Great Motivational Lies.

                            

One of the reasons I dislike motivational speaking is that those who say they are experts at it have a narrow and sometimes unrealistic view on life.

For instance, motivational speakers tell us that money is what you get for solving problems. Therefore, if you want to make money, be a problem solver. This has turned out to be not entirely true. Contemporary realities paint a different picture.

* What problems does Messi or Ronaldo solve?

* What problems does Davido's 'IF' track solve?

* What problems did Efe of BBN solve?

* What problems does Serena Williams solve?

* What problems do Porn Stars solve?

Yet, these individuals rake in millions/billions of cash in incomes.

Surely, there is something motivational speakers aren't telling us. That Money is not always an exchange for solving problems. Sometimes, FOOLS SIMPLY PART WITH THEIR MONEY TO THE WISE.

The second lie motivational speakers tell us is that only you are responsible for your own happiness. That is, don't let the world or people in it determine your personal happiness. To be honest, I used to find this motivation very alluring and compelling. Not anymore.

A simple social experiment will make my point. Imagine that you manage to always be happy. For some reasons you are always lively and vivacious. That's good, right? Well, not if you are the only happy one.

The truth is that your happiness makes no sense if it doesn't affect others around you. In other words, if you are the only happy soul in the midst of sad souls, you cannot reasonably be happy. You are simply an insensitive soul. Being the only happy person in the room shows lack of empathy. What am I trying to say?

Sometimes, true personal happiness comes when others are happy. Being the only happy person in the world notwithstanding the moods and actions of others is not what humanity should promote. You will always be happy when others around you are relatively happy and melancholic when they are not happy. It's a chain reaction kind of a thing because we are bound together in one common humanity. Personal happiness apart from others is an urban myth.

Sometimes, the easiest way to personal happiness is to help others find happiness.

Let not motivational speakers fool you.

Written by Olakunle Allison