Effective Parenting

Inside every man is a king and a fool / pay attention to our children spend quality time / give time, don’t buy them toys take them out/ spent time with them / involve with them/ love them genuinely / listen to them intangible investment / deliberately teach our children give then a legacy to read / investment is a key to achievement / make every sacrifice possible to ensure our children succeed

Value system (the foundation)

The “background” when constructing a building, the layout plan and the  foundation must be physically powerful   by so doing the main construction will be able to withstand any structure that will be mounted on the groundwork. while growing up I was opportune to have the best and quality education in an environment where future leaders are groomed  my parents were not that rich but we were comfortable, the people I grew up with i.e. friends both at home and in school had what is called discipline, respect for adult, sense of doing thing right, if any of us kids is trying to go the other way round, before you know it one of the kids is reporting to the nearest adult or available person in charge so every kids is always at his or her best, we all have etiquette,  (good manners) even the adult around us have some sense of dignity, people obey traffic rules  so every one know what is right and what is wrong. There is value for life. I believe then each and every home then was trying to protect their names and Family Value. No child does anything just by him or herself, There is a bite of cheek and balance my mum! She is a no nonsense personality as the only boy child in the house, full of energy, vibrant and ready to jump, she (my Mum) did not give me any room to be free, yet as a child I was  stubborn and always in one trouble or the other, what did my mummy do? She had to channel all that energy in me into some useful venture by making me busy at all times

 She makes me to do all the  laundry in the house, cook for my sisters, she teaches me on how to direct my sister to be useful to themselves and in the house, I am not saying my mum is perfect but she is an instructor when it comes to her children upbringing

So parents have a lot to do when its come to effective parenting, having a good sense of value will make a child grow up in the right direction.                

Believe system

Religion is another vital value that is needed to prepare a child for the future Christianity and Islam are the most accepted religion around the world today, whichever one you chose to believe in, research shows that the manuscript the followers of these two religions used talks more about morals and value for life, so parents should take it as point of duty to put their children through the religious values and what the scriptures say about being a good child. The family is an arrangement by God in which children can be lovingly guided towards responsible adulthood, at home children and disciplined thought social etiquette, consequence of good and bad behavioral pattern

Support system 

Some of us are just fortunate to have whatever we want at our disposal Finance, yes finance, some parent are well to do, so they get their kids everything they need, the best in education, fun time during the holidays, feeding, clothing and accommodation are all well and sufficient for the child

However it is not so for other children, in the street, ghettos and  slums in the 70s we have the middle class that is, not poor,  nor rich but comfortable on the average, the children of this class can compete very well and even do better than the rich kids at school, class work, sports and in other life endeavor.

In Today’s world, it is either you are rich or poor, no matter the class we find ourselves let us try to give our children the best in morals, good value for life and education, these are like setting up a deep foundation that will be strong enough to support the child for any circumstance he or she may find him or herself in future.

Sex

a higher percentage of parents believe sex is something only for the adult to discus, but you know what, we just have to talk about it with our children especially the girl child, the boys need to be talked too, but the girl child need to know more about sex early in life, if you do not talk about sex with a girl child one way or the other she will get the information, she may got it form the wrong source or persons. Children are at greater risk of abuse, children are vulnerable are easily become target so parent must educate their children on how to prevent sexual assaults. Some children ask questions about the new development in their body system, the puberty stage e.g

 Menstrual circle,   pubic hair, Brest development into bobs and other development in his or her body, why? Because the child did not know why the body is reacting that way

How to carry themselves in the midst of men

The boy child needs to know why his body is reacting when he is in the midst of girls and when ever his body is reacting, what will he do to control himself.

Written by Olukayode olrikeye