
Money is good; it is needed at home for almost everything. Expert
says more than sixty percent of our income is known to be spent at home.
But as good as money is, it can hurt marriages deeply if not handled
carefully. Money is known to be one of the commonest causes of conflict
in marriage. In fact, in U.S, expert told us that money is the number
cause of divorce.
1. Lack of openness: When couples are secretive, when they are not open
to each other, if they talkless about money, it will give room for
suspicion, ill feelings, attack and counter-attack.
2. Lack of Provision: Failure to provide for one’s family is another way
money can cause trouble at home. For a man to have money but fail to
provide for his immediate family is criminal, and some wicked and
ungodly men do it, this is very bad.
3. Lack of attention: You can be so overwhelm in the pursuit of money
that you will get disconnected from your spouse. As soon as you allow
money to take first position in your life, then it will start to hurt
your marriage. Unfortunately, most men believe all what a woman needs is
money, of course they need money, but they want the man first. You can
never any wife by giving her money without attending to her. She didn’t
marry you because of your money; she married you because of you.
4. Laziness: Failure to work productively with one’s hands to bring
money home will definitely lead to serious problem at home. Lazy people
want money but are too lazy to do anything, they love to sleep and rest,
and they are full of day dreaming and wishful think but cannot lift a
finger.
5. Stinginess: Some people are just stingy, they love to get but hate to
give. It is not that they do not have, it is only that they’ve made
money a tin God. I know a man whose wife must pursue for days before she
can collect five thousand naira from him, he has the money he is only
stingy, this very wrong and can destroy any home.
6. Lack of Focus: At the beginning of every year, government and
organizations do tell the whole world their focus and what it will cost
them to do it. They call it ‘budget’. This does guide them throughout
the years. You may not be able to draw a comprehensive budget for the
year but you must have a focus, you must know where you are going and
were you want to be at the end of the year. Couple should set down a
goal and how to reach it. Communicate it to each other without which
there will be confusion.
7. Extravagancy: This can also lead to serious problem. You become
extravagancy if you begin to buy expensive things you don’t really need,
when you start to buy things just because others are buying them, when
you become to live larger than life lifestyle, living above your income.
If only one person is extravagant in marriage the other party will
definitely react leading to conflict, if both party are extravagancy,
their financial life will react leading to debt and bankruptcy.
Written by Bisi Adewale
Bisi Adewale is a family expert and president of college of marital
success, He is an international conference speaker and an author of more
than 30 books on marriage and family life, singles, love, sex and
intimacy. He is the host of family T.V. program called Family Booster.
You can also get his resources at http://totalfamilyresources.com.
E-mail: familybooster01@yahoo.com.