Marriage is a goal for most of us because we want to share our lives with that special man of our own and raise a family together. Unfortunately not all men want to get married. To tell the truth not all women want it either.
But if you want to get married and are currently in a relationship, the following three types of men are probably wasting your time in your pursuit to become a wife.
1. He moved in with you and has no job, car or anything of his own.
Usually this type of man was momma’ed (I know it’s not a real word) forever and neither knows how, nor has the desire to, become self- sufficient.
This man goes from his momma’s house to his woman’s house as long as she is willing to take care of him.
He’s used to never having to work, clean up, or buy anything for himself. He looks for women who will treat him like a king while he sits on your throne, eating your food, using your water and electricity, and playing video games while you are out working.
If you have to take care of him like a child, he is not going to marry you.
2. He never talks about marriage.
When you bring up the subject, he may go along with you to keep you happy. Ask him to set a date and pay attention to his response.
Does he laugh it off or say “let’s talk about it later” or does he just change the subject?
Also be careful because he may try to distract you with s*x. If he wants to marry you, he will propose and/or start talking about it to you. If he doesn’t talk about it, especially after you have been together for years, he is not going to marry you.
3. He has several children with different women, none of whom he married.
If his claim to fame is the number of kids he has, girl run.
Why would you want to be with someone who’s fathered several children with several women yet parents none of them (this should be obvious if he is sitting around on your couch)? You may even have kids by him, but if he doesn’t talk about marriage during or after your pregnancy/pregnancies, chances are he never will.
If bragging about the number of kids he has is his only conversation, he is not going to marry you.
Don’t think for a minute that you can change a man into being what you want. You shouldn’t even want to because that’s manipulation and you wouldn’t want anyone to do that to you.
If you are not in a relationship now, avoid the types of men mentioned above. It would just waste your time because they don’t want to get married. If you are living with one type of man mentioned above, you need to change the situation. You may need to get your own place or put him out of yours.
The more you prolong it, you run the risk of missing out on the man who is for you. Don’t be afraid to be alone or believe that you don’t deserve to be with someone who wants the same things you do.
Think about what is best for you and act accordingly. Your husband is out there, so don’t miss him by wasting time with someone who has no interest in walking down the aisle.
Written by Bisi Adewale
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