Disciplines - Leadership - Followership

The nature of leadership can perhaps be best understood by turning the coin over and studying follower ship.
Why do people follow leaders? If we can understand this, then we will be a long way down the road to creating those followers and hence becoming an effective leader.

People don't just follow anyone. You can't just say 'follow me' and expect people to follow out of the goodness of their hearts. You have to give them good reason for them to follow.

Key aspect of creating followers:

    * The Leader-Follower loop: Leaders create followers create leaders.
    * Five reasons to follow: From coercive push to the pull of inspirational vision.
    * Followers and Respect: Both leader and solution are important.
    * Followers and Trust: I will follow someone I trust.
    * Followers and Liking: I will follow someone I like.
    * Followers and Support: I will follow someone who supports me.
    * Followers and Ideas: I will follow ideas, not objectives.
    * Non-followership: Why people do not follow.

Also:

    * Zaleznik's follower typology: Based on control and activity.
    * Kelley's follower typology : Five different types.
    * Kellerman's follower typology: Five different types.
    * Chaleff's follower typology: Based on type of support.

The principle of followership was summed  by the 19th century British Prime Minister Benjamin Disraeli, who said, 'I must follow the people. Am I not their leader?'

Written by Olukayode Orikeye

12 Signs He's Only Interested in Sex and not marriage

 If he really interested in relationship that will end up in marriage or he wants you to be his sex tou,these are the signs you will know so that you don't waste your time with such people.

1. He only texts you after 1 a.m. It's a scientific fact that all booty calls happen after 1 a.m. All those cars you see driving around after 12:59? People out in the streets past 1? They're all on their way to a booty call.
2. He gets frustrated when you invite him over to watch a movie and actually just want to watch a movie. Most guys would be like, "Alright, cool. If I can't have sex, I guess actually getting to watch the entirety of The Hunger Games: Catching Fire is a pretty good consolation prize." But when you swat away his thigh-climbing hand he's suddenly tired and has to go home.
3. You never meet his friends. The less information you have about him, the easier it is for him to ghost you. If you don't know who he hangs out with, or where he lives, or what his last name is, he can disappear like a phantom into the night. A phantom who banged you a bunch of times and then stopped answering texts, which would make for a shittier Broadway play than the kind of phantom that hangs out in operas. But a phantom nonetheless.

4. He makes it really hard for you to sleep over. He never straight-up says you have to leave (That wouldn't get him a next hookup!) but he always has a "thing" really early the next morning. A "thing with friends" or "a work thing" or "some family thing." You know families don't have picnics at 5 a.m. though.
5. He always hands you everything before you leave. Did you forget your bra? Some lipstick? Your purse? A single bobby pin? If you never forget anything there, you can never have an excuse to show up when he doesn't want you to. If you tried to show up unsolicited anyway, you'd probably find the place abandoned and boarded up, and some neighbor would tell you, "Why, that place has been abandoned for years!" like some episode of Are You Afraid of the Dark.
6. You've never been on a real date. Dates are for men who consider themselves boyfriends, not men who consider themselves fuck buddies.
7. He always insists on splitting the cost of the post-coital pizza you ordered. If one of you doesn't pay for the pizza, it can't be considered a date. He will follow #6 if it kills him.
8. He's "busy" whenever you text him about something personal or emotional. Who has time to pause his game of Madden to talk to you about things like how you feel? If your text about your grandma passing away isn't attached to a sexy picture, he won't even bother opening it. Guys who just want you for sex aren't going to spend time playing the boyfriend.
9. He always tries to initiate sex when you hang out. An easy way to tell the difference between guys who like having sex with you a lot and guys who only like having sex with you is this: Think back to a time when the two of you were together but weren't having sex for more than an hour. If you can't do that, he only wants you for sex.
10. The only thing he's ever bought you that could be considered romantic is a vibrating cock ring. He was like, "Hey, I have a surprise for you," and you could hear a faint vibration, and he dropped his pants and honestly expected you to be pumped about it.
11. Every conversation turns flirty/sexual. Every time you talk or text, it immediately turns into a conversation about having sex. He's stopped even trying to be witty about it. "Oh, you're at the grocery store right now? I sure would like to have sex with you … at the grocery store ;-)"
12. He texts you to meet up with a group, but wants to go back to your place/his place as soon as you get there. You might think you're about to meet all of his friends at some bar, but when you get there, he's already waiting outside with his coat and some condoms.

Written by Frank Kobola

You need discernment

 

‘Do not neglect your gift…’
(1 Tim 4:14)

‘A prophet visited our church and He pointed me out in the congregation and said, “You have a gift of discernment.”
A few years later when we were living in another city, the same prophet visited our church there. He again pointed me out and said, “Has anyone ever told you that you have a gift of discernment of spirits?” I said, “Yes, you did several years ago.”
See,in your business,you need discernment.In your marital life,you need discernment.In your marriage,you need discernment,In school,you need discernment.
 It is one thing to know that you have a spiritual gift of discernment—it is quite another thing to know what to do with it, and how to use it.

The gift of discernment is a powerful weapon in times of spiritual warfare and of great assistance when breakthrough is needed in our personal or church life.

Here are 8 ways that you can grow your spiritual gift of discernment of spirits. And yes, some of these I have learned the hard way—through trial and error.

 1. Source It
 It is vital that we understand the difference between discernment that is from the Holy Spirit and suspicion, which can masquerade as discernment, but is actually sourced in our own human nature. This is a danger that can trip even mature discerners up. The best means of preventing this is our intimate relationship with God.

 2. Plant It
‘Planted in the house of the LORD, they will flourish in the courts of our God.’ Ps 92:13.
 As with all prophetic people, discerners need to be cared for and pastored in a church environment.The honest truth also is that you can succeed at your business and relationships if you have the gift of discernment,to know who is real and fake.
When we are planted in the life of a healthy church, we can flourish and grow in our gift. However, we must remember that it will not always be smooth sailing in community life—even in the healthiest of churches.

 3. Submit It
It is vital, and a matter of protection for others and ourselves, that we operate in our spiritual gift of discernment with accountability, and under God-given leadership.
It is important that we encourage our insights to be weighed up (1 Cor 14:29). As the Apostle Paul said, ‘For we know in part and we prophesy in part.’ (1 Cor 13:9)
The discernment that we receive is incomplete without the insights of others, who will have different pieces of the puzzle and complementary gifts. (1 Cor 12:12-27)
Feedback is also a great tool to help us grow in our discernment.

4. Purify It It is possible for the expression of a discernment gift to be affected by our response to negative experiences that we have had in our lives.
I had prayer ministry to help me break free of fear associated with early experiences of demonic encounters. I also received ministry in relation to difficulties with authority. As a result, I have a much more useful gift.
I have also had to grow a great deal in my character—a journey that is ongoing!

5. Study It

Find out what the Bible has to say about the gift of discernment:

• Read examples of people who encountered unseen spiritual realities—how did they respond? What did they do as a result of their experiences?

• How and when did Jesus use the gift of discernment to minister to people?

• What does the Apostle Paul say in his epistles about how spiritual gifts operate in the context of church life and ministry?

6. Develop It

As with other gifts, discernment can be developed and strengthened.
The ability to receive a revelation from God is only one aspect of this spiritual gift. Other aspects include:

• Having the wisdom to know what to do once you have received the discernment,
• How and when to share your insight
• How to weigh up what you have received against scripture
• Procedures for submitting an insight, and so on.

Seek to be trained or mentored in the context of Christian community, where you have safe people who can give you feedback and encourage you on the journey.
Look for good training, along with books and other resources on the topic of spiritual warfare and related areas.

7. Use it

Don’t hold back. Even if you are starting out and tentative, God can use you powerfully. Use your gift of discernment to help guard and grow your church.
If you discern warfare or have a warning, remember that God’s heart is always to redeem and restore. Seek the Father for a promise and His outcome.
The gift of discernment can also help give you insight as to how to respond and pray for breakthrough in any situation.
culled from www.enlivenpublishing.com

What Prophet Muhammad said about Isis and Boko Haram!!!

Just last monday at Unilag central mosque,a Federal University of Nigeria in Lagos,i sat down with some muslim imams who knew i was a chaplain and we discussed issues,and i got to realise some revelations.I was given the holy Qur'an translated in english to read.when i got home and opened the book,i was amazed.
I sat down and read some part of the quran and sincerely speaking,i am shocked.
The Quran shows that groups like Isis and Boko Haram are in complete defiance of the injuction of Islam.  The Quran, for instance, equates one murder to the elimination of the whole human race (5:32), and considers persecution and disorder on earth as an even worse offense (2:217). It lays emphasis on peace, justice and human rights. It champions freedom of conscience and forbids worldly punishment for apostacy and blasphemy.
 Prophet Muhammad prophesized a long time ago that a time would come when nothing would remain of Islam but its name, nothing of the Quran but its word, and that many “Mosques would be splendidly furnished but destitute of guidance” (Mishkatul Masabih). In these latter days, the true spiritual essence of Islam would be lost, and religion, for the most part, would be reduced to a ritualistic compulsion. He foretold that the clergy would be corrupt and be a source of strife during these times.
 He also went on to describe terrorist groups such a
s ISIS and  Boko Haram that would try to hijack the Islamic faith. At this time of dissension, he said there would appear "a group of young people" who would be immature in thought and foolish.” They would speak beautiful words but commit the most heinous of deeds. They would engage in so much prayer and fasting that the worship of the Muslims would appear insignificant in comparison. They would call people to the Quran but would have nothing to do with it in reality. The Quran would not go beyond their throats, meaning they wouldn’t understand its essence at all, merely regurgitating it selectively. The Prophet then went on to describe these people as "the worst of the creation"

HADITH: Whenever I narrate to you anything from the Messenger of Allah believe it to be absolutely true as falling from the sky is dearer to me than that of attributing anything to him (the Holy Prophet) which he never said. When I talk to you of anything which is between me and you (there might creep some error in it) for battle is an outwitting. I heard the Messenger of Allah  as saying: There would arise at the end of the age a people who would be young in age and immature in thought, but they would talk (in such a manner) as if their words are the best among the creatures. They would recite the Qur’an, but it would not go beyond their throats, and they would pass through the religion as an arrow goes through the prey. So when you meet them, kill them, for in their killing you would get a reward with Allah on the Day of Judgement. 

Reflect on this critical point. Whenever ISIS or Boko Haram kills in the name of Islam, claims to follow the Quran, across the globe, know that it has been said before hand that they are imposters, and that they should be killed,no negotiations.

Let me stop here so that you can reflect on these things.

I am only trying to make common sence.

I remain yours 

Dipo Olatade

Are U serious!!! A Ladder Used In Bauchi Airport

Today, December 19, 2015, one more ‘candidate’ from Nigeria for inclusion into the list OF worst airport in Africa has suddenly emerged.

 
Passengers who arrived Bauchi State International Airport in Nigeria named after Sir Abubakar Tafawa Balewa were forced to climb a ladder to disembark the aircraft.
 It has been learnt that fuel scarcity was the root of such an incident. A ladder truck at the airport was out of fuel and could not move. However, the authorities have found another simple solution:

Discrimination in Igboland is virus

Dicrimination is a rock bottom attack on the personality of the victim. It is a virus that afflicts every other emblem of human rights as it seeks to seperate,even alienate the victim from the 

 membership of the human community. 

This virus is directed at removing the shield that binds humanity together. Discrimination erodes the innermost sensibilities of the victim, even when outwardly the victim’s pain remains shrouded in fake resilience.
Igbos are shouting for a republic of biafra but the truth is we dont want biafra because if biafra republic comes,it will become a monster that will eat up every igbo man.

I dont know why this is still happening in igboland.Why do we discriminate our fellow igbo brother and sisters?,What have they done that other igbo tribes have not committed before?.Im talking about ebonyi people (abakaliki or nwa aba in an offenceive way).I had been witnessing this day in day out,calling them all sorts of name,anything bad,is nwaaba,fight,robbery,any mistake from okada man is nwa aba.this have now made most of them (ebonyi people) to deny this insults,Im really ashamed of this.some igbos will even fight you if you tell or call them nwa aba,abakiliki.many of their girl are regarded as nothing even if she is beautiful or not.they are seen as animal especial here in awka and anambra in general and other parts of igboland (im anambrarian).their is this thing that people says about that made me to bring it up here,'if abakiliki man and snake enter his/her house that he/she chase away abakiliki and leave the snake' its a popular saying.I have been advising people to stop it but its just like pouring water in a basket.Please help make them to understand we are one.
 When Anambra man cannot marry Imo woman, you ask for Biafra.when Nsukka people are seen as third class igbo people, you want Biafra yet. you want Biafra yet discriminate amongst catholic and Anglicans. what are we fighting for
If Biafria comes,there will be hate amongs Igbos because many dont see each other as one.They will start killing each other.
Anambra cannot marry Ebonyi,and yet we claim to be Igbos. This discrimination must stop

Written by Chinedu Daniel