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ORJI UZOR KALU WITHDRAWS FROM FIFA PRESIDENCY BID

Following Monday’ s deadline for the submission of FIFA presidency bid, former Governor of Abia State,Nigerjia, Dr. Orji Kalu has commended football stakeholders across the world who wanted him to contest for the plum job of FIFA president, even as he did not submit a formal bid. Kalu, while acknowledging the support of President Muhammadu Buhari and other African Presidents for their patriotic roles noted that sports is a unifying force among Africans.

In a statement signed by his Adviser, Kunle Oyewumi on Monday, Kalu said, “I feel humbled and honoured with the widespread call for me to vie for the position of FIFA president. I sincerely appreciate the show of love and support demonstrated by African countries of endorsements despite my decision not to submit a bid. I particularly remain grateful to FIFA President, Sep Blatter and his team for personally acknowledging my capability to take the world football body to enviable heights.

 “However, considering the economic challenges facing Nigeria, I have decided to focus my attention and resources on my business and humanitarian activities. I strongly believe the FIFA presidency is all about service, but I would rather continue my contributions to the economy of the continent by creating employment opportunities and wealth for Africans

“As a football enthusiast, I remain committed and passionate to the advancement of sports especially Africa”, Kalu declared.

He applauded the Nigerian Football Federation (NFF) for encouraging Nigerians to vie for the FIFA presidency, adding that Nigeria had showcased her human assets to the world.

Skin care tips for men

Taking care of your skin is the single most important thing you can do for your appearance. Sure, a sense of style helps, but the best clothing in the world can’t cover up unsightly bumps and blemishes. Even if you think you’re a skin care expert — and chances are you don’t — this refresher course from the basic to the advanced will remind you of what you should be including in your skin care arsenal.

Face wash

Twenty years ago, it was a miracle if men’s grooming including anything more than washing the face with a bar of soap. Unfortunately, using a simple soap is about as bad as doing nothing at all: It can leave your skin taut and thirsty. Instead, use a cleanser that strikes a delicate balance between tough and tender. Look for a fragrance-free gel face wash suitable for all skin types that is strong enough to cut through those overactive male sebaceous glands yet gentle enough to be used every day.

Face scrub

 

A face wash is just the opening act for facial cleansing. Men’s skin is naturally thicker than women, with larger pores that roll out the red carpet for nasty debris. A granular scrub should be used two to three times a week to exfoliate and dislodge dirt deep down. No one likes to look at bumps and blackheads, and scrubbing will help smooth your complexion for a clearer, cleaner appearance. It also softens the skin as a first step toward a less gruesome shaving experience.

Moisturizer

 

Even the mildest facial cleansers can leave your skin feeling just plain parched. And don’t think you can cheat the system by using one fortified with a laundry list of special moisturizing agents. The truth is that every guy, even those with oily skin, needs to replenish the moisture content of their skin. Something as routine as showering or washing your face with hot water can open pores and allow valuable water to escape. A basic moisturizer with SPF will restore moisture, protect your skin from the sun, reduce razor burn, and even prevent against premature aging.

Eye cream

 

Almost every man neglects to treat the skin around his eyes; the soft, thin layer of skin there is prone to developing fine lines, and it’s where men first start to show visible signs of aging. That’s why everyone — even twentysomethings without a care or wrinkle in the world — should be using something specially formulated for this fickle facial region. Try an eye cream with Q10 (a coenzyme used to fight fine lines) and swelling reducers like caffeine and cucumber.

Clay mask

Despite the air of mystique and femininity surrounding a clay mask, it can be an important part of a man’s skin care regimen. This isn’t an intense spa facial, but rather a quick 10-minute commitment once a week to deep clean your face. The clay removes dead skin and promotes cellular regeneration. It also unclogs pores while reducing excess oil and shine.
The final must-know information from our guy’s grooming guide for skin care…

Lip balm

Like the skin around the eyes, lips also tend to get forgotten in a sea of sloughing and scrubbing. Skin on the lips is thin and lacks oil glands to regulate moisture content as well as melanin to shield the sun — this makes them particularly prone to dryness, burning and subsequent cracking and bleeding. All these problems can lead to occasional sores and the development of fine lines over time. With all the challenges here, it’s a wonder how anyone arrives in lip-lock land; simply use a balm with SPF on a regular basis and you’ll be provided supple safety.

Shaving cream

Shaving cream is the only way to get a razor close enough to wipe away a five o’clock shadow. But not all shaving creams are created equal. A cooling gel that develops into a thick lather is best for almost all skin types. Gel-based formulas tend to be denser and provide better cushion and glide for a pain-free shave. If your skin irritates easily, shave during or after a shower while pores are wide open. Also,learn to give your skin a few days rest between shaving sessions.

Aftershave

Aftershaves have come a long way from the burning alcohol-based concoctions splashed on by grand fathers.Today’s post-shaving balms actually provide soothing relief. Most formulas use a hint of menthol to cool the skin, but if you’re prone to irritation, make sure to steer clear: Menthol can sometimes aggravate super sensitive skin. An aftershave should also have a light consistency for faster, more efficient absorption. Extras like aloe and vitamin E are also helpful to promote healing.

Toner

Regular use of a toner can help dissolve skin impurities and cut through dirt. Male skin tends to produce excess sebum — the oily, waxy matter produced by the sebaceous glands — primarily on the face and scalp. Toner washes away the oil, prevents blackheads, tightens pores, and reduces shine. One with salicylic acid will also help treat acne breakouts.

Scalp scrub

The scalp is just skin covered — in most cases, at least partially — by hair. Yet, that small barrier of hair prevents men from ever dedicating the necessary time to clean it properly. The scalp excretes pore-clogging sebum just like the skin on the face and is likewise susceptible to the development of nasty blemishes. A scrubbing shampoo that exfoliates the scalp will prevent oil buildup and even protect against hair loss

Body wash

So much attention is given to the complex skin on your face that it’s easy to forget about the other 90% of your body — a bar soap won’t do here, either. A shower gel is both more effective and sanitary than a cracked, germ-laden bar of soap. Granular scrubs are also important to use (in place of a basic gel) one to two times a week for exfoliation and deep-cleaning. Go for one enriched with menthol or caffeine to leave your skin feeling fresh and tingly

Written by Teinye Boyle

7 things you must not say to your husband

One of the best parts about marriage is being so comfortable with your hubby that you can say just about anything to him. But if you don't watch your mouth, sometimes the ugly truth comes out in hurtful—not helpful––ways. Though you may have legitimate concerns to express or issues to bring up, doing so in a harsh manner can be damaging in the long term, to both your husband's feelings and your relationship.


1. "Yes, I had an orgasm." (when you didn't)

Lying is never a great idea, especially when it comes to sexual intimacy.The definition of intimacy is letting another person see your vulnerabilities, and that includes admitting that your sex life might need some S.O.S. When you pretend you're enjoying sex with your husband, you may think that you're sparing his feelings, but you're actually pushing him away by not being honest. And chances are, you aren't fooling him: The very fact that he's asking usually means he suspects that something is up.

 2. "You're just like your father.
This is just a no-no.It's nasty and belittling, and it gets at his fear that he may be exhibiting the worst traits of his family.If you're about to spout a criticism like this, stop and think about what's behind it: Maybe your father-in-law is the kind of guy who never cleans up after himself, and your husband's habit of leaving dirty dishes around the house is getting to you. You should skip the insult and get right to a reasonable request, such as: "Hon, when you're done with your sandwich, can you bring your dish over to the sink?" That way, you can achieve your goals without hurting him in the process.

 3. "When are you going to find a new job?" First, figure out why you want him to find a new job so badly. Do you dislike how much time he spends away from home? Do you think he can or should be further ahead career-wise? Is he not bringing home a healthy-enough salary? Before you say anything that could be hurtful to him, think about what your own issues are,Be particularly careful that you're not attacking his ability to support you and the kids: Part of how a man evaluates himself is by how well he can take care of his family,so insulting him in this sensitive area can be a serious blow. To avoid this, have regular talks about both of your jobs, career ambitions and budget concerns.

 4. "My mother warned me you'd do this!"

Something must have seriously infuriated you, because what you're doing here is letting him know that there are other MEN in your camp.You are trying to validate your 'side' of an argument, as though you're marshalling an army to your side,But that's never a good idea because it's telling him that you're not on his side, or on the side of your relationship. Though you should never let the opinions of others' dictate your relationship, if there is some kernel of truth to a concern that your mother raised, think about how to address that.

 5. "Just leave it––I'll do it myself!

This is hurtful in two ways. First, it gets at your husband's elemental need to be a provider, supporter and capable person in the house. Second, it's just plain demeaning for any adult to hear that his efforts are sub-par. Do this too often and your husband might think, "I can never do anything right or anything that'll please her".A better choice is to pick your battles. If he's in the middle of a task and you think that he's doing it wrong, evaluate whether it really matters, keeping in mind that, just because he's doing something differently than you would doesn't mean that he's doing it wrong—he is, after all, an adult too.

 6. "You always... " or "You never... "

These are two phrases I advise couples never to use,because they set up an instant, negative tone; they halt communication and they put the other person on the defensive.These blanket statements can make your husband feel unfairly attacked, and chances are he'll just fire back with all the times he did help. If there are legitimate problems you'd like to address (he really does tend to leave his tools all over the garage floor or often forgets to put gas in the car after driving it), avoid generalizing and try to focus on the issue at hand while also communicating how his actions make you feel: "When you come home with an empty tank of gas, I feel like you don't care about the next person who has to drive the car—which is usually me." Then add the phrase "would you be willing...,""Would you be willing to fill up the car when it gets below a quarter tank?" Most men are willing to do most anything that'll make you happy

 

 7. "Please watch the kids. But don't do this, take them here or forget that..."

This is a classic nervous-new-mom move: When you're in anxiety mode, it can be hard to let go of childcare tasks (even though you would love to have more help). It's also an attitude that can become a habit no matter how long you've been a mom, leading to some very unhealthy feelings: You may become resentful because he doesn't pitch in, but you don't always give him room to, either. At the end of the day, no husband is going to be inspired to be a better, more hands-on and involved dad if his every effort is shot down.

Written by  Denise Schipani

Nigerian Senate rejects proposal to pay unemployed youth

The Senate on Wednesday rejected a motion for the payment of N5, 000 monthly allowance to unemployed youths in the country.
The motion was sponsored by Philip Aduda (PDP, FCT) but was greeted with shouts of “no, no” when he tried to explain it.
Attempts by the Minority Leader, Godswill Akpabio, to second the motion were disrupted by the rowdiness.
Intervening, President of the Senate, Bukola Saraki, posed the question but the senators responded along party lines.
While Peoples Democratic Party (PDP) members yelled ‘’aye’’ in favour of the motion, All Progressives Congress (APC) senators, who were in majority, rejected it.
However, a motion calling for the probe of the utilisation of Subsidy Reinvestment and Empowerment Programme (SURE-P) funds by the immediate past administration was adopted by the senators.
The sponsor of the motion, Babajide Omoworare, prayed that every naira spent by the past government on SURE-P and other poverty alleviation programmes should be accounted for.
When the president of the Senate put the question, it was supported with a loud “aye” from the APC wing of the chamber, with no dissenting voice from the PDP side.
In his remarks, Mr. Saraki urged the senators to take the issue of unemployment very seriously and not play politics with it.
“We should stay above party line on this issue that is so important. We have seen growth in the last years but this has not translated to employment.
“Government alone cannot do it; the private sector has a role to play and the enabling environment must be created,” he said.
PDP leaders have lately called on President Muhammadu Buhari and the ruling APC to fulfil their campaign promise of paying N5, 000 to unemployed Nigerian youth.