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Monday 26 October 2015

Amaechi Reverses, Criminates Wike Of N45B Loan Diversion

In what seems to be a twist on events, the immediate past governor of Rivers state, Rotimi Amaechi, has gone away from being accused of hiving off the state’s funds to accusing his successor, Nyesom Wike, of N45 billion loan taken by his administration.

The erstwhile governor of the oil rich sate stated this on Sunday, October 25, during a special thanksgiving service organised to mark the October 25 ruling of the Supreme Court, which brought him into power as governor in 2007, The Punch reports.
In the statement, the former governor said that he had borrowed N300 billion, subsequently paid N245 billion back and left about N15 billion in the state coffers; only for the present administration led by Governor Wike not to be borrowing to pay contractors but borrowing for their personal gratification.

When divorce is not an option

The average couple in today's world has thought about divorce at least once during their marriage. God has put you and your spouse together for a reason — and it's not to argue. You are bonded together to cultivate in each other those virtues that lead to sanctification. Marriage is not one size fits all and most importantly,marriage is an institution where you cannot graduate.And for some, divorce is a constant threat. For others, divorce feels like their only hope. Whether you have thought about divorce once or you think about it every day, this article gives eight good reasons why divorce is not an option.

Your Kids
The first reason is something we all know about and we all consider: the kids. Should you stay married for the children? Well, at least think about how it will affect them. You might get over it in time. They never will.
They will never get over the loss of their family, and their lives will never be the same. Never. When Mom and Dad go apart, and start living separate lives, a child's world is never the same, and they must navigate a new reality. For that boy or girl, the fairy tale is officially over. Yes, kids do "move on," but they are affected by it forever.

Custody

The next reason is very closely related to the first. It also deals with children. The number one reason was how it affected the lives of the children.
One of the worst things about divorce, if children are involved, is a new dirty word you will become very familiar with: custody. You no longer have the children in your home, full-time, as you always have. You will be sharing time with those children with your ex-partner, and you will have to arrange your whole life to accommodate these arrangements.
If you are the non-custodial parent, you can never get those hours back, and you will miss those children, guaranteed.

It brings Emotional Devastation

Divorce is emotionally devastating for most people. Divorce forces us to kill all of the dreams we were counting on when we decided to marry our mate. It separates us from the one person we believed would always be there for us, holding our hand when we got old and feeble. We may deny the pain, but there is always pain with divorce. Divorce is a type of death, and we will need to grieve from the pain, just as we do when a person we love dies.Divorce is the ultimate rejection, because we are either rejecting, or being rejected by, the one person who knew us most in this world.

Loss of Confidence
Another aspect of confidence that is affected is our confidence in our desirability. This why newly divorced often go through a stage of serial dating, desperately seeking to re-establish themselves as attractive and wanted. Or they may fall into another relationship right away, rebounding, and not choosing someone that is healthy for them, compounding and complicating the already raw wound of divorce.

Loss of Identity

When divorce happens, both individuals lose the roles of husband and wife that they were accustomed to. Even if the marriage is troubled, there is still security in knowing that you are this person's wife or husband, and all of that is gone when the divorce papers are signed. You are no longer the wife of so-and-so, but you are now the "ex" of so-and-so, not a very affirming title.

Loss of Family

Now, this is a very difficult one, and very painful for many people. You know how when you got married, everyone said you were marrying your fiance's family, as well as your fiancé? Well, this truth also works in reverse. When you divorce your wife, you are also divorcing her family. IN MOST CASES. You see, just like the friends, family will often feel forced to take sides, and guess who they are going to pick? Of course, their son or daughter! So, the relationship with your in-laws will probably change, if not end.

Loss of Friends

Something you might not realize when contemplating a divorce is that your social life will change. Socially, a person's marital status is important, and affects the dynamic of a social situation. Couples often feel more comfortable being friends

Financies

The longer a couple stays married, the more time they have to build up assets and their livelihood. You often see couples who have been together for a long time with a great deal of financial stability. Staying together often allows couples to accumulate assets, a good reputation, as both of them work together for the good of their household. Divorce disrupts this building process, and forces both members of the couple to start from scratch, and therefore can be very hard on both party's financial situation.

Divorce is expensive in so many ways. There are the actual legal costs of obtaining a divorce judgment. If there are children involved, custody must be decided. If there are assets, they must be divided. All of these things usually involve lawyer billing hours. Anytime a judge is involved, you must pay for the lawyer's time.

with other couples, and making the switch to two singles instead of one deuce will shake everything up. If you are really close, the couple might choose to see both of you at different times but if the tie between the two couples was based mostly on one of the persons in the divorced couple, your friends will often feel forced to take sides, to be loyal to their original friend. This doesn't sound very nice, but it's a reality.

Dr Adebanjo Owolabi is a marriage cousellor,a writer and family awareness event planner

President Of National Association of Nigerian Prostitutes Has Died

The president of the National Association of Nigerian Prostitutes (NANP), Jessica Elvis, has reportedly passed away on Sunday afternoon.
Elvis died Sunday afternoon in an undisclosed hospital in Benin after battling a protracted heart-related disease, Daily Post reports.

The secretary general of the association, Tamar Tion, confirmed Elvis’ death. The secretary described Elvis’ demise as a sad loss to the group.
“Hi, want to inform you that we just lost our president Jessy this afternoon. She died after battling heart-related disease for years. It is a sad loss to NANP and we pray God to give her family and 15-year-old daughter the fortitude to bear the loss,” the statement says.

Signs to know that it’s Time to Let Go

Holding on is being good and brave, but letting go when things are getting irritating and moving on is often what makes us stronger and happier.

Here are seven signs it’s time to let go:

Someone expects you to be someone you’re not. – Don’t change who you are for anyone else. It’s wiser to lose someone over being who you are than to keep them by being someone you’re not. Because it’s easier to mend a broken heart, than it is to piece together a shattered identity. It’s easier to fill an empty space in your life where someone else used to be, than it is to fill the empty space inside yourself where you used to be.

A person’s actions don’t match their words. – Everybody deserves somebody who helps them look forward to tomorrow. If someone has the opposite effect on you, because they are consistently inconsistent and their actions don’t match up with their words, it’s time to let them go. It’s always better to be alone than to be in bad company. True friendship is a promise made in the heart – silent, unwritten, unbreakable by distance, and unchangeable by time. Don’t listen to what people say; watch what they do. Your true friends will slowly reveal themselves over time.

You catch yourself forcing someone to love you. – Let us keep in mind that we can’t force anyone to love us. We shouldn’t beg someone to stay when they want to leave. That’s what love is all about – freedom. However, the end of love is not the end of life. It should be the beginning of an understanding that love sometimes leaves for a reason, but never leaves without a lesson. If someone truly loves you, they will never give you a reason to doubt it. Anyone can come into your life and say how much they love you, but it takes someone really special to stay in your life and prove how much they love you. Sometimes it takes awhile to find the right person, but the right person is always worth the wait.

Someone continuously breaks your trust. – Love means giving someone the chance to hurt you, but trusting them not to. When you completely trust a person, without any doubt, you’ll automatically get one of two results – a FRIEND for life or a LESSON for life. Either way there’s a positive outcome. Either you confirm the fact that this person cares about you, or you get the opportunity to weed them out of your life and make room for those who do. In the end you’ll discover who’s fake, who’s true, and who would risk it all for you. And trust me, some people will totally surprise you.

You are never given a chance to speak your mind. – Sometimes an argument saves a relationship, whereas silence breaks it. Speak up for your heart so that you won’t have regrets. Life is not about making others happy. Life is about being honest and sharing your happiness with others.

You are obsessed and living in the past. – Eventually you will overcome the heartache, and forget the reasons you cried, and who caused the pain. Eventually you will realize that the secret to happiness and freedom is not about control or revenge, but in letting things unfold naturally, and learning from your experiences over the course of time. After all, what matters most is not the first, but the final chapter of your life, which unveils the details of how well you wrote your story. So let go of the past, set yourself free, and open your mind to the possibility of new relationships and priceless experiences.

You are frequently forced to sacrifice your happiness. – If you allow people to make more withdrawals than deposits in your life, you will be out of balance and in the negative before you know it. Know when to close the account. It’s always better to be alone with dignity than in a relationship that constantly requires you to sacrifice your happiness and self-respect.

Written by AdeBimpe Obaoye

Teach your children sex education

It is important to a child’s life, 75% of parents do not give their children SEX EDUCATION, this is why there is high rate of immorality in our society.
40% of the 75% do not have the knowledge of Sex Education, therefore they do not know what to teach their children about it. The other 35% are ashamed of saying the truth of the matter. When their children gets to the age when they will become inquisitive and ask several questions, such parents tell them lies about it.
Family is the first agent of social change, followed by School, Church and Peers. I think that the federal government should introduce SEX EDUCATION as a subject from primary 3 to secondary schools, Parents should teach their children, it is their duty, the bible says:

Train up a child in the way he should go,

And when he is old he will not depart from it. (Prov 22:6. NKJV)

I suggest that pastors also should introduce the basics of this subject to the children ministry of their various Churches. No matter what you teach a child without giving him the knowledge of this subject, he/she will make several blunders. Child without the knowledge of this topic will rely on getting the answers to their questions from their peers and it’s certain that they knew little or nothing about it. After receiving such wrong answers, they will like to practice what they learnt. If you teach them, they will only practice what you impacted into them but if you do not do your work, you have failed as a parent. Read the book of proverbs, especially chapters 1 – 5 to have an insight of what to teach the children about this subject…Let them know the use of all part of their body, tell them the mind and purpose of God towards all parts of the body. Whatever you sow in your children’s life is what you will reap and any question you fail to explain to them correctly, they may end up getting the wrong answers. Give your children the right impression about life so that they don’t make mistakes, teach them to have a positive mindset towards every activities of their daily lives even when negativity seems to overpower, teach them faith, the just shall live by faith. All parents should be friends to their children so that they could tell you when someone try to abuse them sexually, don’t put fears into them as some parents do. A good mother should be close to her children, especially her daughters because they will soon become ladies and women, so teach them what womanhood is all about. A good father as well should be close to his children especially his sons, teach them about life and all about manhood. Some fathers hug their daughters at a tender age but when they get to 13, 14, 15 years they stop, NO! continue, it will go a a long way to help them.

And you, fathers, (both parents) do not provoke your children to wrath,

but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord (Eph. 6:4. NKJV)

Don’t deny your daughters association with the male counterparts and better still, let them attend mix-schools. If you are sure of having thought them about sex education, discipline and how to pray (very important) then, when they get to the age of 18 years, grant them freedom, that is what they need at that age. What you need do when they are 18 are: Always advice them, Pray for them for God’s wisdom and protection, Pray for God to help them remember all that you thought them. Above all, teach them about Christ, the knowledge of Christ is the best knowledge they can get, it will guild them and they will not depart from it. If you do not know about Christ Jesus; what will you then teach them? The scripture said:

But you (your children) must continue in the things which you have learned and been assured of, knowing from whom you have learned them, and that from childhood you have known the Holy Scriptures, which are able to make you wise for salvation through faith which is in Christ Jesus (2Tim. 3:14-15. NKJV)

Wisdom is not by age, knowledge or position you assume but it comes from God and through the knowledge of Him. Most parents will not teach their daughters SEX EDUCATION but will rather resort in locking them inside the house thinking it’s a way of protecting them against abuse and immorality. This is not true, any day such girl who is being locked up will go out, she will use one day to do what other girls could not do in one month. Think about what happens when they gain admission into the higher institution, or will you follow them to school? Some parents go as far as forcing them to attend a school close to their house, so they could watch them, NO you can’t possibly watch them! What the children need is knowledge of the truth, Jesus said: you shall know the truth and the truth shall set you free. Lay the basic foundation of the knowledge of this topic in the lives of your children, it will profit them all through their life time.

Written by Evg J U Obi

Break those curses

Dr Larry Huch

You don't have to let sin and shame cripple you. These steps can help you discover freedom from your past.

RECOGNIZE THE CURSE. In order to get set free and stay free, you have to admit you have a problem. That sounds simple, but we live in a day and age of denial. No matter what has happened to us in our lives, each of us are responsible for the choices and decisions we make. If you really want to be free, you will accept that responsibility.
BREAK THE CURSE. As we apply God's Word and power to our lives, and as we choose to walk in righteousness and obedience to God, the chains of bondage will be broken. There are three steps to breaking a generational curse:
(1) Give your life to Jesus; the blood of Jesus removes our sin; (2) Fight the battle with spiritual weapons (such as the Word of God and the armor of God); and (3) Regain control over the power of your will. When Jesus shed His blood, he bought back our willpower. Through the blood of Jesus, we can say no.
REVERSE THE CURSE. There are three keys you can use to reverse the curse and live in victory: (1) Recognize your enemy. We battle not with flesh and blood. Our enemy is Satan, and the battle is spiritual. (2) Forgive people who have hurt you. (3) Treat causes, not symptoms (for example, insecurity, jealousy or fear).
RELEASE THE POWER OF LOVE. To become people whose lives are transformed by the love of God, we must not only get rid of what holds us captive and keeps us in bondage, but we must also be filled up with love--for God, for self and for others. Unconditional love will release blessing. To know more of the love of God in your life, love those who have hurt you, those who have opposed you and those who have sinned against you.
DEVELOP A GODLY ATTITUDE. A good attitude does not make everything go perfectly all the time. Matthew 5:45 tells us that God sends the rain on the just and the unjust. But our attitude determines whether the rain will water the seeds of our harvest or wash those seeds away. Get serious about where you are going with God by getting your attitude lined up with His Word, having faith and trusting in Him.
ALIGN YOUR WORDS WITH GOD'S WORDS. Your words give evidence of your faith, and they should reflect God's good purposes for you. Exchange your negative words for positive words, exchange your negative thoughts for positive thoughts, and exchange your negative actions for positive actions.
ACCEPT GOD'S ACCEPTANCE. Jesus didn't come to condemn us or punish us. He came to give us hope that our lives really can be different. We don't have to live under the burdens of pain, hurt, shame or sorrow. All the power in heaven is available to you to set you free from every chain that binds you. Corrie ten Boom said, "There is no pit so deep that God's love is not deeper still."
WALK IN OBEDIENCE. In order to break free from the curses and walk in freedom, you must learn to walk in obedience to God's ways. We don't have to be perfect or without mistakes, but our hearts need to be surrendered and pliable toward God. We need to be moving forward in the things of God every day of our lives. Today's decisions determine our tomorrows. There is a miracle on the other side of your obedience.

Larry Huch is founder and senior pastor of New Beginnings Christian Center in Dallas, Texas. He and his wife, Tiz, have planted six churches in the United States and Australia.

How to Stay Happy Even If You’re Broke

I can’t describe the pain I felt seeing my wife open one of three credit card bills we receive every month. As she glanced through the details, she let out a deep breath as she massaged her forehead with her left hand, with disappointment written all over her face.

We’re broke.

With three kids to take care of, a mortgage to maintain, and credit card debts left unsettled, we were barely making it as we lived from paycheck-to-paycheck.

It was tough for both of us. It’s like getting lost in the middle of a maze and you can’t find your way out. No matter how much we tried to keep everything tight, the problem doesn’t seem to end. It was getting worse like cancer.

Many of us have gone through a similar situation. In fact, as of July 2014, 1 in every 3 adults in the US are behind on debt payments according to CNN. That’s a whopping 77 million people in debt!

It’s alarming how people fall in deep depression due to debt. Some even take their lives.

Luckily, I haven’t reached that point but being knee-deep in debt has certainly made me hit rock bottom. I even published my feelings in Facebook out of desperation.

“The struggle continues. When will this ever end?” I wrote.

Of course this garnered comments from friends and colleagues but one comment from an old friend stood out.

“Just stay strong and never give up. It will all end soon. It may take long, but it will end.” he said.

Those words really left a mark. It was a wake-up call and it turned my mindset around.

The question I have for you now is, can we be broke and happy at the same time? Is that even possible?

My answer to this question is a resounding “Yes”.Here are some of the ways you can too:

Accept Responsibility

The first step is to accept our situation and be accountable for it. No one is responsible for getting you in debt except you. Don’t blame the economy For your circumstance. THAT’S ALL ON YOU.

If you were capable of getting yourself in so much debt, you are equally capable of getting out of it. No one else can help you become financially free except you.

Be Thankful

Life is so beautiful but unbelievably short and it doesn’t help your case if you’ll choose to wallow in defeat and self-pity. Things are not as bad as it seems.

You may be financially struggling but there are other things in your life that you should be thankful for.

Your family is there, your kids are healthy, you have good relationships, you’re able to eat thrice in a day, and the list goes on.

Instead of focusing your energy and attention on the adversities you are facing, count your blessings. You are in a better spot compare to others.

Remain Hopeful

Robert Kiyosaki and his wife used to live in their car. Chris Gardner, whose life was the inspiration for the movie, The Pursuit of Happiness, went homeless for some time. Best-selling author Andy Andrews used to live under a pier.

Where are they now?

They’re all millionaires and very successful.

How did they turn their lives around?

They never lost hope and they didn’t accept defeat. They persisted and they took action.

You might be saying, “well, they’re different.”

ABSOLUTELY NOT!
They’re normal people just like you and me.

Ikechi Awazie is an inspirational blogger and writer.he is a passionate follower of Christ, been fortunate to lead, inspire, equip and encourage others. I love to learn, help other people and take on new challenges. Get ready as I inspire you to action.

The Undertaker looses to Brock lesnar at "Hell in a cell"

Hell in a cell of World Wrestling Entertainment was in a state of roaring when the dead man(The Undertaker confronted The beast(Brock Lesnar) in a bloody war.