Take any red carpet event and you’re bound to see a
celebrity like Bradley Cooper, Jared Leto or Leo DiCaprio strolling along not
with a Hollywood hottie…but with their mother.
There’s nothing wrong with a man being close to his mum – as
Bradley Cooper demonstrates here with his – but some guys are too under the
thumb of their dominant mothers
Many stars are known for close relationships with their
mothers. And if you believe some of the rumours, to unlock their hearts you
first must unlock their mothers’.
To be fair, just because a man’s close to his mother doesn’t
necessarily mean he’s a mummy’s boy. There’s a vast difference between having a
strong mother-son relationship and having a dominating mother he’s in awe of.
The first signals he’s good at relationships. Exercise
caution with the latter, it could be a tug-of-war with her!
Here are seven signs you’ve got a mummy’s boy:
He frequently
mentions his mother
When you two are together, her name comes up even more than
you mention your own mother. We expect women to always be mentioning our mums,
it’s a mother-daughter thing. But a man doing it?
Decisions, decisions…
You two are faced
with a decision and what does he say? He’ll run it past his mother. Probably an
eye-rolling moment for you. You can’t believe a grown man won’t make a decision
without mum’s input.
Spread the news
When he shares good news with you, you soon discover he
shared it with good old mum first. A true mummy’s boy always tells his mother
about anything from a promotion, to a job interview, even getting tickets to
see his favourite band, etc.
Opinions
Let’s say you’re
having a debate about something from politics to the best pizza place in town.
Start questioning his strongly held opinion and you might find he says: my
mother thinks that too.
What a looker
He arrives for a meet-up with a great new haircut or
fantastic new shirt. You compliment him only to hear dear old mum chose it or
suggested it.
Don’t plan on it
You’ve had a special
date planned but he cancels at the last minute because his mum needs him for
something. ‘What’s more important than our special date?’ you think. She is,
what did you think?
He does it her way
You find it quite
annoying the way he arranges the shopping or the peculiar thing he does with
the washing. Question him and it turns out he does it ‘her’ way.
If these sound
familiar you can bet his mother’s the headline act and you’re the support act
in the line-up of his life. But mum’s the word, you can tactfully steer him
into a more balanced relationship with you.
When you feel like
saying oh, no, not your mum again, try these:
*When he mentions his mother to excess, quickly switch the
topic. Keep employing this tactic. His subconscious mind will hopefully pick up
these subtle cues that you don’t like to focus on her.
If his mother is way too involved in his life and always at
the forefront of his mind, as the girlfriend there are little tactics you can
try
*If he suggests ringing his mother to get her
opinion/suggestion on something, sweetly say she’s always got great ideas but
why don’t you try X, Y or Z? By slipping in your own suggestions, over time he
might discuss things with you and not her.
*If he has a job interview or something important looming,
tell him you know he’ll do fantastically. Then in a loving way say how you’d
love it if he rings you first with the news. Don’t actually say how he always
calls his mum first, just make this suggestion.
*Be positive about his mother. You might feel annoyed or
even angry about how close they are. But he’ll dig his heels in and strengthen
his relationship with her if you go in guns blazing.
*Finally, make friends with her – the truest way to his
heart.
Written by Dr Pam Spurr
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