How To Say “No” Without Hurting Your Husband

It was discovered lately that one of the main reasons men become annoyed when their wives turn them down, is not about the rejection itself but about the mode of conveyance.
As a wife, you must know the right way to reject his advances if you must do so for a genuine reason.
Genuine reasons to say “No”
(1) Sickness – If you are sick, let him know even before bed time so that he can prepare his mind that there will be “no show” that night.  As soon as you are healed, resume your duty.
(2) New baby – If you have just been delivered of a baby, sex should be avoided to allow the body to heal. Once you are okay and birth fluid stops coming from your vagina, resume your duty. Never allow motherhood to hinder your marriage.
(3) Menstruation- If both of you are not comfortable with making love during menstruation, then this may be another genuine reason. Immediately your period starts, inform him, maybe jokingly by saying, “Oh boy! Your “visitor has come down here”. He will understand and switch off his mind about sex. Note that sex during menstruation is not bad if it is your agreement.
(4) Tiredness – If you are really tired, notify him. However, EXCUSES THAT YOU ARE TIRED EVERY NIGHT CAN MAKE HIM TIRED OF YOU.
(5) Prayer and fasting – The period of fasting should also be separated and you should avoid sex during this period. This is not because it is sinful to have sex while fasting, rather, it gives you time to focus on your prayers. Note that if you break your fast in the evening, you can still have sex, despite the fact that you have intentions to fast the next day.
(6) Last week of pregnancy – In the last week of pregnancy, most doctors advise couples to stay off sex, so as not to ignite pre-mature contraction. This could be another reason to say no, but note that sex can come from day one of the pregnancy to few weeks to your expected date of delivery (EDD).

Written by Bisi Alimi
Bisi Adewale is a family expert and president of college of marital success, He is an international conference speaker and an author of more than 40 books on marriage and family life, singles, love, sex and purity and intimacy. He is the host of family T.V. program called Family Booster Momments.