Monday 31 August 2015

The Danger of Cohabitation

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Everyone of us knows that family structure is changing and this article presents those dangerous risks to young adults and to children and to the society that is dependent upon stable, loving marriages and families.
The deep secret about cohabitation is that people have believed that living together would increase their odds of doing well in marriage but it is not true.this is ignorance.In recent times, large increases in divorce and children born out of wed luck have dramatically altered the social landscape but a related social change has received little attention. That's the extraordinary rise in cohabitation, in which an unmarried man and woman share a household as sexual partners.
Family instability is rising because more couples are having children in cohabiting unions, which are very unstable and many people are not seeing the end result. 
Some investigation were carried out and the revelations was amazing.A 2011 report indicated that children in cohabiting households are more likely to suffer from a range of emotional and social problems—drug use, depression, and dropping out of high school—compared to children in intact, married families. In the U.S, cohabitation, poses the biggest challenge to marriage. In 1960: 500,000 and in 2010: 7,529,000 couples cohabitate. More than 60% of marriages are now preceded by cohabitation (Wilcox et al. 2011).Today, there are so many unmarried women between 25 and 39 living with a male partnerand the arrogance behind this trend is much.
 Why would a guy and a lady live together when they are not tied by official papers or religious vows? Though it has become a norm in the society and also a major reason for several break-up. We shouldn't be quick to mention LOVE, as love itself comes with regrets when order is not observed.

What are the dangers behind cohabitation? 

1.  Your self-worth is reduced

2. When you are married is different from Being engaged


3. It's a shame to culture and tradition AS africans.

4. Relationships are unstable in cohabitation. One-sixth of cohabiting couples stay together for only three years; one in ten survives five or more years.

5.Cohabiting women often end up with the responsibilities of marriage—particularly when it comes to caring for children—without the legal protection. Research has also found that cohabiting women contribute more than 70 percent of the relationship's income.

6.Cohabitation brings a greater risk of sexually transmitted diseases, because cohabiting men are four times more likely to be unfaithful than husbands.

7. Those who suffer most from cohabitation are the children. The poverty rate among children of cohabiting couples is fivefold greater than the rate among children in married-couple households. Children ages 12–17 with cohabiting parents are six times more likely to exhibit emotional and behavioral problems and 122 percent more likely to be expelled from school.

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Monday 17 August 2015

THE WOUNDED SPIRIT

THE WOUNDED SPIRIT

When we look at the story of the valley of dry bones
in Ezekiel 37,we will see a lot of mysteries
uncovered.the scripture said "and behold,they were
many and they were dry"
God asked Ezekiel"CAN THESE BONES LIVE?" and what
Ezekiel could say to God was "only you that knows"
which means he was telling God" i don't know" because
it was a state of hopelessness.

God told Ezekiel to speak his word over them and
of course,there was a shaking and suddenly,the bones
came together and we know the rest of the story.i
will interpret the meanings of story for us and
then,i pray that God will heal every part of us that
is wounded by his mercy and grace.

Friends,are you trying every way you know to put your
life together?
Do you long to get back on your feet?its very
simple.Breathe and immense yourself in the word of
God.
God told Ezekiel again "speak to the wind(the spirit
of God) come,breathe upon these slain that they may
live".
 Beloved,they were wounded and slain dead.No therapy
did it because they were too dead.it was the power of
God that brought them back to life
God's life giving spirit if for those who have been
slain by circumstances or situation.some,its their
past that has given them wounds and so,they are dead in
isolation and loneliness,dead in their emotions,dead
in their attitude.no wonder so many of our brothers
and sisters, and friends out there and some of our fathers and mothers live in isolation and hurt of past experience.
Many of them out there need our prayers because they
are wounded badly.when a wound is not treated,it
attracts flies and it starts to smell.thats what is
happening now.
You have to reach a point where you say"I am not going
to live in the past again.either in anger,in
bitterness or in hurt.i will not live in self hatred
and self guilt.i am going to move forward because God
is giving me the strength to do so in jesus name"

Nobody will help you heal that your wounds.it is you
that will cry to God to heal that part of yours that is
wounded and dead.
God is telling so many of us" to them that are wounded
and dead in whatever aspect of your lives,cry unto me
and i will move on your behalf.i will heal your
wounds" because the bible says "by his stripes(That is
the stripes of Jesus) we was healed"

                 I remain yours