HOW TO STOP CORRUPTION

Here are 8 ways We can gradually check this cankerworm:

1) Emolument Increase of Security Personnels: Increasing salaries of
Policemen and Judges makes the job so attractive that losing it would
be bad news.

2) Percentage Payable Incentive: Make a percentage payable to any
concerned parastatal for every project completed within time and
budget. Money would be shared to everyone in that department. This
prevents giving jobs to wrong contractors for monetary gains.

3) Judges Incentive : Give Judges an incentive for every case that is
settled within an alloted time. Bonus is given to encourage integrity
and workforce diligence.

4) Jail Term : mandatory 5 years imprisonment should be compulsory
for any corrupt worker (apart from confiscating properties and
earnings) as there should be no plea bargaining in our case today.

5) Make Integrity Meritable : We have decayed to this state due to
lack of this as mediocrity begets mediocrity. Reward those who have
served with their heads high and punish those who are found wanting.

6) Rejuvenate Education through Incentives : When a child passes well
through school,He should be rewarded as well. For those who do not
pass,another exam should be given to them as well as motivational
talks.

7) Make Election Appealing : If politics became everybody’s business
in Nigeria and the world,corruption would reduce. Politicians would less likely be
corrupt if their election funding is majorly taken care of by the
populace. They would think of better projects to win election not
money changing hands.

8) Strengthen the Criminal Laws : Long jail terms,disbandment and
banishment from entering any political office should serve as a
deterrent for anyone veering into the dastardly act.

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Invest in Your Husband

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

It's very important to understand where your husband needs your support.

  Our children and I once watched a new shopping center go up near our home. Initially, progress was rapid; the lot was cleared and the concrete pads were poured in one week. Then the walls went up, quickly followed by the framing for the roof.

But one day, we turned the corner and slowed our van in disbelief. The entire structure had collapsed! The wooden roof trusses lay flat in neat rows, surrounded by the remains of the crumbled brick walls. It appeared that there had been an explosion.

Puzzled, we asked what had happened and learned that the carpenters had failed to secure and brace the new structure properly. The building's roof, held in place by only two boards, had collapsed under the weight of two carpenters.
As I reflected with amazement on the need for support in the building's structure, I saw a parallel in marriage. The roof is like my husband's self-esteem.
Ephesians 5:23 teaches that the husband is "the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church." When we first married, I committed to being under the roof of Dennis' protection. He had all the structural basics, but he was brand-new at being my protector. Like that roof, he appeared to be solidly in place, but he needed me to help secure him—to brace him by believing in him.
Fortunately, I did come alongside him. Through the years, the weight of life's pressures has sometimes shaken him, but he has remained solidly over me as my roof, my protector. Today, although still not perfectly secure, my husband's structural integrity is much more stable. He tells me that I have had a major part in helping him to feel more sure of himself as a man and as a husband.
Likewise, you can strengthen your husband's self-esteem. But first you must recognize where he needs bolstering. Many women today are so caught up in finding their own identity that they, like the carpenters who were building the shopping center, make assumptions about their husband's self-confidence and security. Your spouse may be fully-grown on the outside, but inside he undoubtedly feels some insecurity. He's not so sure how to be a man in this world where women have growing independence and society is changing the traditional rules of relationships.
Seek to understand
The book of Proverbs is probably my favorite in the Bible because it contains such practical wisdom about everyday life. One of its main themes is the value of developing understanding. Consider each of these verses on understanding:

• Incline your heart to understanding (2:2).
• Understanding will watch over you (2:11).
• Call understanding your intimate friend (7:4).
• A man [or woman] of understanding walks straight (15:21).
• Understanding is a fountain of life to one who has it (16:22).

At a Weekend to Remember® marriage getaway, I talked to more than a dozen women who were experiencing problems in their marriages. One woman resented her husband's schedule. Another disagreed with her husband regarding how to discipline their children. A third was a young woman whose spouse was jealous of the time she spent with her sister.
My advice to these women was basically the same: Seek to understand why your husband is feeling or acting this way. Focus on him, not on the negative circumstances and how you are affected. Are his actions communicating some deep needs for affirmation, commitment, or loyalty?
Also, give him your complete acceptance, even if you don't totally understand him. It may be necessary to ask God to help you accept your husband, for it may not be easy to live with your situation.
Why is acceptance so important to a man? Because without it, he will feel that you are pressuring him to become something he's not. With it, he will sense that you love him for who he is today and not for what you hope he will become.
1. Understand his need for work. One area of struggle for many wives is her husband's job and the pressures it imposes on him and everyone around him.
Man was given the responsibility by God to toil, sweat, and gain from the labor of his hands. His work gives him a sense of significance and importance in the world as he sees his efforts affecting life for good in the present and the future.
But this drive for significance sometimes pushes a man to extremes. In his effort to gain a sense of well-being and significance, he often becomes enslaved to his job. Attempting to gain importance through wealth or position, he makes his work his god. For hundreds of years, men have confused their net worth with their self-worth.
On the other hand, a man who is out of work lacks true self-respect. In this age of workaholism, losing a job is a traumatic blow to a man's esteem. It strikes at the core of his dignity. A man who doesn't work can't enjoy the satisfaction of a solid day's productivity.
Your husband needs you to help him keep these two extremes in balance. He needs you to praise him for his work, but not to push him to gain too much too quickly. When a man loses or quits his job, his self-esteem can sink. During these times, he needs you to stand beside him and encourage his efforts at finding employment. Men need to work.
2. Understand his sexual needs. Another sphere in which we wives, for the most part, do not really understand our husbands is in how his self-image is vitally linked to his sexuality. Sometimes we women judge our husbands' sexual needs by our own.
Many wives express that they are offended because their husbands are such sexual creatures. This attitude communicates rejection to a man. To ignore his sexual needs, to resist his initiation of sex, or merely to tolerate his advances is to tear at the heart of his self-esteem.
Jill Renich points this out in her book, To Have and to Hold. She states that for a man, "Sex is the most meaningful demonstration of love and self-worth. It is a part of his own deepest person."
The truth is, the typical man worries about his sexual performance, his wife's enjoyment, and his ability to satisfy her. He worries about the future and all those tales he has heard about losing his ability to make love. These worries are signs of a low self-confidence. Thus, a man who feels like a failure in the marriage bed will seldom have the deep, abiding self-respect for which he longs.
But, as Jill Renich writes, "To receive him with joy, and to share sexual pleasure, builds into him a sense of being worthy, desirable, and acceptable."
What if, on the other hand, your husband expresses little sexual need? Are you naively content because that means less risk for you? Or are you accepting or even resentful of his indifference without seeking to understand why?
Your husband may lack interest in his sexual relationship with you for one of several reasons:

• He may be too busy. Many workaholics have nothing left over for home.
• He may be burying his sex drive, along with many other emotions. (You or a good Christian counselor need to begin to help him open up.)
• He may be experiencing depression, which takes away other basic drives as well.
• He may be deeply afraid of further rejection if you have in any way communicated rejection in the past.
• Unfortunately, he may be involved with another woman.

Women are generally security-minded, but too often a woman's need for security leads her into a sexual rut. Her husband may not say much, so she assumes that he is satisfied too. But he may not be. Beware of complacency. Be willing to make some personal sacrifices to protect your marriage.
Great sacrifice communicates great love. Freely giving of yourself to your spouse will make you a magnet to him, drawing him home, keeping him safe. The wife who really loves her husband will choose to take risks to please her man.
As you spend time together physically, be sure to reassure your husband verbally of your unconditional acceptance of him, especially if he is insecure in this area. Tell him that you like his body and that his imperfections and mistakes don't matter to you. His confidence will grow if you allow him the freedom to be himself and to be imperfect.
3. Understand his need for respect. Part of God's specific instruction to wives is found in Ephesians 5:33 (ESV): "Let the wife see to it that she respects her husband." In the Amplified Bible, this verse reads, "And let the wife see that she respects and reverences her husband—that she notices him, regards him, honors him, prefers him, venerates and esteems him; and that she defers to him, praises him, and loves and admires him exceedingly."
Why does God focus on this quality of respect? Why didn't He select other positive and necessary traits, such as kindness, sympathy, and forgiveness? Why didn't He emphasize love?
I believe that God, as the designer of men, knew that they would be built up as they are respected by their wives. When a wife respects her husband, he feels it, is supported by it, and is strengthened from it. A man needs respect like a woman needs love.
Your husband wants and needs to make a contribution in life that is worthy of another's respect. He needs to know that you feel he is important. Without your respect, he can't respect himself. You are his mirror. When you express your respect, he feels valuable and esteemed.
Perhaps you are thinking, But I see little, if anything, to respect. Perhaps you are like the young mother I know whose husband drank heavily and spent little time with the children. She had a difficult time viewing him with respect and honor. A deliberate change of focus from his weaknesses to his few strengths enabled her to begin to see her spouse in a positive light. Gaining a better perspective may aid you in esteeming your husband too.
Philippians 4:8 tells us: "Whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on these things." Pay attention to your husband's admirable qualities rather than the negative ones. You can then offer him the respect that will build his self-esteem.
It takes years for him to become a man
Months after that small shopping center near our home collapsed, it was finally completed. The builders made changes and structural modifications. Some were external, obvious to us as we passed by, while others were internal and couldn't be seen.
Your husband, like that shopping center, is still under construction. His self-esteem will take time, modifications, and improvements. Internally, your attitude of acceptance, respect, and adaptation are all essential to his structural integrity. Your external behavior matters, too, because your words and actions can help to construct a secure man.
Remember, it takes years for a man to become a strong husband. Be patient with him. Put aside your high expectations of how a perfect husband would lead his family spiritually, or behave socially, or perform intellectually. Keep your hope in God, not in your man. Then you will not be disappointed.
written by Barbara Rainey
culled from family life

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STAYING PURE IN AN IMPURE WORLD

Blessed are the pure in heart; for they shall see God Matt. 5:8,

We live in a decaying world - a world full of corruptions and impurities. Almost everything around us encourages and promotes unrighteousness, so much that it’s becoming increasingly challenging for Christians to stay pure in thoughts and in acts. Not withstanding the rotten state of this world, the foundation of our God stands sure; His commandment to us is that we must be pure in heart if we must see him or make it to heaven at the end of our journey here on earth.

Christ told us that the only condition to see God and have relationship with him is that our hearts must be pure. The emphasis is on our heart because it is with the heart we connect God. What goes on in our heart therefore is of great importance. If our hearts are polluted and filled with impurities, there’s no way we can maintain a perfect relationship with God, and freedom from sin will be impossible. It is a pure heart that produces a holy life, but, no one can maintain a pure heart unless he or she feeds his or her heart with pure things.


To live pure in this rotten world, we must ensure that our hearts are maintained in pure state at all times. How do we achieve this? Philippians 4:8 provides us with the answer: “Finally, brethren, whatsoever are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good reports: if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things”.
Anything that does not fulfill any of the conditions above has no business filtering into our hearts let alone forming part of our thoughts. What do you think about it?


A lot of believers are finding it extremely difficult to live above sin, they claim they are born again, yet their lives are controlled by sins and old habits. How then do we demonstrate that Christ has set us free from the bondage of sin? Apparently the fault is not God’s, the problem lies with us because our hearts rather than being prepared as the dwelling place of the Almighty God has been consciously or unconsciously made the harbour of bitterness, immorality, deceits, falsehood, pornography, unforgiveness and malice. We are opening our hearts to pollution by listening to dirty things, watching dirty movies, reading suggestive magazines and associating with wayward people. How can we stay pure in this condition?


It is indeed possible to live holy in this rotten world, if it were not possible, Christ would not have commanded us to. The center of our being, the heart must be so aligned with Jesus so that the impurity encircling us does not lodge in us. We must furnish our hearts with the word of God and prayer. We must separate ourselves consciously from the evil of the world to the love of our lord Jesus Christ. We must crucify the flesh with its passion and desires and live in the spirit to be free from the impurities of this world.


Dearly beloved, the lord Jesus Christ is coming for glorious church (believers) not having spots or wrinkle or any such things; but that it should be holy and without blemish (Eph. 5:27). We must work out our own salvation with fear and trembling as instructed by keeping ourselves pure from all pollutions and contaminations of sin and unrighteousness. Remember our God is holy and he is demanding nothing less than holy living from us. May God purify us and keep us rapturable to the end. Amen.

Ezekiel Olukolajo
olukolajoezekieloluseun@yahoo.com

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Invest in Your Wife

The Scriptures are the best, most proven, and most authoritative "Investment Tip Sheet" you'll ever read. Like having a copy today of the Wall Street Journal that will be published 40 years from now, the Bible tells you how to invest in your wife's life today if you want to experience a fabulous return in 40 years. And, by the way, as her stock goes up, you will share in the profits!

Your wife needs your creative energies if she is to become all that God created her to be. To help you in this area, here are some of the best tips I know for giving both of you a rich return on your investment.

 Here are five major tips that can boost you on how to invest in your wife

 Investment 1: Treat her as a fully participating partner.
Today the business world has all kinds of partnerships: silent partners, financial partners, equal partners, controlling partners, minority partners, and more. But in marriage, God intended for us to have only one kind: a fully participating partnership.
The apostle Peter sets forth the concept of mutual partnership as he instructs a man to treat his wife as "a fellow heir of the grace of life." Although her function and role as a woman differs from yours as a man, she has an equal inheritance as a child of God.
When you recognize your wife as a fully participating partner in your life and marriage, you build her esteem. If you exclude her from your life, you devalue her worth as a person and her identity suffers. Without realizing it, you send your wife an unmistakably clear signal that says, "I don't need you. I can live my life without you."
Some husbands believe that the most difficult words to say are: "I love you" or "Will you forgive me?" But the three-word admission that seems the most threatening of all is, "I need you."
A man may fear he will lose his wife's respect if he admits his need, but I've experienced quite the opposite. When I express my absolute need for Barbara, she is so built up and encouraged that she is free to respect me even more. I do not lose my identity as a man by expressing my dependence on her.
You will make your wife a participating partner in your life when you tenderly look her in the eyes and say, "I need you." Why not make this an experiential reality in your marriage by frequently saying:

• "I need you to listen as I talk about what's troubling me. And I need your perspective on my problems and your belief in me as a person."
• "I need you to help me become the man God created me to be."
• "I want you to have total access into my life. I need you to keep me honest in areas of my life in which I could stray from Christ. You may question me or confront me on any issue."
• "You are the person I most trust with my life."
• "I need you for your advice, judgments, and wise counsel on decisions I face, especially at work."
• "I need your prayers for a temptation I am facing."

I want to encourage you to let your wife into the interior of your life. Are you keeping her out of some area of your life? Do you tend to act independently of her in any area, including career or business. She may be more interested than you think. What about financial matters? She most likely will offer a perspective that you need to hear. A difficult office relationship? Her advice might solve the problem.

Investment 2: Protect her.
The apostle Peter also exhorts husbands, "You husbands likewise, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with a weaker vessel, since she is a woman." Peter's emphasis here is on "understanding" because she is a "weaker vessel." Your wife wants a man who understands her and her needs.
Your wife needs to feel safe, secure, and protected. As her husband, it's up to you to provide that security. I was reminded of a woman's need for protection years ago when I attended a conference. During the event, a young woman was raped in her room. Later, when the speaker told the other conferees what had happened, I noticed an interesting phenomenon. Instinctively, and in unison, as though led by an orchestra conductor, nearly every husband in the audience tenderly slid his arm around his wife. Likewise, almost every wife slipped closer into his protective embrace. It was a physical gesture of a woman's need for safekeeping and a man's natural desire to protect his wife.
Certainly, you already protect your wife physically. You wouldn't think of having it any other way. You discourage her going out at night if it is dangerous. You protect her by encouraging her to lock the car when she goes shopping. You talk about what to do if a stranger forces his way into the house. And you provide the kind of security she needs at home for the times you are away. All these statements and actions demonstrate that she indeed is valued and that you care about what happens to her.
But are you protecting her from other muggers in her life, such as:

• Overscheduling, letting her life get out of balance, and becoming driven?
• Others' manipulation of her emotions and time?
• Her own unrealistic goals or expectations, which set her up for failure?
• Her tendency to compare herself with others—where she repeatedly comes up short in her own eyes?
• Burnout at work? At home?
• The children, who would take advantage of her weaknesses that they know so well?
• People who repeatedly discourage her?

Obviously, you can't protect your wife from every pressure, worry, fear, or loss. But you can do your best to anticipate many of these problems before they occur and to establish a solid security system for her protection.

Investment 3: Honor her.
When God established marriage, He knew that one of the greatest components for building worth into another person would be honor. We see this in His command to each husband: "Grant her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life." Webster defines honor as "high regard or great respect given; especially glory, fame; distinction."
Every marriage is susceptible to leaks, and ours is no exception. The world lures my wife with glittery, false promises of fulfillment and true significance. If I fail to honor her and esteem her as a woman of distinction, then I ignore the reality of her need and the deceptive power of the world's promises. It's just a matter of time before she will begin to wear down and look elsewhere for worth.
The following are a few techniques to honor your wife that can give you a competitive edge while also building your wife's self-esteem:
First, honor your wife by learning the art of putting her on a pedestal. If you focus on honoring her and caring for her needs, and on nurturing her as your most valued relationship, then you can truly make a difference in how she feels about herself. Capture your wife's heart by treating her with respect, tenderness, and the highest esteem.
Second, honor your wife by recognizing her accomplishments. Frequently I look into Barbara's eyes and verbally express my wonder at all she does. She wears many hats and is an amazingly hard worker. At other times, I stand back in awe of the woman of character she has become. Her steady walk with God is a constant stream of ministry to me.
Third, honor your wife by speaking to her with respect. Without careful attention, your tongue can become caustic, searing, and accusing. Washington Irving once said, "The tongue is the only tool that gets sharper with use."
If your wife works outside the home, she has some unique needs for honor. She may need the practical honor of a free evening once or twice a week when you volunteer to do it all: Put the children to bed, clean the kitchen, do the laundry, etc.
Fourth, honor your wife by extending common courtesies. You may think that these little amenities were worthwhile only during courtship, but actually they are a great way to demonstrate respect and distinction over the long haul. Common courtesy is at the heart of servanthood; it says, "My life for yours." It bows before another to show esteem and dignity.

Investment 4: Develop her gifts and horizons as a woman.
First, help her grow as a Christian. Your wife is your number one disciple. Do you encourage her spiritual growth? It's the smartest thing you could possibly do. When your wife grows in this area, not only does she triumph at life, but you benefit as well. Help her to grow spiritually by praying regularly for her and with her—at bedtime, in the morning before leaving for work, at mealtimes. It will encourage her.
Interact together over God's Word and its application to your individual lives, as well as to your family. Encourage your wife to employ her spiritual gifts in service to others outside your home if she has time.
Second, develop her talents. Take part in her life by nurturing the development of her dormant talents. Like fruit seeds that never have been planted in fertile soil and watered, your wife's gifts may need your care in order to germinate.
If you already have done this, you know that she responds to this personalized focus. She feels that you value her and are helping her to expand her life and utilize her gifts so that she might be even more productive. Perhaps your wife already has influence. Can you supply additional resources so that she can become even more effective?
Third, help her develop new horizons. Most of us fail to anticipate major change points in the lives of our wives, such as the birth of a child, children's teen years, menopause, and the empty nest. When your children leave home, your wife will suddenly have enormous chunks of time and attention to devote to another worthwhile cause. Are you developing her today so that she will be ready to take some risks later?

Investment 5: Assist in problem solving.
Isn't it interesting that, for most men, work gobbles up most of our most creative problem-solving energies, our best leadership, and our most noble attitudes? Home usually gets the leftovers. One of my friends has on his office desk a plaque that reads, "Save a little for home."
Your wife would benefit if you saved a little more for home too. Start by considering this question: What one problem in your wife's life, if solved, would truly strengthen her? Is there a complete roadblock in the way or just a small boulder? How could you remove it?
Here are some ideas:

• Watch your wife carefully. Observing her life may turn up problems that can be isolated and solved quickly.
• Get the facts. What exactly is the problem? Whose responsibility is it? What is the cause of the problem?
• Discuss your alternatives together. Be sure to find out what your wife really feels is best in the situation. She may be too close to the problem, or she may know what needs to be done and simply need your leadership and backing to take action.
• Go to God in prayer. Ask Him for the wisdom and resources to solve the problem. Be careful of procrastination; make a decision under God's leadership and then help your wife to implement it.
• Evaluate the results. Inspect what happens. Refine the decision and its implementation through thorough analysis of how things are working out.

Does your wife have an area or two in which she consistently fails? Time management? Budgeting? Meal planning? Problem solving at work or at home? You can help. By choosing to develop her in these areas, you encourage her growth so she can better handle the pressure. But you have a choice. Either develop her to handle the responsibilities or come alongside her to help accomplish the tasks.
She needs you to help her become all God created her to be.

culled from www.familylife.com

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YOUR INTERNAL BEAUTY

YOUR INTERNAL BEAUTY- Pst Sam Oluwatoye

FOCUS VERSE:   1 Timothy 2: 9-10      
   In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array; but (which becometh women professing godliness) with good works.

BIBLE READING:  1 Timothy 2: 1-15

Have you discovered that so many people are always concerned about how they look? Well, I think as humans, it is natural to be concerned about our looks because that is what other people use to judge us when they get to meet us for the first time. As a matter of fact, the Bible says that Prophet Samuel was convinced about Eliab being the chosen King by God when he first met him. However, it has also been discovered that this first impression that people have when they see us for the first time based on looks does not last. No matter how appealing you are at first sight, it will take a lot more than physical appearance to sustain a good impression. Apostle Paul was aware of this and that was why he instructed people using the women as a case study to look beyond external beauty but give more preference to internal beauty.

If you are used to women, you would know how important it always is for them to make their hair, use a lot of facial make-up, ensure that they have a color match on their clothes, shoes and bags, organize their walk and arrange their communication. While all this is very good, we are encouraged to ensure that we do not overdo many of these things as what makes for a beautiful life is beyond the external looks but the internal looks also. Apostle Paul in our devotional today encourages that we should be modest in external looks. This is why I would always encourage people to spend a lot more on their personal development than the way they look outside. Some people can do anything just to acquire what they need for external beauty. As a matter of fact, I have seen some wives fight their husbands over fashion and so many other things that do not last. Thank God for my family because we have certain principles that give preference to internal beauty over external beauty. For example, in my home, my wife and I had agreed long ago that we do not buy family arranged costumes ‘’aso ebi’’. This is because we have discovered that most of such clothes become useless after their use and most times, people have to go an extra mile just because they want to purchase those clothes. Well, it may not be the same in your home but the principle should remain the same and that is to give more preference to internal beauty.

The encouragement this morning is to give preference to character which Apostle Paul calls good works. This is what brings about a more lasting impression of people about you. Your character defines you more than anything else. Don’t be the kind of person who is so handsome or beautiful on the outside but wicked on the inside. Let your inner beauty reflect God. Be kind, nice, friendly, warm, exciting, and loving to people. I pray that we shall all reflect the image of the Almighty God in our lives in Jesus name.

The action point you need to take this week is for you to place more priority on a good character than external beauty from now on.

TODAY’S CONFESSION:                           
1. I reflect the nature and the character of God everywhere I go from today in Jesus name.

2. My life is an example to all those who come in contact with me for good in Jesus name.

3. The blessing of the Lord is evident all around me and everything that concerns me from today in Jesus name.

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Femi Otedola crashes kerosene price to N50/litre...calls it Buhari Kerosene

Following the chairman of Forte Oil, Femi Otedola, decision to sell House Hold Kerosene (HHK) at N50/litre, being over 50 per cent reduction of its current pump price, the billionaire oil magnate has effortlessly made a grand entrance into the pantheon of Nigeria's 21st century crusaders.

 He calls it 'Buhari Kerosene' and has ordered that all his fuel stations across the country should henceforth sell HHK at N50/litre in furtherance of his decision to identify with President Buhari's bid to ameliorate the hardships faced by millions of Nigerians daily.

Ten Commandments of Parenting

 
Whether you are considering your parental responsibilities with a new child, or even reaffirming these biblical principles with your older children (It’s never too late!), or even as grandparents toward your grandchildren, the following “ten commandments” from God’s Word are sure to benefit you, your family, and your church.

1.  Pursue Righteousness in Your Marriage
Husbands, you need to show your children how a husband loves his wife, even as Christ loved the church (Ephesians 5:25).  Do they see you giving yourself up for her?  Are they observing how you tenderly and patiently lead her, teach her, and protect her?  Your example in the treatment of your wife will teach volumes about Christ’s love for His beloved bride, the church.
Wives, to your children you need to model biblical submission as you subject yourself to your husband in everything (Ephesians 5:24).  Do your children see how you work out your submission to Christ in respectful submission to your husband?  Your marriage is a living, breathing example of the church’s willing submission to her Head, the Lord Jesus Christ.


2.  Confess Your Sins to One Another
You need to confess, when appropriate, your sins to your family (Proverbs 28:13), and seek their forgiveness when necessary (Matthew 6:14-15; Colossians 3:13).  As you are quick to confess, you are demonstrating true humility and an ultimate desire to be pleasing to God in all your ways (2 Corinthians 5:9).



3.  Pursue Sexual Purity
Be very careful to protect your home from the sexual immorality of the world we live in.  That means you need to abstain from sexual immorality yourself (1 Thessalonians 4:3-8), and otherwise promote sexual purity in your home (Proverbs 5-7).  The pursuit of sexual purity should govern your entertainment choices, season your speech, and guide you when you’re in public or private, especially when you think no one else is looking or listening.  Your own sexual purity will protect you and your children from the heartbreak known well among a depraved generation (Proverbs 5:7-14).


4. Evangelize Your Children and Others
Because of your great love for your children, endeavor to be a consistent witness to them of your own faith, as well as speaking often to them about the nature of their relationship to the Lord.  Live in such a way around your kids that you are fulfilling the spirit of Paul’s command to Timothy: “Do the work of an evangelist” (2 Timothy 4:5).  In addition, as you have opportunity, proclaim the gospel to others with whom you come in contact, thus hopefully instilling in your children the same desire to share this eternal message (1 Corinthians 15:1-4).


5.  Teach Your Children the Word of God
Regularly teach your children God’s Word, both by your life (desiring to be models of Christ-likeness to them; 1 John 2:6) and by your proactive and consistent commitment to family worship.  Especially as fathers (as well as single mothers too), you have the responsibility to impart the truth of Scripture to your children for their great good (Deuteronomy 6:4-9).




6.  Discipline Your Children
When your children need correction (which, when they are young, may seem to be “ever and always”), discipline them with what the Bible calls the “rod of reproof.”  Those parents who truly love their children will desire to do this in a caring, consistent, yet firm manner, attempting to avoid harshness and anger.  Scripture says that when you do so, children will cease their foolishness and become wise (Proverbs 13:24; 19:18; 22:15; 23:13-14).
7.  Watch Your Words Carefully
Words are very powerful tools for good or evil!  They can either build up or tear down.  Speak to your spouse, your children, and others with godly wisdom so that you may edify and encourage (Proverbs 4:24; 6:12; 10:32; 19:1).  Your children are watching you intently, and what you say (including how you say it), will have deep and lastly effects on them.  Train your children not to speak unrighteously (Ephesians 4:29-31).
8.  Show Your Children Your Own Love for God and Man
Love your God with all your heart, mind, soul, and strength, and love your neighbor as yourself (Matthew 22:37-40).  The greatest gift you can give your kids is to show them your all-consuming love for Jesus Christ!  What should flow from this passion is also your love for your neighbors, which certainly includes your immediate family.  Extending beyond this circle of influence is your desire to live a pure and undefiled spiritual life, which is demonstrated by visiting orphans and widows in their distress, and keeping yourself unstained by the world (James 1:27).  Pray that your example of love will have great impact on on your children.
 
9.  Ask God for Grace and Strength in Your Child-Rearing
The Bible commands you to rear your children in the discipline and instruction of the Lord (Ephesians 6:4).  Thus, child-rearing is not an option.  Thus, the remaining question should be: How well are you doing as a parent?  To whatever degree you perceive you are succeeding or failing in the task, and regardless of what will be the initial outcome and ultimate destiny of your children, ask God for much grace and strength to be a parent who glorifies Him.
If you’ll follow these “ten commandments” of parenting, the Lord will sanctify you and bless you.  Furthermore, your life and doctrine can be useful to the Holy Spirit in demonstrating the saving power of the gospel to your children.  The rest we must leave in the hands of a sovereign God.
May God continually remind all of us of our solemn parental task to leave a legacy of godly faithfulness to the succeeding generations.

Culled from http://www.gty.org
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