He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favour
from the LORD. Proverbs 18: 22. (NKJV) This means getting a woman or man
to marry requires due diligence. You have to look for the right person. This is
foundational. You know when the foundation is faulty there will be cracks
on the walls. This does not imply that you must get ‘the right person’ as if
when you miss the person you can never find another right person. But is it
saying that it is good to marry. Marriage commands favour from God and men
Over twenty years ago, I saw this scripture and believed it
and began to confess it in prayer every day. Not long after, I meet a lady and
we agreed to marry. At a job interview a week to the wedding, the panel asked
if I am married. And I told them it will be by the following week and they said
the job could be given to me as a wedding present. That day I got a job to a
managerial position in a glass manufacturing company. Marriage commands favour.
However, you must search for the right kind of man or woman
to marry. Houses and riches are an inheritance from fathers, but a prudent wife
is from the LORD. (Proverbs 19:14 NKJV) This means when you see a prudent man
of woman you should realise it.
The following are the kinds of a person you should not
marry:
1. Don’t marry
unbeliever. Do not marry a person who does not have the same belief with you.
Can two walk together, unless they are agreed? (Amos 3:3 NKJV) Do not be
unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has
righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness? (2
Corinthians 6:14 NKJV)
2. Don’t marry a married
person. "So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God
has joined together, let not man separate." (Matthew 19:6 NKJV)
3. Don’t marry an angry
person. Make no friendship with an angry man, And with a furious man do not go,
(Proverbs 22:24 NKJV). If a person cannot deal with anger before marriage, the
attitude will be worse in marriage. Anger is destructive.
4. Don’t marry thief. If
your spouse is a thief your future is at stake. Watch out! Zechariah
5:3-4. Some don’t only steal from men; they rob God in tithes and offering.
Somebody who is not to paying tithes on his or her income accurately, regularly
and promptly is not a good marriage material.
5. Don’t marry liar Rev
21: 8
6. Don’t marry a jobless
person. That you also aspire to lead a quiet life, to mind your own business,
and to work with your own hands, as we commanded you, (1 Thessalonians 4:11
NKJV) Don't marry an NFA- who has 'No Future Ambition'.
7. Don’t marry a stingy
person
8. Don’t marry a
disobedient person or a fornicator
9. Don’t marry a
fatherless person. Even if his or her father is dead, there must be a person in
his or her life that stands in the position of a father. Somebody highly
respected.
10. Don’t marry a stranger. Find out
where he or she comes from. Know them and let them know you. Don’t marry a
faceless person simply because he or she shows up in church.
Then who should you marry? Marry the person that
reflects the opposite of the ten kinds of person stated above. May God lead and
help you. Amen
Obi Ayo Loto is
the senior pastor of Covenant Worship Centre, Okitipupa, Ondo State, NIGERIA.
Contact: tobiayoloto@yahoo.com 08092813152 and 08053277907
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