10 KINDS OF PEOPLE YOU MUST NOT MARRY

 

He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favour from the LORD. Proverbs 18: 22. (NKJV)  This means getting a woman or man to marry requires due diligence. You have to look for the right person. This is foundational. You know when the foundation is faulty there  will be cracks on the walls. This does not imply that you must get ‘the right person’ as if when you miss the person you can never find another right person. But is it saying that it is good to marry. Marriage commands favour from God and men

Over twenty years ago, I saw this scripture and believed it and began to confess it in prayer every day. Not long after, I meet a lady and we agreed to marry. At a job interview a week to the wedding, the panel asked if I am married. And I told them it will be by the following week and they said the job could be given to me as a wedding present. That day I got a job to a managerial position in a glass manufacturing company. Marriage commands favour.

However, you must search for the right kind of man or woman to marry. Houses and riches are an inheritance from fathers, but a prudent wife is from the LORD. (Proverbs 19:14 NKJV) This means when you see a prudent man of woman you should realise it.

The following are the kinds of a  person you should not marry:

1.       Don’t marry unbeliever. Do not marry a person who does not have the same belief with you. Can two walk together, unless they are agreed? (Amos 3:3 NKJV) Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness? (2 Corinthians 6:14 NKJV)

2.       Don’t marry a married person. "So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate." (Matthew 19:6 NKJV)

3.       Don’t marry an angry person. Make no friendship with an angry man, And with a furious man do not go, (Proverbs 22:24 NKJV). If a person cannot deal with anger before marriage, the attitude will be worse in marriage. Anger is destructive.

4.       Don’t marry thief. If your spouse is a thief your future is at stake. Watch out!  Zechariah 5:3-4. Some don’t only steal from men; they rob God in tithes and offering. Somebody who is not to paying tithes on his or her income accurately, regularly and promptly is not a good marriage material.

5.       Don’t marry liar Rev 21: 8

6.       Don’t marry a jobless person. That you also aspire to lead a quiet life, to mind your own business, and to work with your own hands, as we commanded you, (1 Thessalonians 4:11 NKJV)  Don't marry an NFA- who has 'No Future Ambition'.

7.       Don’t marry a stingy person

8.       Don’t marry a disobedient person or a fornicator

9.       Don’t marry a fatherless person. Even if his or her father is dead, there must be a person in his or her life that stands in the position of a father. Somebody highly respected.

10.     Don’t marry a stranger. Find out where he or she comes from. Know them and let them know you. Don’t marry a faceless person simply because he or she shows up in church.

Then who should you marry? Marry the person that reflects the opposite of the ten kinds of person stated above. May God lead and help you. Amen
 

 Obi Ayo Loto is the senior pastor of Covenant Worship Centre, Okitipupa, Ondo State, NIGERIA. Contact: tobiayoloto@yahoo.com 08092813152 and 08053277907

CONTROL YOUR ANGER

Anger is a normal, healthy emotion. But managing anger can be a problem for many people who find it difficult to keep their anger under control.
Health issues linked to unresolved anger include high blood pressure, heart attack, depression, anxiety, colds, flu and problems with digestion.
But anger doesn’t have to be a problem. “You can control your anger, and you have a responsibility to do so,” says clinical psychologist Isabel Clarke, a specialist in anger management. “It can feel intimidating, but it can be energizing too.”

How do you control your anger
1. Recognise your anger signs
Your heart beats faster and you breathe more quickly, preparing you for action. You might also notice other signs, such as tension in your shoulders or clenching your fists. "If you notice these signs, get out of the situation if you’ve got a history of losing control.

2. Count to 10
Counting to 10 gives you time to cool down so you can think more clearly and overcome the impulse to lash out.

3. Breathe slowly
Breathe out for longer than you breathe in, and relax as you breathe out. You automatically breathe in more than out when you’re feeling angry, and the trick is to breathe out more than in.This will calm you down effectively and help you think more clearly

STEPS TO TAKE TO SAVE A SINKING NATION

 

THE STEPS  THE YOUTH CAN TAKE TO SAVE A SINKING NATION FROM DYING?

STEP 1: Our brightest and best brains should begin serious preparations NOW by forming alliances with each other. The preparations would involve both NETWORKING with like-minds and men of like-passion, and developing ideologies in line with an overall National Blueprint/Master plan.

STEP 2: Move away from the sidelines of political commentary and analyses into mainstream political work by joining/invading political parties (not for everybody though, but for those whose vocation and calling is in politics).

STEP 3: Set up structures that will influence the ideological direction and major policy decisions in such parties.

CASE VIGNETTE:

In 1943, a group of young men (mostly in their 20s and 30s) who felt the African National Congress (ANC) in South Africa had lost its fire, FREQUENTLY MET TO DISCUSS IDEAS. They felt the ANC as a whole had become the preserve of a tired, unmilitant, privileged African elite more concerned with protecting their own rights than those of the masses. The general consensus was that some action must be taken. A YOUTH LEAGUE would be formed, as a way of lighting fire under the leadership of the ANC. To cut the story short, though their proposal was initially resisted, they succeeded in establishing a YOUTH LEAGUE whose manifesto partly read “…The Congress Youth League must be the BRAINS-TRUST and POWER-STATION of the spirit of African nationalism” (Emphasis mine).

Within a few years, the leaders of the Youth League (including Mandela) became executives in the main ANC!

In conclusion, we need the wisdom of the old, but they must bow to our vigour. It’s time for the New Generation to stop seeing themselves as too young to take up political leadership in this country. We must NOW form alliances, join political parties, and begin to TRANSFORM things from WITHIN. We cannot do it without!