Relationships are so delicate and can break on minor issues
and simple misunderstandings. Once broken, it is a die-hard task to mend the
relationship and get back the same intensity of affection in the relationship.
There can be visible reasons, may be a misunderstanding or communication gap,
at times it can be a mistake of someone else; fragile relationships can break
over any simple cause. The cause for the easy breaks in relationships is that
relationships are mind products, subjective to each person.
Many relationships are not the union of best possible
matches but best available pairs, or when people misconceive the partner so.
Relationships start blindly by peripheral understandings and attraction; it
proceeds through adjustments, forgiveness and understanding; and breakup over
misunderstandings, mistakes or lack of tolerance. Getting back into the
relationship, though difficult, is possible if approached the issues with the
right understanding and mind to change and mend.
Understand the
Reasons Behind Breakup
To resolve any issue, understanding the reasons is
important. Without knowing the root cause, relationship issues cannot be
repaired. It can be a past reason which is now absent or a still persisting
reason. Analyze each stages of the relationship and find out at which point
what has gone wrong. Once the reasons of the break up are realized, the
solution may be easy. Figuring out the element that lead to the breakup helps
the partners to change it and get back into the relationship. Experts say that
the process of figuring out the reasons of breakup can be much effective if
made mutual.
Forgiving is Magical
Once the issues are dug out, the next step is to forgive the
mistakes of both the partners. If you still hold on to the mistake committed by
the partner, then it may cause another breakup in the future. Understand why
the partner committed such a mistake and forgive him/her forever if you wish to
take the relationship a long way further. Your forgiveness may initiate a new
life and new relationship between you two. If the mistake is found to have
committed by you, then be ready to change entirely to not to repeat the action
and let your partner to go away forever, leaving no chance of a reunion.
Renew the Commitment
Once you are back in track, renew the commitment and let
your partner know the new resolutions and decisions. Once you commit to be good
to your partner and also to avoid mistakes, then adhere to the commitments.
Many partners get into commitments and they forget them easily. Consistency of
commitments is very much required to keep the warmth of relationships ever
remaining. It is rightly said that you can never change the past; but possibly
the future. Realize the past mistakes and commit to not repeat them in the
future.
Change Yourself
You may not be able to change the partner as you desire; but
you can very well change yourself. Changing yourself is the better way of
resolving the issues and renewing the problems. The changes may make you appear
more appealing and accepted by the partner. You can also try to implement
certain changes in the partner but if the person is willing, then the only way
is to change yourself to comply with the partner. Changing oneself doesn't mean
being submissive to the partner, but following a better way to be in a more
satisfying relationship.
Communication is the
Keystone
Most of the issues in relationships can be resolved with
right communication with the partner. It is commonly observed that slight
misunderstanding or ignorable mistakes are many a times the cause for several
breakups. Approach the issues in a relationship, positively and try to make
each partners understand the real situation. Communication means conveying the
facts and truth and also offering support, help and forgiveness each other.
Talk with a mind of acceptance. Do not try to defend or resist the arguments of
the partner and accuse each other for all the mistakes. Let the communication
be creative, rather critical.
Compiled by Oluwaseyi Adams
Source:www.prokerala.com
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