news anchor because of his false claim that he had been under sniper fire while in Iraq in 2003.As i asked at a time,“If Williams can no longer be the face of NBC, then can Hillary no longer be the face of the Democratic Party?”
As much as I loathe the prospect of Donald Trump being elected President, I take no comfort in Hillary being sworn into by Justice Roberts next January either. It is for these 10 reasons (among many others) that I shall not cast a ballot for Hillary Clinton in November.

Written by Aaron Goldstein
Aaron Goldstein began his political life as a socialist,But following the attacks of September 11, 2001, he gradually embraced the wisdom of conservatism. He uses his poetic license (which has been suspended on numerous occasions) to write about politics, music, clam chowder and anything else he darn well pleases. Born in Canada, Aaron has lived in Boston for over a decade.

Remove your mask and live your authentic life

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                          Finding myself after 35-plus years of hiding behind a mask was frightening.
    I hid because I feared if anyone saw me, they would see how unlovable I actually was. I feared if I removed the mask, I wouldn't find anything underneath.
    I have been scared to share my story, but God led me to this moment.
    The reason why you are reading my story in Dipo Olatade's blog is for a purpose. God gave me lessons, experiences and growth I never expected. He told me it was time to share, so here I stand: raw, imperfect and scared - JUST ME. No more hiding. No more secrets.
    Masks have been around for centuries and have served many purposes. Historically, both Native American and African cultures used masks to lose their human identity and protect their tribes.
    Party or masquerade masks serve a slightly different purpose. These masks I am most intrigued with. They are used as a barrier between the person wearing the mask and the audience, worn for the purpose of staying hidden and remaining anonymous, for creating a mysterious entrance and silent exit.
    My masks, like masquerade masks, are for disguise. I have masks for just about every circumstance, and I have been collecting them for as long as I can remember.
    • A story about my masquerade

      The first time I removed one of my masks to a stranger the air thickened, my heart raced and my chest compressed. I peeked around the side of the mask carefully. I didn't want anyone to see the real me. I was sure they wouldn't like what they saw.
      What would I do if my predicitions came true and I was viewed as worthless?
      My masquerading reached a pinnacle when my husband of 18 years walked out the door. I soon discovered his infidelity, drug use and addictions. I kept his secrets to myself because somewhere deep down I thought I was partially accountable: "If only I was skinnier, prettier, smarter or nicer, then he wouldn't have done this."
      I layered myself under more and more masks, trying to hide from exposure.
      Then, one day my masks were ripped off, torn away from me and I was forced to stand exactly as I was and face my worst fears.
      Surprisingly, people tried to mask me with ugly masks that spoke untrue stories about me of both emotional and physical affairs. I tried to take them off, but these masks stuck. However, with help from a therapist, I eventually removed them. My face was as raw as my heart; neither had seen the sun for years. Most days I hurt everywhere and longed for the safety of my masks.
      But I started to really see myself. I began to see all the masks were lies - whether they were the masks I created so others would see me as a good cook, homemaker or mother, or the masks others made for me painting me as a cheater, liar and horrible wife. None of the masks were real.
      I began to put my masks away. I learned what others thought of me didn't define me. I had the power, without any masks at all, to be whatever I chose to be. God showed me my gifts, and he made me beautiful.
      Now I define myself without masks. I am a good mom who loves my children with my whole heart. I am a good wife who tries her best to make a safe, comfortable home for my family to return to. I am a woman who has learned love, forgiveness and hope through many dark nights.
      The old masks are right at my fingertips and often beckon me to use them again. There are days when it takes all of my strength to not pick up a mask and put it on. But I am strong and don't rely on my masks anymore like I used to. And I know the day will come when I am able to dispose of all of my masks completely.
      • A guide to help you remove your masks

        If you are ready to remove your masks and find the real you, there are five tools I have found beneficial.
        1. Own your story
        Accept you are imperfect and remind yourself that mistakes are opportunities for learning. Part of this acceptance is also recognizing and accepting your gifts.
        2. Quit listening to "should bes"
        Those words imply you are not enough as you are.
        3. Seek truth in all things
        Learn that just because someone says something, doesn't mean it is true. Others don't get to define you; you get to define you.
        4. Recognize that being authentic is uncomfortable
        Practice leaning into that discomfort. Some people shy away from authenticity; regardless of how others respond, keep leaning.
        5. Discover the importance of being in check with your emotions
        Keep your emotions in check, but don't ignore them. When you're upset, lean into the sadness to determine what is hurting you. When you're happy, breathe in the joy and let it enter your soul.
        Remember when we hide behind masks, we never really know our real selves. Do away with the hiding, and start to love yourself just the way you are.

        Written by  Norma Zaugg
         Norma Zaugg has an MA Degree in Education from Boise State University. She is the author of rootstoholdme.com, a faith-based blog about her healing from infidelity, codependence, and divorce. website: www.rootstoholdme.com Email: rootstoholdme