There is a quote – “If you want something to change, YOU have to do
something different.” Notice the word – YOU. It isn’t if you want
something to change, SOMEONE ELSE has to do something different or your
HUSBAND has to do something different. If YOU want change – YOU be the
change.
Many times we want our spouse to change, to make our marriage better.
But – It isn’t always up to the men to change. Sometimes the change
needs to come from us – the women!
Here are
10 Simple Steps To Become A Better Wife – to help your marriage grow stronger and for you to see that change you are needing.
1. SET YOUR PRIORITIES: And set them correctly.
Above all, your husband should be your number one priority. Our lives
are super busy as women, but make sure you set some time every single
day to spend with your man.
2. BE INTERESTED IN HIS INTERESTS: Make a list of
things that you know he LOVES to do and jump in it with him. If he likes
to play basketball – go shoot some hoops with him. If he likes to work
out – go to the gym or go on a run with him. He will LOVE that you love
what he loves.
10 Simple Steps To Become A Better Wife
3. TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF: In order to take care of
another person {your husband}, you MUST take care of yourself. Set goals
for yourself. Take a shower or warm bath. Eat healthy and exercise. Do
something that makes you laugh every single day. When we take care of
ourselves, we are happier, which in return reflects on how we treat our
men.
4. SHOW APPRECIATION: You will be surprised how much
of a change can come, by just saying “thank you.” Show him that you
appreciate what he does on a daily basis. Show him that you are grateful
that he works hard to provide for your family. Let him know that you
are proud of him for everything he does.
10 Simple Steps To Become A Better Wife
5. PLAN A ROMANTIC SURPRISE: Get a babysitter and
surprise him! Make sure the romance doesn’t die in your relationship.
Everyone loves to feel loved. Show him that by taking him on a romantic
evening, just the two of you.
6. LET HIM HAVE “GUY TIME” : Sometimes guys just need
to be GUYS! They need to play those video games and get their workout
on. They need to hang with the buddies and go play sports. If we are too
controlling and don’t let them have their “them” time – they will be
unhappy. Use that time for yourself too! While he does his guy thing,
you go do a girl thing! That is a great time to do something you love
too – it is a win win!
7. TELL HIM HIS STRENGTHS: Every guys wants to be
complimented. Tell him what he is good at and how great he looks. Boost
his little ego some more – that’s what a wife is for!
8. BE HIS TROPHY WIFE: Look good for him! This is
another thing we tend to get “comfortable” with – our appearance. I am
not saying you have to look flawless and fancy when he walks in the door
every day. By all means – sometimes I look a LITTLE homeless by the
time he comes home. ? But dress up when you go out. Touch up your
make-up and look presentable for him every now and then, when he walks
in the door. Make him feel PROUD that YOU are his wife and that he gets
to come home to you every day.
9. PRAY FOR HIM: A couple that prays together, stays
together. Take a few moments every day and pray for him. You can pray
for him quietly in your heart or out loud as a couple so he can hear
you. He will love to hear your concern for him and that you truly want
to be the best wife for him.
10. BE HAPPY: When he walks in the door tonight, have a
smile on your face. Instead of having a laundry list of things for him
to do – be happy and positive. Nobody wants to come home to someone who
is miserable – be enthusiastic and make him smile EVERY day.
Often times as we focus on our marriages and do these simple steps
for our husbands, they will catch on and reciprocate. If you let him
have “guy time” maybe he will let you have more “girl time.” If you
point out his strengths, he will probably start pointing out yours too.
If you are happy, he will most likely be happy as well!
Let us, as women, take a stand in our marriage and BE the change! As
you work on these simple steps to become a better wife – I know your
love will increase for that man by your side and the love will be
reciprocated.
What do you like to do for your husband? I would love to hear from you!
Written by Bisi Adewale
Pastor Bisi Adewale is a family and
relationship expert; an international conference speaker and author of Secret of Irresistible Wife and more than
60 other books on marriage and family life and also the host of family T.V. program called Family Booster.You can reach him on facebook.com/PastorBisiAdewale , +2348068312004, +2348051512823,