Generally, favour means goodwill, acceptance and the benefits flowing
from these. It is also used interchangeably with mercy, grace and
kindness. Favour is that which helps man to achieve divine destiny or
expectation with minimum effort. Favour adds flavor to our lives and
mobilizes others to help us in accomplishing our destiny plans and
dreams. When the spirit of favour is upon our lives, it compels men and
spirits to assist us in our destiny pursuits. Favour spares us the
ordeals of unnecessary or needless labour and toiling. Favour makes our
countenance or presence appealing and endearing to prospective helpers.
The spirit of disfavor, on the other hand, makes our presence repulsive
to those who ought to help us. Favour is that which moves others to help
and encourage you.
Without favour, destiny fulfillment will
suffer needless delay or abortion. Every successful bible character has
been favoured in one way or the other. Samuel and Jesus were not only
favoured; they also grew in favour as they advanced from one stage of
destiny fulfillment to the other (Sam 2:26, Luke 2:52). We should both
desire to receive the spirit of favour and to grow in it. We should pray
to enjoy favour from both God and man.
Anchor Scriptures: Ps. 103:1-3; 2 Sam. 5:11-12; I Kgs. 5; Esth. 2:15-17; Dan. 6:1-4.
Prayer Guide:
1. Father, forgive my sins and give me grace to live a life that attracts your favour.
2. By the blood of Jesus, I receive cleansing from every deposit of rejection through sin.
3. In the name of Jesus, I break the power of evil magnetism and negative aura.
4. I release myself from every association that is ministering disfavor into my life.
5. I reject and repent from any lifestyle that makes me to stink in the nostrils of God.
6. Lord, baptize me with the spirit of grace and supplication and favour.
7. I reject the spirit of rejection, disfavor and hatred in Jesus name.
8. You seed of generational rejection and disfavor, die in my life in Jesus name.
9. Lord, perfume my life with your oil of favour.
10. Thou favour of God upon my life, begin to displace people for my sake.
11. Favour of God, create strategic vacancies for me.
12. You foundational spirit of hatred and rejection in my life, die right now in Jesus name.
13. Every seed of witchcraft in my life; die by fire.
14. I command every representation and mark of rejection in my life to burn and perish.
15. Every seed of rejection, hatred and failure in my life, I
command you to be consumed. by the fire of God in the name of Jesus.
16. Every curse, spell, jinx, and enchantment of disfavour in my
life, whether acquired, inherited, ancestral or environmental, be
destroy from my foundation in Jesus mighty name.
17. Every spirit
servicing and enforcing disfavour, rejection and hatred in my life: be
bound and liquidated by God’s fire in Jesus name.
18. Let the fire and thunder of God visit my foundations on both maternal and paternal sides.
19. All you invisible marks and labels of rejection and disfavour on
any part of my body, be blotted out by the blood of Jesus.
20.
Father, from henceforth, turn my disgrace into grace, my shame to fame,
my labour to favour, my story to glory, my pressure to pleasure and my
pain to gain in Jesus name.
21. Every area of my life that I have lost to failure, I command to be restored in Jesus name.
22. You spirits of rejection and hatred, loose your grip over my life in the name of Jesus.
23. It is written of me that because I meditate in God's Word and
seek to do His will, anything I lay my hands upon shall succeed.
Therefore, I reject the spirit of failure in any area of my life. I am a
success in life, ¬in my profession, in my career, in my business, and
in my marriage. Others might have failed, but I believe in a God that
cannot fail. I am His child. I am working in partnership with Him.
Because He is on my side, I will not be a failure any more in Jesus
name.
24. I command all my buried goodness, progress and prosperity to begin to resurrect in the mighty name of Jesus.
25. Father, I am a child of love, grace and favour; therefore, I refuse any form of rejection in Jesus name.
26. I break any spell, curse, jinx, and enchantment of failure and rejection in my life right now in Jesus name.
27. Father, perfume my life with the aroma of Christ, so that from
now on good and helpful people will be attracted to me in Jesus name.
28. Holy Spirit, I enter into Your divine favour today. Let the oil
of Your favour begin to flow upon me. Everywhere I turn, let the doors
be opened to me. Whatever I lay my hands upon, let them succeed¬ in the
name of the Lord Jesus.
29. Father from now on, make it impossible for anybody to say no to my sincere requests in Jesus name.
30. Father, give everyone on any panel or committee that will
decide my case or cause a special favour and liking for me in Jesus
name.
31. Lord, please, always plant your Gamaliel (Acts 5:33¬-40) in any committee or panel that will determine my fate.
32. I come against you spirit of rejection. Get out of my life in
the name of Jesus. I am accepted in the beloved. I am accepted in
Christ. God loves me. He thinks about me. He has a plan for my life; and
that plan He will be fulfilled in Jesus name.
33. I reject and dismiss the spirits of shame and mockery.
34. Father, put your favour and flavor in my voice, looks, appearance, and the works of my hands.
35. Father, relocate me from the place of disfavor to my place of favour and destiny.
36. I shall not be an abandoned project in Jesus name.
37. My destiny shall not be diverted in Jesus name.
38. In Jesus name, you spirit of disfavour and rejection, I break your power over my life.
39. Lord, create strategic opportunity for my uplifting in life.
40. I shall never miss my timing, season and chances in Jesus name.
41. Lord, raise for me godly destiny supervisors.
42. Helpers of my destiny arise.
43. I break by fire every curse, spell and covenant of disfavor in Jesus name.
44. Like Daniel and Esther of old, Father, clothe me with the spirit of preference in Jesus mighty name.
45. Everywhere I go, the favour of God will make me an irresistible attraction and acceptance.
46. Uncommon favour of God shall attend unto all my requests, applications and prayers and appearances in Jesus name.
47. Where others have been rejected, I shall be accepted, where
they’ve been abused and condemned, I shall be praised and commended,
where they’ve failed, I shall succeed, and where they’ve been tolerated,
I shall be celebrated because of God’s aroma of favour on me.
48. My destiny shall not be wasted in Jesus name.
49. Wind of destiny; blow me to the correct location for my allocation in life.
50. Thou divine wind that blow Joseph, Esther and Daniel to their correct destinies, blow over me in Jesus name.
51. O thou God of grace and mercy, intervene in my destiny in Jesus name.
52. Dear Holy Spirit, please always give me spiritual network in prayers.
53. My prayer requests will not go into the heavenly voice mail in Jesus name.
54. Thank you father for your quick answers to my prayers; I receive by faith in Jesus’ name.
Written by Dr Moses Aransiola
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ENOUGH IS ENOUGH:MY JERICHO MUST FALL
Zech
4:6: Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the
LORD unto Zerubababel thou shalt become a plain: and he shall bring
forth the headstone thereof with shoutings, crying, Grace, grace unto
it.
- Sing songs of praises unto God for how far He has helped you in the journey of your life.
- Begin to cover yourself, household and properties with the blood of Jesus.
- Every spirit of limitation against my breakthroughs, die, in the name of Jesus.
- Every power of demotion targeted against my destiny, die, in the name of Jesus.
- Every spirit, power and personality working against my elevation, die, in the name of Jesus.
- I receive to carry the evil-left over of my family, in the name of Jesus.
- Every evil standing order against my destiny, die, in the name of Jesus.
- Every ancestral curse working against my destiny, die, in the name of Jesus.
- O God arise and begin to disgrace all my Goliaths, in the name of Jesus.
- Let my Pharaoh die in his own Red Sea, in the name of Jesus.
- I fire back every arrow of spiritual demotion, in the name of Jesus.
- I fire back every arrow of physical demotion, in the name of Jesus.
- I fire back every arrow of financial demotion, in the name of Jesus.
- I fire back every arrow of marital demotion, in the name of Jesus.
- O Lord, begin to laugh my enemies to scorn.
- Every power preventing me from enjoying the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living, die, in the name of Jesus.
- Let God be God in my life, in the name of Jesus.
- Let God be over my battles, in the name of Jesus.
- Oh God arise and fight for me in my dreams, in the name of Jesus.
- In the presence of those who think I'm nobody, Oh God arise, and make me somebody, in the name of Jesus.
- In the presence of those who are asking for my God, oh God arise and manifest Yourself, in the name of Jesus.
- Oh Lord, make my life a bethel, in the name of Jesus.
- Every pattern of poverty will not prosper in my life, in the name of Jesus.
- Let the rivers of breakthroughs flow into my life, in the name of Jesus.
- Poverty, you will not locate my life, in the name of Jesus.
- Angels of blessing, what are you waiting for, locate me now, in the name of Jesus.
- I pull down every altar of serpent in my life, in the name of Jesus.
- Oh Lord, arise and destroy every spiritual marriage prepared for my life, in the name of Jesus.
- I shall not be a victim of spiritual marriage, in the mighty name of Jesus.
- Oh Lord, destroy the plans of spiritual marriage against my life, in the name of Jesus.
- You spirit of death and hell, I am not your candidate, in the name of Jesus.
- Tragedy, you shall not locate me, in the name of Jesus
- I reject death, I claim abundant life, in the name of Jesus.
- Every power, planning to wage war against my divine vision, what are you waiting for, die in the name of Jesus.
- Every power, that refuses to let me go, what are you waiting for die, in the name of Jesus.
- My life, move from minimum to maximum, in the name of Jesus.
- Whether the enemy likes it or not, I shall not serve my enemies, in the name of Jesus.
- My sun shall shine, in the name of Jesus.
- Every cloud of confusion, covering my divine goal, clear, in the name of Jesus.
- My divine goal, locate me by fire, in the name of Jesus.
- Every generational curse affecting my divine goal, break by the blood of Jesus.
- Every evil meeting summoned against my goal, I scatter you by fire, in the name of Jesus.
- Every power caging my divine goal, fall down and die, in the name of Jesus.
- Anointing to excel, fall upon me now, in the name of Jesus.
- As from now on, I shall prevail against the enemies of my breakthroughs, in the name of Jesus.
- Finger of God, write my name in the book of success, in the name of Jesus.
- Every enemy of my destiny, die, in the name of Jesus.
- Every enemy of my marriage, die, in the name of Jesus.
- Every enemy of God for my breakthroughs, die, in the name of Jesus.
- Begin to thank God.
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6 Tips to Avoid Temptation
God does not promise that we will never be tempted, but that when we are, He will provide a way of escape. However, there are things that we can do as a Christian to avoid unnecessary temptation. Many times temptation can be completely avoided by following these simple tips:
Pray
In the model prayer that Jesus gave to his disciples in Matthew 6, He taught them to ask God to lead them away from temptation (Matthew 6:13). A daily relationship with God in prayer is a first step to avoiding temptation.
Use the Word of God
There are many good verses that will help you overcome certain temptations.memorizing bible passages targeted to combat your areas of temptation will be a protection and defense. 2 Corinthians 10:4 and 5 talk about pulling down things that get a stronghold in our life.
You need to work on memorizing a list of Bible verses that will help you avoid temptation. You cannot rely on finding a Bible at the moment of temptation. These verses have to become second nature to you.
Spend time in God’s word daily. Make it a habit. By knowing you will be confronted by the Bible in your reading tomorrow it can help you stay focused on God today.
Understand Your Personal Weaknesses
Not everyone is tempted in the same way. What is a struggle for one person may not be the least bit tempting to another person. For example one person may be tempted with smoking. For the next guy, smoking has never had a foothold on the person and therefore is not at all tempting.
James 1:14 says that we are drawn away with our own lusts. This indicates that each person has their own week areas to deal with. You need to understand your own weakness so that you will know how to combat and avoid it.
Flee Temptation
God has promised to make a way to escape temptation. If you will look for the escape route then you can flee the temptation. Many times this way of escape is to literally walk (or run) away. Temptation often comes when you find yourself in certain situations or places. When you recognize one of those situations it is time to pack up your stuff and get out of there. (1 Corinthians 6:18; 10:14; 1 Timothy 6:11; 2 Timothy 2:22)
God has promised to make a way to escape temptation. If you will look for the escape route then you can flee the temptation. Many times this way of escape is to literally walk (or run) away. Temptation often comes when you find yourself in certain situations or places. When you recognize one of those situations it is time to pack up your stuff and get out of there. (1 Corinthians 6:18; 10:14; 1 Timothy 6:11; 2 Timothy 2:22)
Don’t be Discouraged
You should not become complacent about your sin. But you should also not allow it to defeat you. Sin is much more serious than eating too much dessert, but allow me to make an analogy. If you are on a diet and eat an extra cookie that you were not supposed to, does it make sense to quit your diet and eat the rest of the bag? The truth is that one extra cookie is a minor thing compared to how many good choices you made the previous week. It sounds silly to quit a diet because of 100 extra calories. Yet people do it all the time.
Realize that you probably will fall to temptation on occasion, but that is no reason to quit your Christian walk. Don’t accept your sin as if it doesn’t matter, but also realize that you have a choice in your future actions.
Create an Accountability Network
As Christians we have direct access to God. There is no place in the Bible where we are taught that we must confess our sins to others to haveforgiveness from God.However, the Bible does teach that creating accountability with someone else can help you in your struggle against temptation (James 5:16).
You do not need to go into detail with your accountability partner about about your struggles, but they do need to know how to pray for you. Find someone who is a mature Christian. Often your pastor can fill this role, but it can also be a fellow church member. Tell them that you are struggling in a certain area. Look through the Bible together finding verses that will be a help to you. Have your friend ask you occasionally how you were doing in this area. Once a week is usually often enough.
Written by David Peach
David Peach has been in full time missions work with the Deaf since 1994. He has started several deaf ministries in various countries and established a deaf church in Mexico. David now works as Director of Deaf Ministries for his mission board.
You should not become complacent about your sin. But you should also not allow it to defeat you. Sin is much more serious than eating too much dessert, but allow me to make an analogy. If you are on a diet and eat an extra cookie that you were not supposed to, does it make sense to quit your diet and eat the rest of the bag? The truth is that one extra cookie is a minor thing compared to how many good choices you made the previous week. It sounds silly to quit a diet because of 100 extra calories. Yet people do it all the time.
Realize that you probably will fall to temptation on occasion, but that is no reason to quit your Christian walk. Don’t accept your sin as if it doesn’t matter, but also realize that you have a choice in your future actions.
Create an Accountability Network
As Christians we have direct access to God. There is no place in the Bible where we are taught that we must confess our sins to others to haveforgiveness from God.However, the Bible does teach that creating accountability with someone else can help you in your struggle against temptation (James 5:16).
You do not need to go into detail with your accountability partner about about your struggles, but they do need to know how to pray for you. Find someone who is a mature Christian. Often your pastor can fill this role, but it can also be a fellow church member. Tell them that you are struggling in a certain area. Look through the Bible together finding verses that will be a help to you. Have your friend ask you occasionally how you were doing in this area. Once a week is usually often enough.
Written by David Peach
David Peach has been in full time missions work with the Deaf since 1994. He has started several deaf ministries in various countries and established a deaf church in Mexico. David now works as Director of Deaf Ministries for his mission board.
6 Things Sharp-Dressed Men Never Say
Society treats a well-dressed man better than the man who is too lazy to care about his appearance.The change is not just an internal boost to the wearer’s confidence – but also creates a halo effect around you. In essence, creating opportunities that would not exist if you were poorly dressed .As a result – there are certain phrases you will never hear from a sharp-dressed man because they would be unnecessary.
1. “Only shallow people care about how you look.”
This is always the excuse of the man who goes out in grubby pants and a T-shirt, and then complains about his luck with women.
It has a certain allure as an argument, mostly because it lets the ill-dressed man feel not only excused but justified – he’s the mature, intelligent person here!
All those girls who keep passing him up are just shallow and only interested in the surface of things.
Wrong, of course.
Looking sharp isn’t about putting on an illusion. It’s about a mindset
2“Excuse me! I’ve been waiting 30 minutes for a table.”
Want to be ignored? Dress like someone inconsequential.
Now, there are limits here – if you’re going to a really high-class, top-reviewed restaurant at the peak of its popularity, just wearing a decent suit isn’t going to get you in any faster.
Everyone that’s going to a place like that will be wearing a decent suit.
But for the most part, if you dress like someone who has a bit of influence and station in the world, people will be quicker to make sure you’ve been attended to.
3. “Don’t worry, you can trust me.”
Working-class men who provide a service through manual labor, are generally not the targets of fashion advice.
But they still benefit from dressing well.
A construction worker in slacks and a good polo looks like someone you’d hire to build your dream home.
The same guy in a filthy T-shirt and his painter’s pants looks like someone who might cause unexpected delays and overcharge you.
There’s a time and a place for everything. When you’re working hard, dress practically.
But when you’re doing business – hit the shower, comb the hair, and throw on a decent shirt and maybe a blazer.
4. “I’m not a student!”
This is especially a big one for men living in college towns – the sloppier you look, the more likely people are going to think you’re an undergrad.
That’s useful if you’re trying to sneak into a “free admission for current students” concert without paying the cover charge, but the rest of the time – assuming you’re not, in fact, an undergrad – you probably don’t want to be mistaken for one.
Upgrade the jeans to slacks, replace the T-shirt with something collared, and throw a decent belt and shoes on.
Suddenly, no one will ever mistake you for a college student on his way between classes again.
5. “I’m successful.”
If you have to brag about your income, it’s because you’re not dressing as well as you could.
It’s also rude. So don’t do it – just dress nicely, instead.
There are a lot of high-powered professionals out there who expect real respect for their achievements – but who are still wearing off-the-rack suits with no adjustments.
And they don’t look like world-beaters. They look like middle managers at struggling companies.
If you start with high-quality clothing and you get it adjusted to fit, you’ll never have to tell people that you’re making big bucks.
6. “I feel strange looking this sharp. Are people looking at me?”
You can substitute another word for “butt” if you want to. We won’t judge you.
Looking good requires a decent fit. And what do you know – a decent fit also makes your clothing more comfortable to wear!
You even get a circular effect. It’s more comfortable to wear, which means you spend less time fidgeting or tugging unattractively on your crotch, which makes you look even better than the guys in unfitted clothes.
So by taking the time to learn their measurements and get the majority of their clothing adjusted, sharp-dressed men are also sparing themselves the discomfort of cheap, off-the-rack clothing.
1. “Only shallow people care about how you look.”
This is always the excuse of the man who goes out in grubby pants and a T-shirt, and then complains about his luck with women.
It has a certain allure as an argument, mostly because it lets the ill-dressed man feel not only excused but justified – he’s the mature, intelligent person here!
All those girls who keep passing him up are just shallow and only interested in the surface of things.
Wrong, of course.
Looking sharp isn’t about putting on an illusion. It’s about a mindset
2“Excuse me! I’ve been waiting 30 minutes for a table.”
Want to be ignored? Dress like someone inconsequential.
Now, there are limits here – if you’re going to a really high-class, top-reviewed restaurant at the peak of its popularity, just wearing a decent suit isn’t going to get you in any faster.
Everyone that’s going to a place like that will be wearing a decent suit.
But for the most part, if you dress like someone who has a bit of influence and station in the world, people will be quicker to make sure you’ve been attended to.
3. “Don’t worry, you can trust me.”
Working-class men who provide a service through manual labor, are generally not the targets of fashion advice.
But they still benefit from dressing well.
A construction worker in slacks and a good polo looks like someone you’d hire to build your dream home.
The same guy in a filthy T-shirt and his painter’s pants looks like someone who might cause unexpected delays and overcharge you.
There’s a time and a place for everything. When you’re working hard, dress practically.
But when you’re doing business – hit the shower, comb the hair, and throw on a decent shirt and maybe a blazer.
4. “I’m not a student!”
This is especially a big one for men living in college towns – the sloppier you look, the more likely people are going to think you’re an undergrad.
That’s useful if you’re trying to sneak into a “free admission for current students” concert without paying the cover charge, but the rest of the time – assuming you’re not, in fact, an undergrad – you probably don’t want to be mistaken for one.
Upgrade the jeans to slacks, replace the T-shirt with something collared, and throw a decent belt and shoes on.
Suddenly, no one will ever mistake you for a college student on his way between classes again.
5. “I’m successful.”
If you have to brag about your income, it’s because you’re not dressing as well as you could.
It’s also rude. So don’t do it – just dress nicely, instead.
There are a lot of high-powered professionals out there who expect real respect for their achievements – but who are still wearing off-the-rack suits with no adjustments.
And they don’t look like world-beaters. They look like middle managers at struggling companies.
If you start with high-quality clothing and you get it adjusted to fit, you’ll never have to tell people that you’re making big bucks.
6. “I feel strange looking this sharp. Are people looking at me?”
You can substitute another word for “butt” if you want to. We won’t judge you.
Looking good requires a decent fit. And what do you know – a decent fit also makes your clothing more comfortable to wear!
You even get a circular effect. It’s more comfortable to wear, which means you spend less time fidgeting or tugging unattractively on your crotch, which makes you look even better than the guys in unfitted clothes.
So by taking the time to learn their measurements and get the majority of their clothing adjusted, sharp-dressed men are also sparing themselves the discomfort of cheap, off-the-rack clothing.
5 Things You Should Never Say To Your child when Angry
If you’re angry with your child, don’t say a word without first considering the impact it’s going to have on your child. Children sure know how to get on your nerve, but you must control your emotions and get your point across in a rational manner without doing any damage to the emotional development of your children.
Angry on not, stressed out by Nigerian traffic or problems, here are five things a mother or father must not be caught saying to his or her children, no matter how upset she is:
1. You are a mistake!
One of the most deadly sin of parenting is telling your child that his/her birth stole your life away, whether you are a single mother or married mother who had an unwanted pregnancy; don’t transfer your bitterness and resentment to your child. Getting pregnant and having the child is totally your decision so take responsibility for it. No matter what a child has done, don’t ever say he/she is a waste of space or that you should have had an abortion when you had the chance. It is a hurtful thing that no child should hear. It makes them feels like an intruder that disrupted your life and not worthy of love.
2. Why Can’t You Be More Like Your Sister
If you think your child isn’t doing so well, help the child out in a constructive way. Comparing them to others can destroy their self esteem, make them fatally competitive and even damage their relationship with the child you are comparing them to. They could also think that they can only get your approval when they are like someone else and that you don’t love them for who they are. Help your children see the beauty in their own uniqueness by focusing on each individual without using comparisons, when you compare them to others you are indirectly telling them they are not good enough and if they internalize that as a core belief it can lead to undesirable behaviors in the future.
3. Your Father is Good For Nothing
As much as you would want to, you need to bite your tongue on this one. Do not speak negatively about your husband or your children’s father to them. If you are having problems with your spouse talk to an adult don’t put that burden on your children, they are kids and they can’t fully understand complex adult issues. Don’t let them have to worry for you, it will hurt the children and paint negative pictures about relationships to them at any early age. Knowing that their parents are not at peace can also make them fearful and insecured.
As they grow older, they will become much more aware of what is going on, and if your partner really hurt you, they will find out one day anyway. Spare them the headache when they are still young.
4. You should be ashamed of yourself / I am ashamed of you
You can tell your children you are disappointed in their behavior and make them sober for what they have done without shaming them into feeling guilty. There are times when shaming works and produces the behavior we want from a child, but most times it comes along with the feeling of inferiority that can last a life time. The children will carry on the message of “I am wrong,” “I’m not enough,” and “I can never do anything right.”
One act of indiscipline from your children is not enough for you to be ashamed of them or to make them feel ashamed of themselves. We all make mistakes and the important thing is accepting correction, they should never be defined by the mistakes they have made. You don’t even want your children to think you will love them less when they make mistakes.
5. You Are Dumb, You Are So Stupid …
You hurt your child’s feelings every time you use negative words to describe them. Even if the child acts silly often, don’t tag the child as silly. Being called names continuously can leave the child truly believing that he or she is worthless and defective, and they may carry that feeling into adulthood. If you call your child clumsy and stupid every day, what are the chances that the child will stop acting stupid? The child will simply believe he or she can’t be smart like other kids and stop trying to succeed. So if you call your children dumb they are really going to think they are dumb.
Written by Bisi Adewale
Sweetened Drinks may bring Men Heart Failure
People who regularly consume sodas or sweetened fruit drinks may have a higher risk for heart failure, researchers report.
In the study, men who drank two or more servings of sweetened beverages a day had a 23 percent higher risk of suffering heart failure, said an African leading author People who regularly consume sweetened beverages should consider reducing their consumption to lower their risk of heart failure as well as Obesity and type 2 diabeties.
Sweetened drinks have been linked to stroke,diabetes and obesity.Soft drinks have been associated with an increased risk in high blood pressure and serious heart diseases so it makes sense that sweetened beverages might also increase the risk of heart failure, the researchers said.
T he men, aged 45 to 79, were asked to record their average consumption of 96 food and drink items over the preceding year. One serving of a sweetened drink was defined as 200 milliliters, or nearly 7 ounces. The questionnaire made no distinction between drinks sweetened with sugar or artificial sweetner.Fruit juice,coffee and tea was not mentioned.
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