6 Ways to Invest in Your Marriage

Investment Strategies for Strong, Healthy Marriages.

• Keep the lines of communication open and flowing.  This seems almost too obvious to mention.  But is it?  Do we really communicate, or is it one of those things we know we should be doing?  I admit this one is hard for me.  I tend to keep things in my head, rather than putting them “out there” for discussion with my husband.  Most of the time I don’t avoid discussing something on purpose – it just takes me a while to realize I need to talk about it.  By then I’ve turned it around and inside out a dozen times, often making it into something that bears no resemblance to reality!  So don’t be like me.  Instead, establish regular, open communication as the default setting for your marriage.  Ideally, set aside time to talk and listen to each other every day.  Don’t use it as a gripe session, but as a time for both of you to share what’s in your heart and on your mind.  Find a time that works for the two of you, and teach your children that this time is sacrosanct.
• Get your finances in order.  While the previous strategy may have seemed too obvious, this one may not seem obvious at all.  “Get your finances in order” sounds like a good idea, but is it a marriage investment strategy?  I think it is.  Money problems are a leading (some would say the leading) cause of stress in marriage.  They can pit a husband and wife against each other and drive a wedge between them.  So work together to avoid preventable money problems and to address the ones you can’t prevent.  Check out resources like the ones created by Dave Ramsey, and use them to develop a financial management system that works for you.
• Establish a routine of enjoying time together.  How often do you spend enjoyable time with your husband?  In some families, the husband and wife are running so fast, they rarely slow down enough to enjoy each other.  What needs to change in order for you and your husband to enjoy some time together?  Is it simply a matter of scheduling it, or do you need to make significant changes, like controlling your family’s schedule ?  If you haven’t established this routine as a couple, work together over the next few weeks to begin making it a habit.  Take a look at these 21 ways to have fun with your spouse, or come up with your own list.
• Develop a common interest or hobby.  One way to enjoy time together is to share an interest or hobby, something that gets you out of the day-to-day routine and allows you to have fun.  It can be something you do at home or something that takes you out and about. For example, my husband and I have recently started riding bikes together. You can follow a sports team, hike, play tennis, search for antiques, or play board games – anything that’s fun for both of you.
• Devote time and energy to your sex life.  One of the best ways to invest in your marriage is to invest in sex and intimacy.  I’d even go so far as to say that a strong marriage requires a strong sex life – one that fulfills both the husband and the wife. It really isn’t optional – I’ve seen a marriage that seemed ideal in every other way fall apart because the couple didn’t enjoy an intimate, sexual connection.  If you’ve struggled in this area, what can you do this week to begin devoting time and energy to your sex life?  If that’s difficult for you, check out 7 Ways to Get in Touch with Your Sexy Side, Make Sex a Priority, or the Sex and Marriage Resources page.
• Pray together.  If you share a common faith, pray together regularly for your marriage and family.  If you don’t, pray on your own for increased communication and connection in all areas of your marriage.  Either way, ask God to protect and strengthen the two of you individually and as a couple through the good and not-so-good times.

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CONNECT WITH YOUR DESTINY HELPERS

 
Everyone has a purpose of be a man or woman. We are all destiny to fulfill one specific thing or the other. In order to fulfill it, there are helpers assigned to help us accomplish greater thing in life. At the same time, there are helpers assigned to help us get out of the problem(s) that have been battle with us, either in academics, marriage, finances, health, etc.

A man in our text is typical example of a man who needs helpers to get out of his situation. He was a paralyzed man, sick for many years that only God known. But those that have assigned for his healing carried their mission successfully.

FOUR MAJOR THINGS WITH THESE HELPERS:
1. They were not wearing until they fulfill there mission. As they were not nauseating, I pray that your helper with not wearing until they finish helping you.
2. They were not tired until they finished their helping assignment with him.
3. They did not see it as burden but see it as responsibility that must be done by them.
4. They make sure that they brought the man to where he should be.
5. They seen it that the man becomes what he should be.

THE RESULTS (OUTCOME) OF THEIR HELPS:
1. The man they help got to where he should be. The man was lay down at the presence of Jesus Christ- Luke 5:19. There is a place that God wants you to be, you will be there with the help of your helpers.
2. The man was ahead of other people. Hundreds of people had been in the house where Jesus was, but the man that brought late is ahead of them. It was the story of the man that was noted majorly in the journey of Jesus Christ there. When divine helpers help you, you will surely be ahead of others that have started before you. In your office or place of work, when God raise your helpers to help you, you must superior than other people. You must be an achiever more than your colleagues.
3. He got what he should get - Solution to his problem. Forgiveness and healing is the major needs of the man, and he got it. I want you to take note of one thing: the helpers of the man have it in mind for man to be healed, but Jesus Christ makes additional need (forgiveness of sins) to it. There some things you but you don't know them, but God know them and He will surely give them to you.
4. His enemies were put to shame. Luke 5:25-26. Some of the people that were there, did not want the man to be healed or freed from his problem were later disappointed. God will disappoint your enemies in your presence.

WHAT YOU SHOULD DO NOW:
1. Be in the presence of Jesus Christ. Until the man was in the presence of Christ, he was not set freed or healed from his sickness, so also you must be in Jesus presence. Jesus said: "Come to me, all of you who are tired of carrying heavy loads, and I will give you rest" Matthew 11:28 Good News Version. In other words, surrender your life to Him. Allow Him to do it for you; stop moving around seeking for solution where there is no solution. Jesus Christ is the only that an solve your problem for you; you just need to come to Him.
2. Confess all your sins and Pray for the forgiveness.
3. Pray for helpers that have assigned to help you.

PRAYERS POINTS:
1. Thanks God for this message and what God is going to do for you.
2. Ask for the forgiveness of all your sins
3. My God my Lord, don't allow my helpers to tire or weary until they help me.
4. As from this moment, cause all my helper to help me completely.
5. My helpers where are you, it is time for you to locate me and help me.
6. Anything that hinder or stop my helpers to help me, I command them to destroy today in Jesus name.

 OLU MIKE OMOASEGUN, a Nigerian. presently, is Assembly Pastor of CAC Hqrs Kakuri Kaduna, Nigeria. He is a teacher, writer, motivator. 
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Dreams Vs Fantasies

There is one more word, that seems to be very close to dream, but has absolutely different meaning. People often mix up the dream with this word. This is fantasy. Fantasy - is the definite feeling of wishing something. BUT the man is not ready to take action to reach this fantasy. Now lets discuss the feelings of the person who has a dream and a person who has a fantasy

The man with dream
1. is ready to take actions to achieve his dream
2. feels a great desire towards his dream
3. feels the need to get this dream
4. believe the dream will come true, believe he can makes it come true

When you have a dream, you experience desire, you are in need of your dream. This is not just a hope or wishful thinking. The dream obscures all other small and negative thoughts, it becomes an obsession. This state of mind is necessary for the strong decision to take actions, to put your dream over other unimportant and inconsiderable goals and plans. It helps to attain the persistence and consistency in actions that will exclude failure in the end result. And only this desire will bring you success. Only this desire will make your dreams come true. Your desire should be so strong to make you stand firm and be able to convince yourself in the future success. You have to believe in your dream till the time it becomes an obsession and only then this obsession transforms in reality. Every person, who wants to become a winner should be able to burn all bridges and cut all the roads back. Only in this case you will attain the state of mind called a burning desire, that is essentially important for reaching the dream.

The man with fantasy
1. is NOT ready to take actions to achieve the fantasy
2. has a state of mind called wishful thinking
3. hopes some day the fantasy comes true
4. DOES NOT believe it comes true
5. DOEST NOT believe he can make it comes true
6. Resignation, getting used to the current state of affairs

The major factor that differs dream from fantasy is the power of the wish. When wish is strong enough to makes us act, it becomes a dream. The next important factor is believe. On these two factors depend the outcome. These two factors give the answer why man CAN act to achieve the dream or why he CAN NOT.

Dare Jacob

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YOUR OWN TIME IS COMING

After Secondary School.. . Some of our classmates have gone out of the country, some are now graduates, some have married, some have given birth.. . some are dead don't forget that too,some haven't even gained admission into the tertiary institution, . but you know that feeling when you meet your classmate, and it seems like he/she has reached his dreams and you're not yet close yours? Yea, somehow feels like jealousy, its a normal feeling. . But, You must not regret your life. We all are different and our path to greatness is not same in distance. . Some might reach before you, some might reach after you but wherever level you are presently, please keep trying to break limitations and move further. . Celebrate the success of others, its an application for yours.. Your friend buys a car now, be happy with him/her.. Remember when you get yours, theirs wouldn't be the latest again. . Life is not by competition, if not we all Will be born into one type of family, one religion and same everything. . The passion in you, never quench. the desire in you, keep it burning. what you pass through, write it down because one day the world would be ready to read it. . There's no height you cannot attain, just believe. Define goals and recognize distractions. spend time teaching yourself, because the things that mainly take people to the top,is the things they devoted time to develop. . Don't be intimidated by your fellow's success, the sky is too wide that the birds can fly without touching themselves. I will meet you on top.. .!!!
Dr D.K Olukoya

BEWARE OF CRABS

In life,there are some people you must not meet and there are some people you must block from your life.When the lion begins to move with dogs,it will start barking like a dog.That is backwardness.

There is a principle in life you must be careful of and many people operate under the principle.it is the principle of crabology.There are people with the crab mentality that don't want you to rise above them.

The term “crab mentality” is used to describe a kind of selfish, short-sighted thinking that runs along the lines of “if I can't have it, neither can you.” I read a book and im shocked that even asians understand the crab mentality.This term is especially widely used in Asia among Filipinos, who use the crab mentality specifically to refer to those who pull other people down, denigrating them rather than letting them get ahead or pursue their dreams. As a general rule, an accusation of having this type of mentality is a poor reflection on someone's personality.it is the princple called PHD-Pull him down

This concept references an interesting phenomenon that occurs in buckets of crabs. If one crab attempts to escape from a bucket of live crabs, the others will pull it back down rather than allowing it to get free. Sometimes, the crabs seem almost malicious, waiting until the crab has almost escaped before yanking it back into the pot. All of the crabs are undoubtedly aware of the fact that their fate is probably not going to be very pleasurable, so people are led to wonder why they pull each other back into the bucket instead of helping the clever escape from unfavorable circumstances.

Now look at this: "Be you not unequally yoked with unbeliever.what has light got to do with darkness,what has righteousness with unrighteousness".we all know dis verse from the bible,but many do not see deeply what it means.An unbeliever is deeper than religious conotations.there are unbelievers in the church,and there are believers who are in the world.A muslim can be a helper to a christian,and vise versa.Listern,a person with a crab mentality is an unbeliever.Unbeliever or people with crab mentality are persons you must never associate with because he will not add value to your life,instead,he pulls you down.he is an unbeliever because he doesnt believe in your dreams and visions,he does not believe in ur destiny spiritually and physically.An unbeliever does not appreciate the creative abilities and potentials a person carries because their eyes have been positioned to see negativity and darkness,that is why they are unbelievers.the rich man can never be a friend to the poor because of the way they see.

Here are 6 signs to know those with crab mentality

1. They are too proud of themselves and treat others as inferior beings.

You can sense a breeze of arrogance from people with crab mentality. They feel like they have royal blood flowing in their veins, and they treat other people as outcast.

2. They panic when they see that people are happy and improving.

 Aside from arrogance, you can also smell envy, jealousy and bitterness from this kind of people. They freak out when the people they look down are rising or progressing beyond them. It gives them a terrible feeling of insecurity. That’s why they will try to pull them down, either by harsh words or by unkind actions. You will see them giving bitter comments on Facebook, Twitter and other social media channels
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3. Their motto in life is “if I can’t have it, neither can you”.

They rather wish everyone will fail than let themselves fail while others are succeeding. They represent the the crabs in the bucket, where the crabs can easily escape from the bucket, but instead, they grab and pull down each other in a selfish competitive manner which prevents any of them to escape, resulting to their collective demise. In other words, people who have a crab mentality are selfish and they don’t have any sense of sacrifice.

4. They are full of positivity for themselves but full of negativity for others. 
They only see the good things in themselves, but they’re blind when it comes to their negative characteristics. When it comes to how they view other people, it becomes the opposite. They only see the bad things of other people while they’re blind to their positive deeds. That is why instead of appreciation, what you will get from them are nothing but negative criticisms.

5. They spend most of their time talking about people rather than discussing ideas and solutions.

Again, it’s because they treat people as their competitors. Instead of thinking about the brilliant ideas and solutions that can make the Nigeria a better country, they spend most of their time ensuring that no other nigerian can become better than them. When our nation faces a crisis, they will be more active in talking about how people become worthy of suffering rather than discussing the solutions that will help people end their sufferings.

6. They don’t know a thing about compassion. 
Compassion is a great virtue that enables us to understand the feelings of other people. It lets us walk in other people’s shoes and appreciate the lives they are living. But people with crab mentality lack compassion. They are inconsiderate and ignorant of the many people they are offending. They don’t care about the many hearts they are breaking. Well, what can we expect? They only care for themselves.

I remain yours

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