Irrespective of the dictums outlined in religious texts and
principles about the importance of marriage; the decision whether to go in for
one or to remain single is essentially personal in nature where the questions
of scriptures or rules of theologians should not come into play. This is
particularly true of the current situation marked by extremes of stress, strain
and struggle; in spite of all its techno savvy benefits.
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With much thrust upon competition and rat race;
a man's common place existence is one of extreme struggle and strain. This in
turn is working havoc on marital and other relationships based on close bonding
and trustfulness. Sometimes the sheer apprehension that things may not work out
fine on home front has compelled people desirous of climbing up the social
order to stay single.
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People with a sharp or obsessive focus on career
and personal growth often prefer staying single rather than bracing up to the
duties and obligations of marriage. Paucity of time and personal inability to
share and care keep them away from relationships and marriage.
Other than social and economic factors, there are people who
preferred singularity over marital status on account of their lack of
commitment. Rather than going for the hassles of serious relationships leading
to marriage or live in stands, certain carefree and happy go lucky individuals
choose to remain single.
*It is true that humans, a part of the civilized society
long for and cherish freedom. But it is equally important to note that there
are ones including both men and women who cherish freedom to the point of
selfishness. It is important or rather imperative that they stay single on
account of their inflexibility and ill adjustability to come around to share
and care for others. So the inability to compromise and need for absolute freedom
from interference or disciplining goad people to stay single.
*Just as inability to share emotionally can be problematic
for some, leading them to the choice of singularity; likewise inability to
share financially can be a possible reason. With over magnified stories of
spouses nagging for money and possession doing the rounds; the choice of better
management of financial prospects keep people specially men away from marriage.
*People staunchly egoistical without the ability to change
or modify often choose to remain single. With their all encompassing ego being
predominantly effective, such folks are unable to come around or modify to the
ways of better halves or partners.
Marriages leading to divorce or relationships leading to
break ups is one of the well trodden phenomenon. With far reaching
repercussions any form of break up or separation can turn out to be
tremendously heart wrenching. If one is not into a relationship of the serious
order, one need not worry or anticipate such a turn of event. Thus fear of
separation or one exposed to too many separations in the formative years of
childhood may give way to fears and mental blocks about marriage.
*In spite of there being too many moral inhibitions about
indulging in sexual activities involving multiplicity of partners, similar
orientation involving different partners is a well established reality. People
beyond the bounds of marriage or serious partnership often take the advantage
of their self inflicted singularity so as to indulge in sexual revelry. Even
married ones may be equally guilty. But the fact that one is single helps one
to feel free.
*Sometimes staying single over a long period of time on
account of some genuine issues of financial concern helps one to pick on the
right partner or soul mate. Religious devotion may also draw an individual into
a life of chastity and celibacy.
Irrespective of your status chosen, there are some basic
issues and principles of the civilized society to abide by. Regardless of the
fact whether one is single or otherwise; we are all expected to maintain the
minimum standards of decency and self control.
Compiled by Samuel Adebowale
Source:www.prokerala.com
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